how can i get her to do it??

19 Sep 2005

well my wife want to have a threesome, as do i.
i want to see her being done by another bloke soooo bad, she wants to be done at both ends.
however she is very shy about her body and is nervous about going al the way.
any tips on how i can get her to do it, without forcing her.
i want it to be her choice not mine.
its got to be a womans ides as us blokes are ,well not very subtle rolleyes

so advice please.

19 Sep 2005

Quote by look
well my wife want to have a threesome, as do i.
i want to see her being done by another bloke soooo bad, she wants to be done at both ends.
however she is very shy about her body and is nervous about going al the way.
any tips on how i can get her to do it, without forcing her.
i want it to be her choice not mine.
its got to be a womans ides as us blokes are ,well not very subtle
so advice please.

How about just asking her how she wants to do it, and going along with that..
You say that she wants to have a threesome, so spend a night talking about how you both see an evening going with someone else, and when you both agree on something, use that as your game plan. Nothing sexual may happen on the first meet you arrange, as her shyness may get in the way, but remember nobody has to do anything they don't want to, and it will be an experience. It will boost confidence and reduce her shyness, so that the second or third time you try, you may get there.. biggrin

19 Sep 2005

Hiya look and :welcome: smile

My advice to you would be to ease her into the scene gently to build up her confidence :)
If she hasnt seen this site already then show it to her, have a browse through the forums and she can see that there are people from all walks of life here (many as shy as she is no doubt :) )
Take it slow and reinforce her confidence with positive comments-you would be surprised how far a little "wow you look great in that ! " can go to boost low self-esteem (trust me i know lol ;) )
Put an ad up if you haven't already and make it clear that you are looking to take things slowly (if that's what you decide) and see what comes of it biggrin

Best of luck with it both,
Minx x x

19 Sep 2005

Quote by Sexysteph
If your wife wants the threesome but is so shy about her body that you put how i can get her to do it, without forcing her

worries me to the extent it comes across as her trying to please you and not as a joint decision.
Well said Steph, seems to me its just a fantasy for her rather than something she really wants to do

In a club situation you would always have the opportunity of walking away after and not have to see anyone again so thereby saving her any embarassment if she decides its not for her.

A club would be my advice as well, she would see that everyone comes in all shapes and sizes and has nothing to worry about in regards to her own body, the opportunity would be there as well as the opportunity to gain confidence and the ability to walk out if she feels uncomfortable.

19 Sep 2005

Quote by look
. . . she wants to be done at both ends.
any tips on how i can get her to do it, without forcing her.

Tie her over a barrel, or patio table. Don't feed her for a week. She'll be gagging for it.

19 Sep 2005

thanks for the replies.
sorry i did not mean to sound pushy a bit nervous about firstt post, wanted to keep it short and sweet.
we haved talked about it and she wants to but is afraid of taking the reading the replies, i guess:
a, let her decide when she is ready she will tell me, as she know i want to now its up to her.
b, maybe open her mind up to the fact that thousands of people do it ,so there should be something for everyone.
C, remember that its mostly me who wants it rolleyes

the propblem is she wants to, she has said but is very senstive about her body( even though she is beautiful) she thinks she is not.
thanks for the help, i will talk to her and try to be mre patient, problem is how do i satisfy my lust to watch.
i am sorry if i sound nieve but very new to this scene redface

19 Sep 2005

Quote by look
thanks for the help, i will talk to her and try to be mre patient, problem is how do i satisfy my lust to watch.
:

Think you just need to be patient here look smile

if you try and rush your wife into anything before she is ready , she will not enjoy it and it would probably backfire on you.
Take your time and get a feel of the lifestyle-there's no rush is there ? :)
Minx x x

19 Sep 2005

take her to a swingers club and let her go or not at her own pace..then she will know where her limits lie at the moment

19 Sep 2005

thanks again.
ok lets say that she does go for it.
if we reply to an add any tips on what to look out for?
dont want to meet some nutter, but like wise i dont want to scare someone off !
we/ i cant post pics, no camera.
is it better to post an add or reply to one??
and would dogging be a good place to start??
one more question rolleyes

is portsmouth/fareham area a good place to swing or for dogging??
i would prefere to ask you people who know whatyour doing rather than guessing
thanks you.

19 Sep 2005

Quote by look
thanks again.
ok lets say that she does go for it.
if we reply to an add any tips on what to look out for?
dont want to meet some nutter, but like wise i dont want to scare someone off !
we/ i cant post pics, no camera.
is it better to post an add or reply to one??
and would dogging be a good place to start??
one more question
is portsmouth/fareham area a good place to swing or for dogging??
i would prefere to ask you people who know whatyour doing rather than guessing
thanks you.

Maybe you would like a mentor to help you out a bit hun smile

Take a peek here : http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopic/45014.html
and see if that's any good to you :)
Minx x x

19 Sep 2005

Quote by BiWelshMinx
Maybe you would like a mentor to help you out a bit hun

I meant HE should tie her to the barrel ffs.

19 Sep 2005

Quote by dambuster

Maybe you would like a mentor to help you out a bit hun

I meant HE should tie her to the barrel ffs.
Oh be quiet you naughty man

:smackbottom: :smackbottom:
You're in a loon

mood today and I can't cope with it :shock: wink

Minx x x

19 Sep 2005

Buy her a bottle of gin after that she not give a shit about her body or who see's it
I am of course joking
She will let you know when she is ready, may take a few months but all good things come to those who wait

19 Sep 2005

Quote by naughtynymphos1
Buy her a bottle of gin after that she not give a shit about her body or who see's it
I am of course joking
She will let you know when she is ready, may take a few months but all good things come to those who wait

Yeah, she was joking - she meant Vodka of course !! :lol: :lol: :lol:

19 Sep 2005

:laughabove: :grin: what naughty said :P and and welcome too :mrgreen:

19 Sep 2005

i'm sorry, but it's the word GET that i dont really like, it's almost sounding like you want to force her into things., dont put her into a situation, ie arranging an mmf. take her to a nice relaxed club, let her see things happening, let her revel in the attention, once she realises that body shape does not matter, then she may feel more relaxed about it.

19 Sep 2005

Quote by welshBIcouple
Buy her a bottle of gin after that she not give a shit about her body or who see's it
I am of course joking
She will let you know when she is ready, may take a few months but all good things come to those who wait

Yeah, she was joking - she meant Vodka of course !! :lol: :lol: :lol:
i bloody did not mean vodka
mmmm i love gin, makes me dead horney :rascal:

19 Sep 2005

Quote by naughtynymphos1
Buy her a bottle of gin after that she not give a shit about her body or who see's it
I am of course joking
She will let you know when she is ready, may take a few months but all good things come to those who wait

Yeah, she was joking - she meant Vodka of course !! :lol: :lol: :lol:
i bloody did not mean vodka
mmmm i love gin, makes me dead horney :rascal:
hmmmm, now where's that bottle of gordons I had at christmas !!!!!
bolt

to NN for a :cheers:

19 Sep 2005

i bloody did not mean vodka
mmmm i love gin, makes me dead horney :rascal:
I think I have a bottle of Gin the cupboard also, on my way NN.

19 Sep 2005

Hi look
Take her to a club, that way you can both relax, take things in, and if you dont like it can go home anytime you like, ladies come in all shapes and sizes, and it just may, help her feel good about her body.
But only when she is ready, patience is the key here, read the forum, and get a mentor as suggested. all these things will help.
I hope you both do take the plunge into swinging, there are a lot of very people on here, and ive made loads of friends from Swinging Heaven.
There are also timewasters so be selective.........your mentor will help with that, if you decide to get one
Good luck for the future
Vicky