in swinging? if you don't mind me asking?
i joined this site a while ago then dissapeared now i'm back again posting etc. however i've never been close to meeting anyone off the site. the problem i think is i still can't bring myself to get any photos of myself. i get a sinking feeling whenever i think about it ( i even created a seperate email strictly for this site ). does that mean this place isn't for me or something? if i can't bring myself to take or send pictures out yet. did this happen to any one else? male or female. or is this just a problem of my own head?
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Welcome back Duracellbunny 
I absolutely detest pictures of me :shock: I am inside my body looking out, therefore don't see what I look like most of the time and can happily delude myself I look like Elle McPherson :happy: The truth is the last thing I want to be confronted with
Why don't you get yourself to one of the munches, that way people can see for themselves what you look like etc - far easier and a lot more fun
Talking of fun, that's what this site is about - if you get that sinking feeling at the thought of posting pictures, then don't do it
Just take things as they happen, and enjoy :D
I absolutely detest pictures of me :shock: I am inside my body looking out, therefore don't see what I look like most of the time and can happily delude myself I look like Elle McPherson :happy: The truth is the last thing I want to be confronted with
Why don't you get yourself to one of the munches, that way people can see for themselves what you look like etc - far easier and a lot more fun
Talking of fun, that's what this site is about - if you get that sinking feeling at the thought of posting pictures, then don't do it
Just take things as they happen, and enjoy :D
the only problem with the munches is i'd be well nervious turning up by myself as a single guy. i know all i'd do is sit in the darkest bit of where-ever before bolting like a coward. i get that way sometimes 
ideally i'd like to meet a women/couple first but it seems hard to get the point across in the photo ads section with all the single guys, especially when your too timid to post a photo yet
do you reckon people would accept a crayon drawing? :P
ideally i'd like to meet a women/couple first but it seems hard to get the point across in the photo ads section with all the single guys, especially when your too timid to post a photo yet
do you reckon people would accept a crayon drawing? :P
Sex God
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the only problem with the munches is i'd be well nervious turning up by myself as a single guy. i know all i'd do is sit in the darkest bit of where-ever before bolting like a coward. i get that way sometimes
ideally i'd like to meet a women/couple first but it seems hard to get the point across in the photo ads section with all the single guys, especially when your too timid to post a photo yet
do you reckon people would accept a crayon drawing? :P
duracell, trust me, you wouldn't be allowed to spend all night in a corner!!!! EVERYBODY feels like that! it is scary stuff indeed, but there's no need. try a search on the last nw munch thing, then move heaven and earth to get to the next one! ;-)
neil x x x x ;-)
Personally I got into swinging in a most odd way. I got to be very friendly with my personal trainer at my gym and she invited me to what turned out to be a swingers party ( I have to confess I was bloody suprised when I turned up) we were a swinging couple for a while, although never together in a romantic way. Unfortunately for me she moved to australia last year so that was really the end of that, I kept a few contacts however and one of whom (that must remain nameless) advised me to join this site.. the rest I suppose is history. But seriously mate you shoud not be embarassed, from my experience virtually all people involved in the scene are what you would describe as .. 'normal' :-)
Orgasminator
I came by this site quite accidentally.... honest! I knew nothing of the swingers lifestyle but thought it looked friendly so I joined.
As a single female I probably don't fit the original criteria for this site and was a bit apprehensive about posting on here as there are a lot of couples (quite rightly though!).
I've now become addicted to it here and I'm seriously thinking about going to a Munch although they are always too far away for me to attend and I'd feel an idiot going on my own so I can relate to that Duracell!
As for the pictures thing.... I hate having my pics taken. I'm only comfortable with my chest so that's the only pics I send or post. Just because you don't feel comfortable showing pics it doesn't mean you're not right for here..... just relax and let things happen...easier said than done i know but things work out good in the end.
As a single female I probably don't fit the original criteria for this site and was a bit apprehensive about posting on here as there are a lot of couples (quite rightly though!).
I've now become addicted to it here and I'm seriously thinking about going to a Munch although they are always too far away for me to attend and I'd feel an idiot going on my own so I can relate to that Duracell!
As for the pictures thing.... I hate having my pics taken. I'm only comfortable with my chest so that's the only pics I send or post. Just because you don't feel comfortable showing pics it doesn't mean you're not right for here..... just relax and let things happen...easier said than done i know but things work out good in the end.
Hi Duracellbunny!
Hasn't anyone told you how popular rabbits are amongst the ladies of SH? According to Sgt Bilko they are WMO - Weapons of Mass Orgasm! Now doesn't that make you feel better?
All the advice above is good advice, but do try a Munch! You'll put faces to names, have a laugh and a thoroughly good time. In the meantime, post in the forum and enjoy yourself! You don't have to be a practicing swinger to belong here - just an open mind and a sense of humour is all you need.
Love Sappho xxx
Hasn't anyone told you how popular rabbits are amongst the ladies of SH? According to Sgt Bilko they are WMO - Weapons of Mass Orgasm! Now doesn't that make you feel better?
