Help - trying to find feet in swinging scene

18 Aug 2006

:confused: We are trying to get ito the swinging scene, after having been in the BDSM scene redface

about a year ago and trying to find the right way about it. Can any one advise as we are trying to find the right couple / club / party etc in which we wouldn't feel pressured. surprised

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19 Aug 2006

Hi both and welcome wave

You could post in the Lets Meet Up forums, stick around the Cafe and get to know us mad lot, check out the socials and munches being arranged around the country or even dip your toes into the chatrooms and photo ads. Whatever you decide to do, you shouldn't feel pressured into anything.
You'll find that a lot of people use the Cafe and chatrooms more for the social aspect than to hook up. It's always a good idea to meet people socially first then arrange for a more intimate evening/night at a later date. You can go at your own pace, meet when you're ready and enjoy yourselves !
Good luck ! :thumbup:

19 Aug 2006

Yeah, what she said.
H.x

19 Aug 2006

Quote by H-x
Yeah, what she said.
H.x

But I agree too!
Welcome to you both - I hope you find what you're seeking.
KM
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19 Aug 2006

Hi guys and welcome,
We can only answer your question from our experience, which works for us, and that is to write a fairly comprehensive and accurate profile, but most importantly an honest one, showing something of your peronality. Write it as though if you had read it as someone elses, you would be gagging to meet them! Also of course, read the ads, there are bound to be a few that grab your attention with an 'X' factor, then write a personal and honest reply and hope for the best!
As for pressure, you just walk away from it, most genuine people are looking for 'go with the flow' FUN, so are pretty laid back , don't rush into anything, the perfect couple are out there, somewhere!
Of course, all the other advice so far given is spot on too, just thought we would put in our tuppence worth.
Sincerest best wishes,
V and M xx

19 Aug 2006

:welcome: to the nuthouse!
However- give up now. One look through the ad pages and you'll see that everyone is trying to find feet in the swinging scene.
Or at the very least 11.5 inches.
:giggle: