Help - am i a wrong-un?? | Swinging Heaven

4 Sep 2004

Ok, like some other messages, im new to this. Im married (boo hiss) and love my partner very much, but could just do with a little extra and enjoy meeting new poeple (I love women's company!). Been together 5 years and yearn for some new excitement. Am i an arrse?? haven't done anything yet, but sorely tempted. figure its better to meet up with someone of the like mind and 'get it out of my system' raher than having a full blown affair, with emtions.
Any replys would be appreciated, as far as i can see it, meeting up with someone and satisfying our desires - no one gets hurt and everyones happy. Help please? confused

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4 Sep 2004

I think everyone is going to the SMB or other Parties.
I will have a guess at what the ladies on this site will say . . you will not like it.
The ladies do care about the couple, this is not a "bored husband looking for sex" website. There are other for that. I would join those.
These ladies/couples are genuine swingers, they take both people into consideration. By having sex with them you are effectively living a lie and bringing them into your lie.
There may be some on here that will do what you ask but I doubt it. Join the other sites or talk to your partner and try and save your relationship.
Am I right ladies ? or would you do this behind his wifes back ?
Cheers,
Newswing69

4 Sep 2004

Nail on the head, there, Newswing.
Bestd - talk to your wife. She probably feels the same. I'm thinking she's fed up to the back teeth with you, too. Tell her what you're thinking. Hey, maybe you could become a genuine swinging couple, not just some tosser who wants a fuck outside of marrriage.

4 Sep 2004

You wanna know the answer to your question? Read the threads to 'How do you feel about married men looking for discreet sex'. The opinions are varied. Make up your own mind. You've got to live with YOU for the rest of your life. The choices you make manifest themselves in how you ultimately feel about yourself.

4 Sep 2004

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Thanks Libra

4 Sep 2004

Quote by bestd
Been together 5 years and yearn for some new excitement.

Hate to say this, but if you feel this way after 5 years, how will you feel after 35?
Rather than go behind her back, why not take your partner swinging with you? It could be that she's feeling much the same as you...

4 Sep 2004

Quote by Vix
Nail on the head, there, Newswing.
Bestd - talk to your wife. She probably feels the same. I'm thinking she's fed up to the back teeth with you, too. Tell her what you're thinking. Hey, maybe you could become a genuine swinging couple, not just some tosser who wants a fuck outside of marrriage.

Vix is right, talk to your wife, getting involved in swinging together may be just what you need to put the spark back into your relationship.
Mrs RSAB2 xxx :angel:

4 Sep 2004

you guys are all right. Sorry for getting involved in you 'area' - appologies! Consider myself a seriouisly smacked on the wrists!
Thanks for the advice, you never know - if i pluck up the courage - i may ask my wife!!
Have fun!

4 Sep 2004

Bestd, just a suggestion...
We know how difficult it can be to just suddenly blurt out to your partner that you'd like to try out swinging. Perhaps you could start out with a bit of role-playing. Buy her something naughty to wear and live out a fantasy together that way first. As you relax into this sort of play it becomes easier to discuss your fantasies and desires without embarressment or fear of rejection.
Good luck with which ever path you choose.

4 Sep 2004

Quote by bestd
you guys are all right. Sorry for getting involved in you 'area' - appologies! Consider myself a seriouisly smacked on the wrists!
Thanks for the advice, you never know - if i pluck up the courage - i may ask my wife!!
Have fun!

You have just gone up in all our estimation, mate! Sorry if I sounded harsh, before - but I meant every word.
All the best in whatever you decide to do.

4 Sep 2004

not at all, thats the reason i asked you guys for you valued opinion.
Didnt want to seem like a complet wa*ker
Thanks for the advice - much appreciated - from all sources

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