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MY oh my what a debate
when your in a hole stop digging
i think so many good points are raised by so many in this thread
the many suffer through the greed of so few
the church has some blame ...and before anyone starts i am not religous in the slightest
and whilst on the subject of rasism the man in charge of zimbabwe aint been to slow in coming forward against the whites
Africa needs to evolve from what it has become ...thats ALL parties,colours ,creeds and believes
and try to rebuild ,add infostructures ,learn to police itself moral and physically and give a lovely continent a chance....before its too late
Quote by SXBOY
MY oh my what a debate
when your in a hole stop digging
i think so many good points are raised by so many in this thread
the many suffer through the greed of so few
the church has some blame ...and before anyone starts i am not religous in the slightest
and whilst on the subject of rasism the man in charge of zimbabwe aint been to slow in coming forward against the whites
Africa needs to evolve from what it has become ...thats ALL parties,colours ,creeds and believes
and try to rebuild ,add infostructures ,learn to police itself moral and physically and give a lovely continent a chance....before its too late

..I don't think anyone disagrees with what you say Sxboy, but your comments aren't relevant to what was said about 3rd world immigrants being largely responsible for bringing AIDS into the UK...there are racists of all complexions, especially Mugabe, but that doesn't justify anyone else behaving like him.
smile :)
ALSPALS
all i was trying to get across ,racism aside which is in excusable,
that looking at africa as a whole its been let down on all sides
sorry if i did not quiet nail it...
Hi Judy,
Welcome back to the fray! So can I ask you, in light of what I and others have written do you see the influx of immigrants into the UK as being the main cause for concern where the spread of HIV/AIDS is concerned or do you think that the Brit sex tourists are more cause for concern? And is it really all that big a deal anyway (I write this in the context of the nation, not any individual who is affected by HIV/AIDS) in contrast to the numbers killed by other causes and the more easily transmissible dieseases that could also be carried by immigrants, tourists, foreign workers and other such vectors?
H
Quote by JudyTV
It was brought into this country from the third world and those third world people are still bringing it in. Like I already said, It isn't anything to do with the people involved in immigration its the people involved in controlling it. We can up to a point monitor whats going on here but not whats flying in from other heavily infected countries.
People may not like what I have said here but its a fact and its happening every hour. Burst condoms are not the problem, even bareback between long term relationships isn't a problem, the bucket with the big hole in the bottom that we are trying to bail out the water with is the problem. Many have seen this for years but PC and not wanting to start a major alternation row has prevented anyone from doing a great deal about it. The other thing is the cost because it probably wont win votes only save lives. Wake up Britain and stir your pretty arse.
Judy............... .............Always supporting the fight against unsafe sex and a lack of education

But Judy, you laid the blame purely at the feet of 3rd world countries. You made no mention of what you might call a 1st world country such as the U.S.
The above essentially says " the third world is to blame and we must therefore stop them from coming in"
That is what I read from the it is "the people involved controlling it" and "wont win votes" and "wake up Britain and stir your pretty arse"
That is, I believe, a racist viewpoint. Although I do not believe you are a racist, not because of you having slept with people of different races, but because your view is biased.
Quote by JudyTV
I have no desire to enter any kind of fray as you put it, either with you or anyone else. I have never wanted any kind of fray either now or in my life at any time. I leave that to others to start.
I am not entirely sure why you are posing the question at me directly. You will get a better overall view if you declare your own ideas on the question first and then open it up for debate.
fray1 // v.
1 tr. & intr. wear through or become worn, esp. (of woven material) unweave at the edges.
2 intr. (of nerves, temper, etc.) become strained; deteriorate.

