Hi
I am a genuine, attractive, slim, tall, male. I have been on swinging heaven for a while now. I am obviously doing something wrong and would like advice on what it is.
When I have posted ads I get no response, and on the 3 occassions couples have replied I don't get a second reply. They just drop off the face of the web.
When I reply to a web I get either;
1 no repsonse (the most common)
2 they don't open the mail (the second most common)
3 they contact me saying great let's do it, and then drop off the face of the web.
I try not to keep pestering, you mail me I reply I don't send multiple messages untill you do.
I try to be polite.
I have genuine pics to post.
So what am I doing wrong?
Mark xx
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Sex God
Mark, i can only repeat what HLB has already said, you have to make your ad stand out from the rest.
Perhaps a different approach is needed? Why not try the forums, get yourself known on here, put your name down for one of the socials and then take it from there!
Perhaps a different approach is needed? Why not try the forums, get yourself known on here, put your name down for one of the socials and then take it from there!
As a reletivley new single male may I offer my advice for what it is worth the advice off the lovely ladies above is pretty much spot on (as usual) after all it is the likes of them that you are wishing to meet with so follow there advice and you won't go wrong.
As for posting in the forum it allows people to get a pretty good idea of what kind a person you are as in your sense of humour and views amongst other things and whilst everyone is differant in what excactley they are seeking, I think I can be pretty much certain in saying that
people like to get a judge of a person before they meet so what better place to do it than in here.
Also patience plays a big part in it so I should say if you follow the advice given and just give it time i'm sure you will find just the thing you are looking for. :thumbup:
As for posting in the forum it allows people to get a pretty good idea of what kind a person you are as in your sense of humour and views amongst other things and whilst everyone is differant in what excactley they are seeking, I think I can be pretty much certain in saying that
people like to get a judge of a person before they meet so what better place to do it than in here.
Also patience plays a big part in it so I should say if you follow the advice given and just give it time i'm sure you will find just the thing you are looking for. :thumbup:
I understand the issue of supply and demand. I have run a retail business for a number of years.
what I don't understand is the people who contact once but don't have the manners to say sorry changed my mind. Or the couple who said really keen to meet you last Friday and didn't turn up.
Mark xx
what I don't understand is the people who contact once but don't have the manners to say sorry changed my mind. Or the couple who said really keen to meet you last Friday and didn't turn up.
Mark xx
I have also seen some of this phenomena.
Some 'couples' seem quite keen then disappear.
I ask myself,
1. Did they change their mind ?
2. Were they ever really a genuine couple ?
3. Did I piss them off in some way ?
From experience, the genuine couples will always answer, even if it's something like "Sorry, not what we're looking for". The less genuine never reply.
Additionally though, the whole supply / demand thing plays a part - there was a thread somewhere else that demonstrated someone who received 700 replies to an advert, and the time taken to respond to each, so I guess it's always going to be difficult, especially when there are so many males to choose from (and a fair percentage of which are only idiots who won't go through with it), so I will also say the same - Patience !
T.
Some 'couples' seem quite keen then disappear.
I ask myself,
1. Did they change their mind ?
2. Were they ever really a genuine couple ?
3. Did I piss them off in some way ?
From experience, the genuine couples will always answer, even if it's something like "Sorry, not what we're looking for". The less genuine never reply.
Additionally though, the whole supply / demand thing plays a part - there was a thread somewhere else that demonstrated someone who received 700 replies to an advert, and the time taken to respond to each, so I guess it's always going to be difficult, especially when there are so many males to choose from (and a fair percentage of which are only idiots who won't go through with it), so I will also say the same - Patience !
T.
Sex God
Write yourself an advert. If you are actively seeking someone to swing with this might help your chances a little more than pictures and statistics of the profiles 
Orgasminator
Quote by alex111
Being a new comer here not too up on these matters, but I have heard a cock pick seems to get people talking about you .............
Sometimes a 'cock shot' will bring peals of laughter as well, especially if you have advertised 9" but can't produce more than 4" when it really matters.
When advertising for a sexual partner, be honest, downloading a picture of someone elses 'cock' and then pretending it's yours, will do you no favours at all. Perhaps it's better to say I'm 4" when soft, how big can you make it?
Harry0
I have to go with most of what harry0 says, laughter is a great way - after all you certainly aren't very appealing if you're a manic depressant ( just my opinion ! )
On the other hand, As nice as sausages are, It's also not the kind of chat up line you could use in a pub when you meet someone. I prefer the honest ' take me or leave me how I am ' approach and a pic of your knob as the main picture just doesn't do it for me - afterall, most men have one anyway so it's no surprise - it's down to what you can do with it in my books.
On the other hand, As nice as sausages are, It's also not the kind of chat up line you could use in a pub when you meet someone. I prefer the honest ' take me or leave me how I am ' approach and a pic of your knob as the main picture just doesn't do it for me - afterall, most men have one anyway so it's no surprise - it's down to what you can do with it in my books.
Having looked at your ad/profile...
1) microscopic pics...not good
2) too many pics of your cock...not good
3) you're married but only give details for yourself, therefore you're probably doing this and don't want your wife to find out...not good
4) pics of you shagging someone else, which may be your wife...not good
Just my 2p worth...
S
1) microscopic pics...not good
2) too many pics of your cock...not good
3) you're married but only give details for yourself, therefore you're probably doing this and don't want your wife to find out...not good
4) pics of you shagging someone else, which may be your wife...not good
Just my 2p worth...
S
Quote by marriedmale
I have also seen some of this phenomena.
Some 'couples' seem quite keen then disappear.
I ask myself,
1. Did they change their mind ?
2. Were they ever really a genuine couple ?
3. Did I piss them off in some way ?
we had this happen to us.....webcammed with a wonderfull cpl...nothing rude! we got on like a house on fire, shared lots of common interests, we were, sorry...are strongly attracted to them and they said the same, we shared two nights on cam which were amazing, even so far as to spend 5 hours on each night just chatting and flirting, they shared the same view as us of making friends first and sex later, seemed like we were made for each other, then nothing...no contact.....this has made us ask the same questions as you marriedmale, the upsetting thing is ...that mrs ninja (sonia) was and still is really gutted and i mean really gutted :cry: , but theres not a lot you can do about it.....we see them pop up on msn from time to time but they either go offline straight away or they set it to busy and dont reply if we say hi.......personally i just hope they are ok and a part of me wonders if they are having pc problems or something along those lines (they had a few pc problems while we were chatting.)....in reality i think for they`re own reasons (which i respect) they just decided no! simple as, i suppose there are all kinds in this world, best advice would be to stick with it and just be a genuine nice guy/cpl, people should see you for what you are eventually.............there is someone for everyone in this life....
sorry about the essay.....think im a bit gutted as well
oooo just had a thourght it might have been there kids who popup from time to time (theres always hope) :lol:
thanks gands and jude constructive criticism is always good.
will try to improve the pics, but as they are self pics it is difficult, but not impossible.
I did have a an ad until last week and removed it whilst I sought your advice, so will look at it again.
keep the advice coming, I am sure others are reading this as well so may help them and the site as a whole
Mark xx
will try to improve the pics, but as they are self pics it is difficult, but not impossible.
I did have a an ad until last week and removed it whilst I sought your advice, so will look at it again.
keep the advice coming, I am sure others are reading this as well so may help them and the site as a whole
Mark xx
