HELP !!!! Daughter is moving back home

3 Jul 2005

For some time now, we have become accustomed to only having our youngest at home. This has suited us very well smile

, after all, he is 18 and often spends weekends with his friends :). This has given us the freedom of our house lol

and we could come and go when we pleased, have the odd party, invite people roundâ€¦â€¦.
But !!!!!!
Catastrophe !!!!!
Our daughter has split up with her boyfriend, and, horror of horrors, wants to move back home evil

Now, OK, we love her to bits, and we want to help her where we can. But this is going to cramp our style just a little :shock:. And it also means that one of our spare rooms is no longer a spare room mad

. And she did say that she would be monitoring the times that we return when we go out :evil:. And we really don't know where she gets that from redface

.
HELP !!!
Stuart & Tanina hump

xxx

3 Jul 2005

Quote by Sexysteph
Change the Locks pmsl
steph

Or move house quick!! :twisted:

3 Jul 2005

Sorry, can't sympathise.
I'm one of those mom's doing all I can to stop him from moving out /

3 Jul 2005

tell her house rule is bed times 9pm then she not know what time u come home lol

3 Jul 2005

Make the house rules so stringent...... she won't want to stay.....
i.e. Bed and lights out by 9pm
No boyfriends round
She has to cook and clean on a rota basis
She must do all her own washing and ironing
Anything else you can think of............. lol
equi-princess xxx

3 Jul 2005

Quote by Stuart_Tanina
For some time now, we have become accustomed to only having our youngest at home. This has suited us very well , after all, he is 18 and often spends weekends with his friends :). This has given us the freedom of our house and we could come and go when we pleased, have the odd party, invite people roundâ€¦â€¦.
But !!!!!!
Catastrophe !!!!!
Our daughter has split up with her boyfriend, and, horror of horrors, wants to move back home
Now, OK, we love her to bits, and we want to help her where we can. But this is going to cramp our style just a little :shock:. And it also means that one of our spare rooms is no longer a spare room . And she did say that she would be monitoring the times that we return when we go out :evil:. And we really don't know where she gets that from .
HELP !!!

arrrrrrr what....that's gutting....I feel for you, although I was in th'same position as your daughter once n th'same thing happened to me...th'Ex was a complete arse n I really needed the support of my family for a bit...I couldn't cope after a while coz I'd lived on my own for some time n was well independent...was out within 6months with a very good of mine...n I've had the best time since...
my parents to my knowledge weren't into any naughtiness god bless but I appreciate what your goin through....as well as your daughter...
Good luck n I hope everything works out for you...
Hotttie xxx

3 Jul 2005

poor you just when you thought you were getting some freedom.
Sit her down and tell her you love her very much and if she wants she can come home for a few weeks while she picks herself up and dusts herself down, BUT she is grown up now and has to learn to stand on her own two feet. That you both have a life and it isn't fair on anyone for her to expect you both to give up your space.
Ask her how she would feel if you split up and wanted to camp down with her and the boyfriend.
Tell her is she wants to move back in she will have to live by the rules of her childhood, helping round the house, punishments (grounding for disobedience), curfews etc.
Be firm but loving and supportive and hopefully things will work out.
kaz xx

3 Jul 2005

Quote by kazswallows
poor you just when you thought you were getting some freedom.
Sit her down and tell her you love her very much and if she wants she can come home for a few weeks while she picks herself up and dusts herself down, BUT she is grown up now and has to learn to stand on her own two feet. That you both have a life and it isn't fair on anyone for her to expect you both to give up your space.
Ask her how she would feel if you split up and wanted to camp down with her and the boyfriend.
Tell her is she wants to move back in she will have to live by the rules of her childhood, helping round the house, punishments (grounding for disobedience), curfews etc.
Be firm but loving and supportive and hopefully things will work out.
kaz xx

ohh come on be honest all jokes aside wouldn't any of us give up our lifes for a while to help our children?