I respectfully refer you to my earlier posts many pages back and my explanations regarding this topic. You will find all you need there to answer your question in those posts. If you are looking for other answers to anything else then I do not have any.
Judy

Judy,
My mention of the word 'fray' was an attempt at levity but this conversation has been very much a 'fray' in the second sense of your definition.
I did read your posts carefully and I think if you have read mine you will see that I have already made an effort to offer my views on the problem. In fact you did start the 'fray' as you were well aware - and made it clear in your post - that your ideas were not going to be accepted by everyone but that, in your opinion, they needed to be aired anyway. You were going to get people offering counter opinions, even if they were not as forthright as Jags was, so you have to accept responsibility for some of what has ensued. So I am asking you, since - like it or not - your earlier post has sparked up a controversial argument to clarify what it is you mean.
I am of the opinion that you were not being deliberately racist or xenophobic in your post but at the same time your idea sounds extremely biased and I am asking you to make your position a bit clearer because you may be in possession of information that some of us are not aware of - or maybe you were just offering your opinion in which case some here might be able to offer you some information to make your opinion more informed. I, for one, am more than happy to be able to discuss and debate an issue without becoming personal about it but you have to accept that if I disagree with you it is not because I think you, as a person, are wrong just that I don't accept some of your ideas for reasons I would then specify.
If you are not interested in continuing the debate along reasonable lines then it is pretty clear that you have come back merely to snipe at Jags (deserved or not) but you aren't adding anything to the discussion.
H
Quote by Happy Cats
It was brought into this country from the third world and those third world people are still bringing it in. Like I already said, It isn't anything to do with the people involved in immigration its the people involved in controlling it. We can up to a point monitor whats going on here but not whats flying in from other heavily infected countries.
People may not like what I have said here but its a fact and its happening every hour. Burst condoms are not the problem, even bareback between long term relationships isn't a problem, the bucket with the big hole in the bottom that we are trying to bail out the water with is the problem. Many have seen this for years but PC and not wanting to start a major alternation row has prevented anyone from doing a great deal about it. The other thing is the cost because it probably wont win votes only save lives. Wake up Britain and stir your pretty arse.
Judy............... .............Always supporting the fight against unsafe sex and a lack of education

But Judy, you laid the blame purely at the feet of 3rd world countries. You made no mention of what you might call a 1st world country such as the U.S.
The above essentially says " the third world is to blame and we must therefore stop them from coming in"
That is what I read from the it is "the people involved controlling it" and "wont win votes" and "wake up Britain and stir your pretty arse"
That is, I believe, a racist viewpoint. Although I do not believe you are a racist, not because of you having slept with people of different races, but because your view is biased.
Forgive me if I missed this but where does Judy say " the third world is to blame and we must therefore stop them from coming in" That is the sort of misinterpretation that stirred up this discussion in the first place and is unfounded.
Judy qualifies the point by saying "It isn't anything to do with the people involved in immigration its the people involved in controlling it".
Judy may have been too specific with the blame but basically blamed the people controlling it.
We can all interpret what we want from other people 's posts but when the poster has stated their position many times we should not continually villify them
Quote by longhandle8
It was brought into this country from the third world and those third world people are still bringing it in. Like I already said, It isn't anything to do with the people involved in immigration its the people involved in controlling it. We can up to a point monitor whats going on here but not whats flying in from other heavily infected countries.
People may not like what I have said here but its a fact and its happening every hour. Burst condoms are not the problem, even bareback between long term relationships isn't a problem, the bucket with the big hole in the bottom that we are trying to bail out the water with is the problem. Many have seen this for years but PC and not wanting to start a major alternation row has prevented anyone from doing a great deal about it. The other thing is the cost because it probably wont win votes only save lives. Wake up Britain and stir your pretty arse.
Judy............... .............Always supporting the fight against unsafe sex and a lack of education

