Do you people think its fair to ask for voluntary contribution towards costs of a hotel??
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Orgasminator
Quote by moniquejohn
Do you people think its fair to ask for voluntary contribution towards costs of a hotel??
I pretty much always offer to contribute, if the couple or lady is staying over and Im heading home in a taxi or getting a seperate hotel room myself then I may not offer the full half.
To relate it to the other topic a little, if a couple were on holiday for a week and staying in a hotel I would not be expecting a request for a contribution :lol2:
Its a fine line sometimes, and people often have different views on this.
Sex God
I tended to meet in hotels. I would always pay. However, if the person I was meeting was someone who I started to see on a more regular, friendly fuck-buddy type of arrangement and they offered to go halves then yes, that to me is ok.
But then a hotel is a fixed cost that is checkable and I could show them a receipt/bill etc. There would be no way that any profit etc could be queried.
But then a hotel is a fixed cost that is checkable and I could show them a receipt/bill etc. There would be no way that any profit etc could be queried.
thanks for the reply, yea the other post has me nervous that we may be committing a swinging sin if we even suggest it..but it Is our understanding that it is common.
the cheaper alternative obviously does not appeal to some members. giving the very liberated nature of swinging I have to admit to be confused about peoples hang ups over the whole thing lol..
funny if you think about it, the majority thinks its wrong to contribute towards the cost of swinging in that situation, but right that we should have to shoulder the cost totally alone..eg we have to pay for the sex but they wont..??
the cheaper alternative obviously does not appeal to some members. giving the very liberated nature of swinging I have to admit to be confused about peoples hang ups over the whole thing lol..
funny if you think about it, the majority thinks its wrong to contribute towards the cost of swinging in that situation, but right that we should have to shoulder the cost totally alone..eg we have to pay for the sex but they wont..??
"But then a hotel is a fixed cost that is checkable and I could show them a receipt/bill etc. There would be no way that any profit etc could be queried."
I cant see how you can make profit on a "voluntary contribution"
That brings in the issue of trust, would you 'party' with someone you felt didn't trust you or with someone you didn't trust?
but I do see what your saying, but I think if anyone asked to see the receipt I would be very unhappy with them being there.
I cant see how you can make profit on a "voluntary contribution"
That brings in the issue of trust, would you 'party' with someone you felt didn't trust you or with someone you didn't trust?
but I do see what your saying, but I think if anyone asked to see the receipt I would be very unhappy with them being there.
Sex God
On the occasions that we have booked rooms our selves we have never asked for contributions, but every time our guest has offered half and we have always excepted.
Sex God
Quote by moniquejohn
I cant see how you can make profit on a "voluntary contribution"
That brings in the issue of trust, would you 'party' with someone you felt didn't trust you or with someone you didn't trust?
but I do see what your saying, but I think if anyone asked to see the receipt I would be very unhappy with them being there.
I think I was trying to explain my own concerns about your other post. I don't mind paying for a hotel or paying halves towards something like that, as it's a fixed price and the money is going to the hotel. I would be paying for the use of the room and not for the sex - what I did in the room would be up to me. I would feel uncomfortable paying for the 'pleasure' of visiting someone in a private house though, because then I would feel like I was paying for the sex. That's not swinging.
Just my take on it though.
No one has ever asked to see a receipt btw!
lets just say that with most swinging or indeed any social encounters, getting down to splitting costs comes a bit later in the proceedings, ie after some familiarisation with one another and a growing sense of trust and confidence.
being hit with it from the outset just isn't that appealing?
being hit with it from the outset just isn't that appealing?
Sex God
Quote by noladreams
I cant see how you can make profit on a "voluntary contribution"
That brings in the issue of trust, would you 'party' with someone you felt didn't trust you or with someone you didn't trust?
but I do see what your saying, but I think if anyone asked to see the receipt I would be very unhappy with them being there.
I think I was trying to explain my own concerns about your other post. I don't mind paying for a hotel or paying halves towards something like that, as it's a fixed price and the money is going to the hotel. I would be paying for the use of the room and not for the sex - what I did in the room would be up to me. I would feel uncomfortable paying for the 'pleasure' of visiting someone in a private house though, because then I would feel like I was paying for the sex. That's not swinging.
Just my take on it though.
No one has ever asked to see a receipt btw!
Oddly they are renting the house so the money is going to whomever they rent it from right? Just like the hotel. Ok so on the house they have to pay council tax, electric, gas blah blah but that will also be factored into a hotel room price also so its all being paid for in a roundabout kind of way.