3 Jul 2005

Quote by naughtynymphos1
poor you just when you thought you were getting some freedom.
Sit her down and tell her you love her very much and if she wants she can come home for a few weeks while she picks herself up and dusts herself down, BUT she is grown up now and has to learn to stand on her own two feet. That you both have a life and it isn't fair on anyone for her to expect you both to give up your space.
Ask her how she would feel if you split up and wanted to camp down with her and the boyfriend.
Tell her is she wants to move back in she will have to live by the rules of her childhood, helping round the house, punishments (grounding for disobedience), curfews etc.
Be firm but loving and supportive and hopefully things will work out.
kaz xx

ohh come on be honest all jokes aside wouldn't any of us give up our lifes for a while to help our children?
of course we would, i would lay my life down for my kiddies and my home will always be open to them.
But hopefully i will have given them enough confidence and strength in themselves over the years to be able to deal with knocks in life without having to come home.
I didnt mean my post in anyway disrespectful to stuart and tanina or any other parent, i'm sorry if it came out that way.
Yes if my child wanted to come home for a few weeks while they sorted their life out, that would be fine, but hopefully once they have done that they would be able to move on and be a stronger person for it. smile

3 Jul 2005

I say you should let her back in with open arms for any number of reasons, but the best one is simply this:
because when you're 80 years old and wet the bed on a regular basis and can't remember where you left your teeth or your colostomy bag, you'll want to move in with her and THAT's the time to remind her of what you did for her in 2005!!

3 Jul 2005

Quote by kazswallows
poor you just when you thought you were getting some freedom.
Sit her down and tell her you love her very much and if she wants she can come home for a few weeks while she picks herself up and dusts herself down, BUT she is grown up now and has to learn to stand on her own two feet. That you both have a life and it isn't fair on anyone for her to expect you both to give up your space.
Ask her how she would feel if you split up and wanted to camp down with her and the boyfriend.
Tell her is she wants to move back in she will have to live by the rules of her childhood, helping round the house, punishments (grounding for disobedience), curfews etc.
Be firm but loving and supportive and hopefully things will work out.
kaz xx

ohh come on be honest all jokes aside wouldn't any of us give up our lifes for a while to help our children?
of course we would, i would lay my life down for my kiddies and my home will always be open to them.
But hopefully i will have given them enough confidence and strength in themselves over the years to be able to deal with knocks in life without having to come home.
I didnt mean my post in anyway disrespectful to stuart and tanina or any other parent, i'm sorry if it came out that way.
Yes if my child wanted to come home for a few weeks while they sorted their life out, that would be fine, but hopefully once they have done that they would be able to move on and be a stronger person for it. smile

i'd be so lucky mine arn't old enough to go yet never mind come back lol

3 Jul 2005

Quote by naughtynymphos1
i'd be so lucky mine arn't old enough to go yet never mind come back lol

so true 6/7/8 years and counting lol

:lol: :lol:

4 Jul 2005

I've got the answer to this one all sorted here.......
When they are of an age -
I'm moving out! Then they can't come back - see? see? geddit?
wink

Love em dearly but by gum I'm ready to rock :silly:
Cathy x

4 Jul 2005

erm i may get slaped for this one but here goes :stands infront of the fireing squad: did u consider telling ur daughter about the fact u someone times play? dont tell her you are swingers by all means if u dont want to , just say that some times you will need the house to urselfs at the weekend or whatever and be open about it....then again my kids only 3 so i dont really understand what ur going thru yet , i just know what i think im going to do if the situation ever arises for me
or if all else fails , rent a hotel room to play in when u need it and just tell her ur going to see some friends and wont be back smile

after alll if nothing else its ur turn to worry her with ur late nites out :twisted: :twisted:
matt
btw sry if the above offends just my opinion :)

4 Jul 2005

QUICK....... get the bt landline disconnected....

6 Jul 2005

Thanks for all your wise (and comical lol

) words of advice.

Quote by x-man0223
rent a room in somone elses house for her!!!!

Would be more economical going away for each weekend biggrin

.....where shall we go first?