But Judy, you laid the blame purely at the feet of 3rd world countries. You made no mention of what you might call a 1st world country such as the U.S.
The above essentially says " the third world is to blame and we must therefore stop them from coming in"
That is what I read from the it is "the people involved controlling it" and "wont win votes" and "wake up Britain and stir your pretty arse"
That is, I believe, a racist viewpoint. Although I do not believe you are a racist, not because of you having slept with people of different races, but because your view is biased.
Forgive me if I missed this but where does Judy say " the third world is to blame and we must therefore stop them from coming in" That is the sort of misinterpretation that stirred up this discussion in the first place and is unfounded.
Judy qualifies the point by saying "It isn't anything to do with the people involved in immigration its the people involved in controlling it".
Judy may have been too specific with the blame but basically blamed the people controlling it.
We can all interpret what we want from other people 's posts but when the poster has stated their position many times we should not continually villify them
Ok, the first the line of the quote from Judys post tells you where he thinks is to blame.
The people who control immigration are our Government, Judy wants our government to do something about it even though it is not a vote winner or PC. He must mean our Government otherwise there would have been no mention of it not being a vote winner. He doesnt actually say that we should stop coming in or just 3rd world immigrants be subjected to screening but I really dont see any other way to interpret it!
If you can, please enlighten me!
Quote by longhandle8
It was brought into this country from the third world and those third world people are still bringing it in. Like I already said, It isn't anything to do with the people involved in immigration its the people involved in controlling it. We can up to a point monitor whats going on here but not whats flying in from other heavily infected countries.
People may not like what I have said here but its a fact and its happening every hour. Burst condoms are not the problem, even bareback between long term relationships isn't a problem, the bucket with the big hole in the bottom that we are trying to bail out the water with is the problem. Many have seen this for years but PC and not wanting to start a major alternation row has prevented anyone from doing a great deal about it. The other thing is the cost because it probably wont win votes only save lives. Wake up Britain and stir your pretty arse.
Judy............... .............Always supporting the fight against unsafe sex and a lack of education

But Judy, you laid the blame purely at the feet of 3rd world countries. You made no mention of what you might call a 1st world country such as the U.S.
The above essentially says " the third world is to blame and we must therefore stop them from coming in"
That is what I read from the it is "the people involved controlling it" and "wont win votes" and "wake up Britain and stir your pretty arse"
That is, I believe, a racist viewpoint. Although I do not believe you are a racist, not because of you having slept with people of different races, but because your view is biased.
Forgive me if I missed this but where does Judy say " the third world is to blame and we must therefore stop them from coming in" That is the sort of misinterpretation that stirred up this discussion in the first place and is unfounded.
Judy qualifies the point by saying "It isn't anything to do with the people involved in immigration its the people involved in controlling it".
Judy may have been too specific with the blame but basically blamed the people controlling it.
We can all interpret what we want from other people 's posts but when the poster has stated their position many times we should not continually villify them
Actually, what Judy says is that the people controlling immigration should be making sure fewer 3rd world carriers of HIV/AIDS should be admitted to the country. Judy is saying that it is the 3rd World immigrants who are the root of the problem. End of story. If that is not what Judy means then, Judy, please tell us what sorts of things you want the immigration authorities to be doing.
Judy is not being continually villified by people asking him to clarify his position. In conversation it is generally the case that one person offers a point, another person offers a counter point and the first person responds, etc. etc.. Judy seems to have effectively stated 'this is my opinion and that is all you are going to get' and does not seem interested in taking part in a conversation. Now after the things that have been said I can't say I blame Judy for feeling this way and didn't expect to see him again in this thread. But as he came back of his own accord I, for one, am offering a polite and friendly opportunity for Judy to discuss some of the other issues raised in this thread and to counter that claims that have been made that he is racist by more credible means than saying 'I have many black/white/green/blue/etc. friends therefore I can't be racist'. If Judy doesn't want to partake in the conversation that is fine but only leads us to draw our own conclusions about the basis for his ideas.
On further reflection, and because of Judy's posts since rejoining this 'fray', I am beginning to think I might have been a bit too harsh on Jags...
this thread could do with being broken down in sub threads
there are many issues to come from this !!
placing of the advertisement
changing the contact to state HIV+
pix of un protected intercourse
* first issue is it a genuine advertisement and has some unlucky bastard just become another statistic
Point 2
religious beliefs and teaching render the condon usuless to 1/2 the worlds population
does the catholic church really want to be a large consideration in the biggest killerof all time
Point 3
Africa has more wars ,civil unrest and coup de tant than the rest of the universe put together ...with lack of stability the continent will struggle to move forward
Point 4
The lovely wonderfull mr Bush has not sorted any of the african leaders out has he !!!
Oil !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Point 5
i am sure that the racism thing is more about phrasology of posts ,than anything more sinister
Point 6
Every one has a vote...someones got to stand up and set out a way forward and then drive it through
wow
Quote by SXBOY
ALSPALS
all i was trying to get across ,racism aside which is in excusable,
that looking at africa as a whole its been let down on all sides
sorry if i did not quiet nail it...

