Hi Everyone
I've been looking through the ads, and I've noticed that a lot of couples seem to prefer to meet in people's homes rather than in hotels or lodges. I find this quite surprising. Is it not more discreet to meet anonymously at a hotel, or do people feel its less erotic than in their or other people's homes? Do people feel its more trustworthy to invite or be invited to someone's home? I would have thought the need for discretion would override those kinds of issues, especially at the very beginning when you're not sure how you'll get on with people you're meeting. As we all know, there are an awful lot of timewasters (and worse!) out there.
Any thoughts or comments on this? I'd welcome your views.
Have fun!
Ashxx
The thing with hotels is that they are usually not much more than a bed and basic facilities. At least at home you can watch a DVD, go to the loo without everyone hearing you, sit on a comfy chair or sofa. In a hotel room, you're all bound to sit on the bed - maybe not ideal for those who don't just get straight down to a shag.
Then there's the fact that not everyone can afford to stay in hotels much.
We're happier to invite someone to our home after getting to know them a little online, then maybe having met them socially in a pub or something.
but before you meet you need to be sure it is safe. My friends do prefer to meet me in the home but ony after they are sure of the honesty of the potential partners.
people are nervous enough as it is - well some are !
so meeting them in their home enviroment gives them that added little security.
i have no problem wherever it is, as long as everyone is happy.
One good thing about hotels is that it gives both parties an easy way out if they want to cut things short - more difficult if you've invited someone round to your home.
Probably best to do the "getting to know you bit" somewhere else, and only retire to the room once you're gagging for it... If you can keep your hands off each other in the lift maybe you should have spent a little longer in the bar...
But I can imagine it works better for twosomes than it does for threesomes.
Mark.
We've done a few hotel meets now, and yes they are ok for discretion but I (M) always get paranoid that any noise we are making at 2 or 3 in the morning, is going to piss people off (It did happen once - oops). And yes even using cheap places it can all add up to a fair amount of cost.
We now prefer to do a hotel meet at first, then if we meet again, we are happy to have people come to our place.
M
Thanks for your thoughts. I've generally met couples in pubs, which is really the best way to break the ice, before going back to their place for fun and games. I feel its really trustworthy of couples to do that, and I'm sure that part of the thrill is inviting a stranger into their home (as it is for me!) and I just hope that that kindness is always respected. I'd hate to feel that any couples are blackmailed or hurt in any way. I don't drive either, so its easier for me to go to a couple's home (or hotel), as I have family and friends who live very near me, so I'd feel uncomfortable in accommodating.
Going halves on a travellodge seems a good deal for the added anonymity!
Take care and have fun
Ashxx
I like to meet someone in a pub when first meeting so that you both have an escape route if you dont like each other. If you go straight to someones house then the inevitable happens often too quickly!! - lol
I was standing in a crowded lift with a couple one afternoon, on our way down to the bar for a farewell drink after a jolly afternoon in room 517.
Suddenly there was a loud SPLAT.
And a big blob of spunk appeared on the lino between her feet.
Everybody looked. Oh dear.
Personally I have always prefered hotels for meets.
They have everything I need bed, bathroom,couch and coffee making facilities. The better one also have dvd players but that really isnt an essetial.
Hotels are nuetral teritory for both parties and so neither feel inhibited. Also there is no chance of the phone ringing - mobiles can be turned off. As someone else said durring the daytime meets you only ever get cleaning staff around so noise really isnt an issue.
As for price well , some travel lodges are going for10 pounds and otheres only 26 pounds , so again this isnt an issue, anyway the cost usually goes on one or others business card so ......................................................!!!!!
I feel far more comfortable away from home and all the normal cares of real life.
As for the blackmail, that might be going a little far nowadays , but I am sure many peoples working lives could be made distinctly uncomfortable if their colleagues knew of their swinging activities, certainly in the professions!!
. I don't drive so it was much easier for me to invite people round to mine, unless they were fairly local and then I was happy to go round to their's - which I did on numerous occassions. All these people were strangers to me though I did have quite a lot of email contact with most of them - OK, not all of them hehehehehehehehehehe... Anyways, I never had any nutters or problems with people coming to my place. 
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