All the advice above is good advice, but do try a Munch! You'll put faces to names, have a laugh and a thoroughly good time. In the meantime, post in the forum and enjoy yourself! You don't have to be a practicing swinger to belong here - just an open mind and a sense of humour is all you need.
Love Sappho xxx
Sex God
Onlyme wrote:
It's maybe quite a step to take, Onlyme, but you'd be made very welcome at any munch. I'm single, and I've been to two on my own, and it's not been difficult or awkward at all to fall naturally into conversation with people - if we're joining in here in the forum regularly, we've all got something in common, after all.... It would be great to meet you at the NW munch in Manchester, you can get there easily by train, coach, or even plane....
Mike.
I've now become addicted to it here and I'm seriously thinking about going to a Munch although they are always too far away for me to attend and I'd feel an idiot going on my own
It's maybe quite a step to take, Onlyme, but you'd be made very welcome at any munch. I'm single, and I've been to two on my own, and it's not been difficult or awkward at all to fall naturally into conversation with people - if we're joining in here in the forum regularly, we've all got something in common, after all.... It would be great to meet you at the NW munch in Manchester, you can get there easily by train, coach, or even plane....
Mike.
Hmm Swinging and websites, well we got involved by accident in a way. We had talked about 2 girls or 2 men for a while as a fantasy and we pointed out good looking girls to each other often when we were out, richard saying to tracy " do you like the look of her" but we had never heard of swinging and wouldnt have known what it meant if we had. Then while looking through some sites on the net Richard found a pic of a very sexy girl and thought Tracy will love her pic, it was on a university web site and the girl was running an ad for swinging friends, it interested us. Then we saw a daytime cooking show with students on it, when asked her hobbies one girl said drinking and swinging, the host went red and said " you cant say that". So we searched the net to find out more, found Excite clubs and thought we would post some pics to see if any fancied tracy or what reaction they would get, you could post one pic and get replies below it, we had got a digi camera so thought lets give it a go. We were overwhemled by the response and had tons of good replies, we also started talking to other couples who were very helpfull.
So when we was on holiday we jumped in at the deep end and went to La Chambre on a frdiay night ( Doh single male night) We got naked and sat in the jacussi and wandered around watching what was going on, we didnt play that night as too many men were there but it got us hooked. That was about four or five years ago and we havent looked back since, our only regret is not having enough time to enjoy ourselves the way we love too, but we have had and do have some great meets and go to some great clubs, we have a full profile of pics on and a website were we now give advice, and as we have gone on we have got more and more into taking pics outside and indoors, plus got into things like dogging. Sites like this have been a great help with advice and laists of places to go. As pics go, tracy never used to like her pic taken, but seeing how so many men and women liked them so much made her come out of shell in that respect totally and we now have over 200 on our profile and have taken well over 800 in total. We have had some very memorable times and done things we never thought we would have the courage to do and we now would say we are expierianced at what we do, although we always want to do more and try new things and places still.
Tracy(bi) and Richard
So when we was on holiday we jumped in at the deep end and went to La Chambre on a frdiay night ( Doh single male night) We got naked and sat in the jacussi and wandered around watching what was going on, we didnt play that night as too many men were there but it got us hooked. That was about four or five years ago and we havent looked back since, our only regret is not having enough time to enjoy ourselves the way we love too, but we have had and do have some great meets and go to some great clubs, we have a full profile of pics on and a website were we now give advice, and as we have gone on we have got more and more into taking pics outside and indoors, plus got into things like dogging. Sites like this have been a great help with advice and laists of places to go. As pics go, tracy never used to like her pic taken, but seeing how so many men and women liked them so much made her come out of shell in that respect totally and we now have over 200 on our profile and have taken well over 800 in total. We have had some very memorable times and done things we never thought we would have the courage to do and we now would say we are expierianced at what we do, although we always want to do more and try new things and places still.
Tracy(bi) and Richard
Orgasminator
possibly down to a mcflurry amd a bag of salt and vinegar crisps,
sure you can guess the rest!!
sure you can guess the rest!!
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the only problem with the munches is i'd be well nervious turning up by myself as a single guy. i know all i'd do is sit in the darkest bit of where-ever before bolting like a coward. i get that way sometimes.
Listen mate!
Iv'e been in pubs and spent my evening on my own standing in a corner and watching the world ignore me on many an occasion.
If you go to a munch this situation is just not gonna happen. I've not been to a munch yet but I've asked a few people as to what it's like and the impression I've been given is that everyone wants to know everyone else. I know I do! Nobody is going to be left to sit in a corner. This is a very friendly bunch of people and I think none of us would want anyone to feel left out. Hey, we're swingers after all and we love a good party and it's no good if people are feeling left out.
As has already been stated you'll have a lot in common with the people here so you'll be one of the gang. All you need to do is contribute to the forum as best you can, get to know us and let us get to know you.