no worries sxboy...guess we're all getting a little over sensitive over semantics on this thread..when can we start talking about shagging again?!!
lol :lol: :lol:
Quote by SXBOY
* first issue is it a genuine advertisement and has some unlucky bastard just become another statistic

Sorry to pick out your quote SXBOY. I don't mean to single you out for derision. I picked it because you're the last person to make this statement so it makes it the easiest one to quote (not called easy for nothing. wink lol )
Why has everyone assumed that the guy a) doesn't know that she is HIV+ and b) assume that he himself isn't HIV+?
As for the other topics that this thread has raised, I'm :gagged:
Quote by easy
As for the other topics that this thread has raised, I'm :gagged:

There's a reason I have one of those in my siggy Easy. Only problem is the bloody plaster keeps falling off.
Venusxxx
Never mind Venus, it will make someone a lovely second hand quilt. :twisted: bolt
lhk
Kat
OOps! I have genuinely mistakenly deleted Judy's post. I was trying to write a witty, erudite and scathing reply and used the edit button rather than the quote one. For this I apologise - please post it again Judy as the deletion wasin error. It was the one where it was suggested that I'm not credible as a Moderator cos I don't know many people on the site.
My reply is this:
Utter rubbish Judy - how little you know of me! Another rash generalisation. Just because I haven't met YOU doesn't mean I haven't met many/any people. And are you suggesting that because you have met many more than me that you are more credible?? Surely surely not? Not even you could entertain such a nonsensical thought. Lost the plot there Judy. I wasn't aware that attending social events was mandatory for Moderators - must have missed that in the site AUP. Point it out for me, eh??
If you are going to snipe - didn't someone else say that earlier - then do it somewhere else. PM me if you really feel the need to snipe but keep it out of the forum. That was with my Moderators hat on by the way.
Now of course it will hardly make sense... oh, maybe someone has quoted it??
:P
Quote by Jags
OOps! I have genuinely mistakenly deleted Judy's post. I was trying to write a witty, erudite and scathing reply and used the edit button rather than the quote one. For this I apologise - please post it again Judy as the deletion was in error.
My reply can wait, even though it was good!
:shock: :shock:

That reminds me of the time Sarge did similar
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewpost/419902.html#419902
It is easy done Jags, all the buttons look so similar rolleyes
Dawn biggrin
Quote by Dawn_Mids
OOps! I have genuinely mistakenly deleted Judy's post. I was trying to write a witty, erudite and scathing reply and used the edit button rather than the quote one. For this I apologise - please post it again Judy as the deletion was in error.
My reply can wait, even though it was good!
:shock: :shock:

That reminds me of the time Sarge did similar
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewpost/419902.html#419902
It is easy done Jags, all the buttons look so similar rolleyes
Dawn biggrin
Thanks Dawn.
Actually I have now posted my reply cos I needed to say it. If Judy doesn't want to repost the original thread then you lot are none the wiser and my reply will not make sense.
Mind you, not much of anything makes sense after the day I've just had. Roll on retirement.
:D :D
I've just been accused of being prejudiced against minorities and behaviour unbecoming to a Moderator!
Not guilty on both counts. Can I choose the jury and do the votes of the Norwegian jury count double??
lol :lol: :lol:
:sleeping: :sleeping: :sleeping:
ive never seen such utter crap. socierty is on a downword spiral its becoming more fucked as the years pass.
so many people just waiting for a fight,and point the finger, those that sit in ivory towers while being covered in shit, to show true colours ( im racist i typed the word colour interept that who you wish because i dont give a fuck) another trans joins the debate lets have a pop at her.
instead of reading something and interepting things how you personally see it. look at your own lives get your house in order and try and make them better instead of trying to fix a world that cannot be fixed. maybe if everyone did that the world would be a safer place......just a thought........heres another thought.. get a life and stop looking for a fight and its about time this thread died dont you think?.
rolleyes
Quote by Dawn_Mids
...all the buttons look so similar rolleyes

story of my life... redface
Quote by Jags
I've just been accused of being prejudiced against minorities and behaviour unbecoming to a Moderator!
Not guilty on both counts. Can I choose the jury and do the votes of the Norwegian jury count double??
lol :lol: :lol:
:sleeping: :sleeping: :sleeping:

What about the Swedish vote ???? I can help with that one....... well my great Granma could....... does that count ???
Everyone's vote counts but, I've been reliably informed that only the votes or opinions of 'trannys' are legal or authentic or allowed. A disagreement with a member of any minority group is a hanging offence in some quarters.
I want to quote a friend of mine:
Never mind the fact that the topic under discussion has fuck all to do with anyone's wardrobe, nor the fact that what is being defending is not what was being attacked

Well, it's more of a paraphrase than a quote but you get the picture.
Obviously when the real discussion is being lost the only way forward is to deflect the attack - camouflage. You missed your nose though, it looks out of joint.
rolleyes :roll: :roll:
So, can we agree that the 'Third World' (i.e. the developing world) is not responsible for the bringing HIV to this country and can we agree that people who can't speak English aren't entirely responsible either? Can we agree that we ALL bear a responsiblity for what is a totally preventable disease?
This could have ended sooner with just a simple...."I'm sorry"
Quote by rachel-lane
ive never seen such utter crap. socierty is on a downword spiral its becoming more fucked as the years pass.
so many people just waiting for a fight,and point the finger, those that sit in ivory towers while being covered in shit, to show true colours ( im racist i typed the word colour interept that who you wish because i dont give a fuck) another trans joins the debate lets have a pop at her.
instead of reading something and interepting things how you personally see it. look at your own lives get your house in order and try and make them better instead of trying to fix a world that cannot be fixed. maybe if everyone did that the world would be a safer place......just a thought........heres another thought.. get a life and stop looking for a fight and its about time this thread died dont you think?.
rolleyes

Can you explain who you are having a pop at......
Scuse me for jumping in late - not sure I have anything original to add to the discussion, but it's the first interesting thing I found after returning from my "break", so here's my thoughts on some of the edited highlights:
Quote by Traffic
Is it me or do I find the fact that someone on SH is posting and saying that they are HIV+ a little worrying ? OK It's good that she mentions it and that condoms must be worn but I get a bit of a chill when I see this.

I don't find it any more worrying than the fact that there are, without question, people around who don't know they have HIV and are thus not in a position to tell you.
Quote by westerross
You never know what a casual partner has got and they don't know know what the person they were with last week has got unless there is a clinical certificate saying they're clear - and that is only until their next partner so -- dunno

Quote by duncanlondon
So the innocent are accused with the guilty?

