I was at the pub at lunch today and the subject of our conversation came to hotels and sex (the two go hand in hand!).
Basically, and I don't want to be sexist but this conversation was between men and women, most of the the women thought that if she was paying for a hotel and going to have sex with someone then that'd be kind of like paying for sex.
Whereas the men were fine with paying and thought nothing of it, it's just paying for a facility like if they were to do it in a car or house - the other person paid for it but it's not paying for the actual sex.
I mentioned that you could both go halves on the hotel - then no one is doing the other a favour....that didn't go down too well as apparently I'd spoiled the conversation.
Do you think it was just a stupid conversation people have in pubs or did both sides have a point?
they were probably just having a silly chat and knew it.
Unfortunately, practicalities, science, decision making and plain common sense, introduced at the wrong/right moment, kill off many a conversation.
they were having a kinky chat about sex and hotels, you came up with a rational answer...and they were all like.....feeeeeeeelop...he he awwww dont worry about it!
get a room !!!
no seriously surely the man should pay end of !! ?
We would never book anything without having met the other parties first and then everything is 50/50.
ben
plus if you get quality jiggy jiggy and go £ please
you aint going to get a reply ..no way
not to mention the travelodge....maybe something alittle more upmarket would be in order, like....a posthouse.
ben
have you considered holiday inn ?
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Mention of "couples" above might confuse the poor lambs. Yes, if there are TWO couples, they split the cost, unless someone's feeling generous. Anything involving single guys, HE pays.
I've lost count of the number of blokes who very charitably offer to "chip in" towards a room.
garden
cum south i ll pay for the room and the breakfast
holiday inns...defo.....wot about premier lodges? a room for £40...so after 4 hours of sweaty love making......split it 50/50...id love to say it just to see the expression!!! 'come on lov, ive got my 20 out...'
Someone ought to start a directory of hotels where reception doesn't face the staircase.
Bad enough going upstairs...... but staggering down again with smudged make-up and wobbly knees and spunk all over your stockings is just too blush-making for words.....
If I invite someone somewhere, it's my treat. If they invite me, then unless they ask me to go halves I'll assume it's their treat. Whatever the situation, sensible adults should be able to work out something mutually acceptable. I've heard several people, mostly women, say they insist on paying because if they let the other person pay, that gives him the control and/or makes her a prostitute. Utter bollox frankly. If she objects to what she sees as a controlling position for him, why should he find her controlling position any more acceptable? Christ, if I thought I needed control, I wouldn't be turning up in the first place - If I meet someone it's because I want to have fun, not a bloody business negotiation.
It really isn't a big deal to me.... I usually pay my way with everything anyway so often insist on paying for a room if I have the cash. It doesn't feel like prostitution to me... it's just paying for a facility.
The conversation we were having wasn't in relation to swinging...... it was just one of those convo's you have where there is no real direction or debate but everyone has a different view so I thought I'd bring it on here.
I don't expect a man to pay for everything...... I think that is old fashioned personally, yes if you are in a relationship and your man offers to pay then why not, even if you're not in a relationship too. But I'd then pay for something in else in the future if we went out.
There is no such thing as a free lunch.... as they (whoever "they" are) say!
if its a couple thing, i agree with SXBOY, 50/50 all the way....