What if when they rented the house on a weekly basis as a holiday house instead and payed one amount to the landlord no tax bills etc. Would it then be acceptable to ask for a contribution?
There are lots of costs in swinging and they are often shared. Guess everyone has to make up their own mind in what circumstances they are comfortable doing that.
Quote by Mr-Powers
You make a contribution, possibly half...so who gets the room till next day?
the person that has actually booked it?
usualy you cannot just go into a hotel on say a saturday night and get a room there and then. usualy it has to be booked and paid for in advance, so the person who has booked it in my opinion.
Orgasminator
going to add my 2 pennyworth. on the cost of hotels and sharing. if we were to meet in a hotel and we were the ones staying over in it then we would shoulder the costs just as if someone else was having the benefit of the room over night then they should shoulder the costs, my vision of the situation is that people use hotels for play for a number of reasons a couple of which are ... security on not wanting strangers in their home and they are meeting someone from a good distance away. both of which I can see the relevant points, but for both its their choice to want or need the hotel so it should be up to them to shoulder the cost.
if we were to visit someone else in their hotel room and we used room service/mini bar etc then we have caused them extra expense then we would offer to cover for what we have used as they wouldn't have expected these extra expenses in the hire of the room.
just my take on things
i do believe in no one being out of pocket for swinging but it is their choice to use a hotel instead of their own home so if you can't afford it then don't swing.
if we were to visit someone else in their hotel room and we used room service/mini bar etc then we have caused them extra expense then we would offer to cover for what we have used as they wouldn't have expected these extra expenses in the hire of the room.
just my take on things
i do believe in no one being out of pocket for swinging but it is their choice to use a hotel instead of their own home so if you can't afford it then don't swing.
Quote by starlightcouple
You make a contribution, possibly half...so who gets the room till next day?
the person that has actually booked it?
usualy you cannot just go into a hotel on say a saturday night and get a room there and then. usualy it has to be booked and paid for in advance, so the person who has booked it in my opinion.
if they booked it, and they are staying in it, they can fucking well pay for it!
Quote by Mr-Powers
You make a contribution, possibly half...so who gets the room till next day?
the person that has actually booked it?
usualy you cannot just go into a hotel on say a saturday night and get a room there and then. usualy it has to be booked and paid for in advance, so the person who has booked it in my opinion.
if they booked it, and they are staying in it, they can fucking well pay for it!
:laughabove:
Sex God
Quote by Mr-Powers
You make a contribution, possibly half...so who gets the room till next day?
the person that has actually booked it?
usualy you cannot just go into a hotel on say a saturday night and get a room there and then. usualy it has to be booked and paid for in advance, so the person who has booked it in my opinion.
if they booked it, and they are staying in it, they can fucking well pay for it!
too true you don't organise a party or a BBQ then ask your guest's to contribute to the cost
if you can't accommodate then you need to accept that you should pay the cost's if you you initiate the meet
Orgasminator
Quote by Lizaleanrob
You make a contribution, possibly half...so who gets the room till next day?
the person that has actually booked it?
usualy you cannot just go into a hotel on say a saturday night and get a room there and then. usualy it has to be booked and paid for in advance, so the person who has booked it in my opinion.
if they booked it, and they are staying in it, they can fucking well pay for it!
too true you don't organise a party or a BBQ then ask your guest's to contribute to the cost
if you can't accommodate then you need to accept that you should pay the cost's if you you initiate the meet
well at most parties its byob (bring your own bottle) or for a bbq its byob (bring your own burger) i wouldnt expect guests to help provide the coal for the bbq or the gas etc even tho there would bound to be extra used to cook the extra burgers ... extreme example i know but illustrates the point
Sex God
Cant be arsed to quote but what a load of bollocks in the last five posts in general. We dont Choose to use a hotel we do because we need to or have in the past. You can come to ours if you like as long as you dont mind the kids watching? We dont stay over in the room either as once again we have to get back for the kids. If the others want to thats fine by us. We've found people quite happy to share costs this way. Always try to make everyones costs fair, we have paid for the room entirely when the other couple had driven 100's of miles to meet us. That seemed a fair split to us the fuel vs the room cost.
Sex God
If I book a room I expect to pay for it...
If someone else books a room I always offer to share the costs....
If someone else books a room I always offer to share the costs....
Sex God
Quote by moniquejohn
Do you people think its fair to ask for voluntary contribution towards costs of a hotel??
John.
Is this not something of an oxymoron??? It's not really voluntary if it's asked for
Try booking under a false name then leaving through the back door without paying.....or then again you could just treat things on a case by case basis...you k now different circumstances different people etc. etc. Why impose rules on things that are by their very nature intangible