There are no innocents here. None. We are each responsible for the consequences to ourselves of our own actions.
Quote by Shireen_Mids
What scares me is that she is actually happy to swing.... Now I may be naive here but I for one would not contemplate swinging if I was HIV+.....
I'm sorry honest or not she shouldn't be allowed to have the ad.... You can all shoot me down in flames but thats how I feel....
This is not the sort of thing she should be considering doing if she is HIV+.... No matter how many precautions she takes there is always the risk of a condom breaking... No sorry I just cant condone it!!....

The risk is the same as it would be if she didn't know, or knew but didn't say.
I don't think the ad is going to put anyone at risk, since most people who don't have HIV wouldn't knowingly play with someone who has it.
Quote by Sgt Bilko
One of the reasons the ad was deleted was because the advertiser had two ads in two different categories. One mentioned HIV, the other one didn't.
Make of that what you will !! confused :? :? :?

By this point, people had begun to suspect a hoax. Still, hoax or not, it does reiterate the point that if you're not told you won't know, and chances are you won't be told. Regardless of the advertiser's motives, it's still up to each of us to make our own decisions and not rely on other people to protect us.
Quote by couple_ne2000
Unfortunatley there are plenty of HIV+ve people out there who have the attidude of "I'm already infected so fuck everyone else"

Which is one of the reasons a lot of people in this community don't play with total strangers. I'm not saying people you've taken the time to get to know are guaranteed free of infection, but you can at least get a good idea of whether they might be the type to deliberately deceive you.
After that, the thread got a bit... errrrr.... sidetracked and I'm not going there. Suffice to say, people may have a tendency to fall into an "out of sight, out of mind" attitude to sexual health, and if this thread has raised people's awareness (which may have been the advertiser's intention) then it has served a useful purpose.
Ice
The fact that the ad was present for 3 days before bieng modified to include the HIV status of the advertiser is the most annoying/scary part of it all tbh..
Steve I agree with you mate.
I just hope that the person involvd does notify anyone she plays with that she has HIV.
I personally if i had HIV would not be in this scene as i owe it to all you guys not to be. I am not saying that having HIV stops you having an active sex life.
HIV can be contracted and passed on via hetrosexual, homosexual people, black white green red yellow people. It can be passed on at birth and I am to belive it still stays in the body at death.
The diseasee is probably the worst known to man/women/child.
MikeC
Quote by MikeC
Steve I agree with you mate.
I just hope that the person involvd does notify anyone she plays with that she has HIV.
I personally if i had HIV would not be in this scene as i owe it to all you guys not to be. I am not saying that having HIV stops you having an active sex life.
HIV can be contracted and passed on via hetrosexual, homosexual people, black white green red yellow people. It can be passed on at birth and I am to belive it still stays in the body at death.
The diseasee is probably the worst known to man/women/child.
MikeC

it is probably the worst know diease known because we have no cure for it at the moment...
if you had said that about 400 years ago then the answer would have been the plauge..
if it had been 100 years ago it may have been smallpox.... it just happens to be that when medicine advances and hopefully they will find something that can treat and destroy HIV, then something else will come along.....
i would hope that anyone would be honest enough to disclose whether they have HIV, that way you then have the decision to play or not to with full knowledge....
sean x
Quote by da69ve
ive never seen such utter crap. socierty is on a downword spiral its becoming more fucked as the years pass.
so many people just waiting for a fight,and point the finger, those that sit in ivory towers while being covered in shit, to show true colours ( im racist i typed the word colour interept that who you wish because i dont give a fuck) another trans joins the debate lets have a pop at her.
instead of reading something and interepting things how you personally see it. look at your own lives get your house in order and try and make them better instead of trying to fix a world that cannot be fixed. maybe if everyone did that the world would be a safer place......just a thought........heres another thought.. get a life and stop looking for a fight and its about time this thread died dont you think?.
rolleyes

Can you explain who you are having a pop at......
Perhaps it's the way some folk like to hijack specific informative threads and turn them into personal agendas that have absolutely nothing to do with the original point of the thread. Anyway, I'm glad the majority are at last discussing the original point of the thread biggrin