Quote by Sexysteph
Change the Locks pmsl
steph :lol:

Too late..........she's already here :lol:

Quote by GenHertsCpl
Or move house quick!! :twisted:

hmmmmm......... that sounds like a plan......any suggestions?? :lol:

Quote by naughtynymphos1
tell her house rule is bed times 9pm then she not know what time u come home :lol:

We'll try it :D

Quote by equi-princess
Make the house rules so stringent...... she won't want to stay.....
i.e. Bed and lights out by 9pm
No boyfriends round
She has to cook and clean on a rota basis
She must do all her own washing and ironing
Anything else you can think of............. lol

Done !!! :small-print: :D

Quote by Hotttie
Good luck n I hope everything works out for you...

Thanks hun kiss

Quote by kazswallows
punishments (grounding for disobedience), curfews etc.

We must make a note to hide the punishment apparatus :notes:

Quote by In_awe_of_U
when you're 80 years old and wet the bed on a regular basis and can't remember where you left your teeth or your colostomy bag, you'll want to move in with her and THAT's the time to remind her of what you did for her in 2005!!

But if we can't remember where we left our teeth or colostomy bag.......we won't be able to remember where she lives.....and won't remember 2005 :doh:
heaysyandck - consider yourself slapped :lol:

Quote by LilMissGullable
QUICK....... get the bt landline disconnected.... :lol:

Wise words boink

Quote by essexlady
............Actually was welcomed and loved and i know it may cramp ya style but i bet you two lovely people do exactly the same xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Awwwww thanks hun passionkiss

and you're probably right :lol:

Quote by naughtynymphos1
ohh come on be honest all jokes aside wouldn't any of us give up our lifes for a while to help our children?

As you say, joking aside, we would always want the best for our kids.....even if they big enough (and daft enough) to look after themselves. We wouldn't want to see her struggle. And of course she can have her room (for a short while :lol smile

We'll just have to get out and about more ;)
Stuart & Tanina hump

xxx

6 Jul 2005

well you can always come this way :twisted:

6 Jul 2005

Quote by Stuart_Tanina
heaysyandck - consider yourself slapped

ouch ok ill shut up now hehe innocent

:gagged:

6 Jul 2005

Stuart_Tanina,
all is not lost - we were in very much the same situation last year rolleyes

It started off as 'part time' is now very much 'full time' though. There are plenty of benefits (if you look very carefully).
I am not Taxi service any more -she does that
I get my errands run for me when I havn't got the time to do it myself (or I'm just too lazy!)
She's not a bad cook
She's hardly ever here
She has learn't not to ask too many nosey questions wink

but above all - I know she is happy and safe smile

There is also, that she is so used to being independent that she is now talking about leaving again :wink:

6 Jul 2005

Offer her ex-boyfriend Â£5,000 to take her back!!! wink

or.....
But her her own house!!!
or.....
Say to yourselves: "Bollocks, drat and goddamunblast!!!, No more fun for us for approximately three months till she realises she does still love him and moves back anyway thus saving us: Â£5,000 OR the cost of a new house!!"... hehehe .. ain't life simple when ya look at it objectively... lol

6 Jul 2005

enjoy the moment you never know whts around the bend

7 Jul 2005

Quote by Sarah
well you can always come this way :twisted:

People just do not think logically these days, I can't believe anyone has not come up with the most obvious resolution with the least upheaval, your daughter is already in an unsettled frame of mind as she has just moved, so why doesn't she just come to the North Staffs area, I have some spare floor space, but I'd be more than happy to move over in my bed for her, I'd even cook ocassionally.
Chris
Always the matyr.

7 Jul 2005

Dude thats funny !!!!!!!
its simple really ....tell her the truth about your swinging parties and fun then she will stay away in disgust ...............or tell you she does it too ...........you never know the boyfriend and her will get back together am sure of it bet you 10pence !!!
steve
and you can collect it if i'm wrong !!

7 Jul 2005

Quote by WhyTheHellNot!!!!!!
Dude thats funny !!!!!!!
its simple really ....tell her the truth about your swinging parties and fun then she will stay away in disgust ...............or tell you she does it too ...........you never know the boyfriend and her will get back together am sure of it bet you 10pence !!!
steve
and you can collect it if i'm wrong !!

shhhh i allready surgested that and got a slap run away now ;)