I had similar reservations as you at the start, being a single guy and all! Now I feel a lot more confident having talked and got to know the people on this site.
Regards LC.
Sex God
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Someone would drag you out of the corner when the snogging competition started
"Someone?" Don't be so modest. You wouldn't even wait for the competition to start
I stumbled across this site by accident. There had been a mention of dogging somewhere else, and someone posted a link to SH's dogging section as explanation. Since I had no idea what it was, I went to look.
As soon as I saw what it was, I knew that the dogging life was not for me. But curiosity drew me into the rest of the site (I already knew what swinging was). And look! A forum! With a Cafe full of people. It's rare to find a collection like this on the net. So soon I was hooked.
Then I got a last-minute invitation to a party. Someone else (much more involved in the site) had been invited but didn't want to go alone. "XXX and XXX are having a party. Do you want to come?" OK, sounds like a lot more fun than the weekend plans it was replacing.
When I got there, realisation struck. It was that kind of party. I should have known. I'm just a bit naive and stupid sometimes. But the people were friendly, the party games were fun, and although I didn't go upstairs to participate in the other side of it, I had a great time.
I'm hooked on the Cafe now. The people I've met in real life have been great too.
I stepped into this site by pure accident but it must have been my lucky day because i have been hooked ever since. I too have not had the courage to post pic or an ad yet but it's certainly growing on me. I like to take things one step at a time. My next step will be to go to the nw munch . So if I can do it I'm sure you can least you won't be the only guy whose nervous about turning up.
hope to see you there.
hope to see you there.
I got into the whole swinging scene by accident, when an ex-girlfriend called me up inviting me to a party, yes, one of those ones... ;)
Not long after someone mentioned dogging to me, and i went looking for a site with more info. And when this site popped up, i was, quite literally in heaven.
As for your problem, dont worry. I met up wioth my first person yesterday (yes, my site cherry has now been popped lol)
And they were amazingly well natured about the whole affair. We had a really good time, a real laugh, and we then we swapped numbers. If all my meets go that well, 'll be recommending this site to random people in the street!!
Not long after someone mentioned dogging to me, and i went looking for a site with more info. And when this site popped up, i was, quite literally in heaven.
As for your problem, dont worry. I met up wioth my first person yesterday (yes, my site cherry has now been popped lol)
And they were amazingly well natured about the whole affair. We had a really good time, a real laugh, and we then we swapped numbers. If all my meets go that well, 'll be recommending this site to random people in the street!!
We started on New Year's Eve 6 years ago when we were living in Holland. We'd had mild fantasies, then decided to go and have a look at a club, looked up Fun4two, which is not too far from Rotterdam.
The first evening we were pretty turned on but shy, inevitably, but after two visits we had pretty well realised what we each liked in terms of sexual activity and thrown away what vestiges of jealousy we'd previously had, and since then we've had a wonderful sex life and an improved relationship.
( If you've never been to Fun4two I can't recommend it too highly for a straightforward well-organised swinging experience. We haven't been for two years, so I've no idea if it's still the same, but seeingand joining in with 60-80 people in an orgy room, everyone energetically humping and moaning is something you dont' forget. )
Since then when we're away travelling together or on holiday, we always look up the local clubs and go to the one with the best recommendations. We've been to about a dozen clubs so far in Europe and South America, and made friendships with people at several of them. One of our best ever was this year at a swingers beach in the south of Brasil during Carnaval, but that's another story.
The first evening we were pretty turned on but shy, inevitably, but after two visits we had pretty well realised what we each liked in terms of sexual activity and thrown away what vestiges of jealousy we'd previously had, and since then we've had a wonderful sex life and an improved relationship.
( If you've never been to Fun4two I can't recommend it too highly for a straightforward well-organised swinging experience. We haven't been for two years, so I've no idea if it's still the same, but seeingand joining in with 60-80 people in an orgy room, everyone energetically humping and moaning is something you dont' forget. )
Since then when we're away travelling together or on holiday, we always look up the local clubs and go to the one with the best recommendations. We've been to about a dozen clubs so far in Europe and South America, and made friendships with people at several of them. One of our best ever was this year at a swingers beach in the south of Brasil during Carnaval, but that's another story.
We started when we had a drunken 3 sum with our new flatmate a couple of months ago!!!
We then decided that we would like to try swinging.
So I typed 'swinging' & 'surrey' into google and found this site!!
We found that there seemed to be alot of timewasters on the site so we thought what the hell and arranged our own party!!!
Now were already looking forward to party number 3 and SurreySingles party on Saturday night of course
We then decided that we would like to try swinging.
So I typed 'swinging' & 'surrey' into google and found this site!!
We found that there seemed to be alot of timewasters on the site so we thought what the hell and arranged our own party!!!
Now were already looking forward to party number 3 and SurreySingles party on Saturday night of course
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I've now become addicted to it here and I'm seriously thinking about going to a Munch although they are always too far away for me to attend and I'd feel an idiot going on my own so I can relate to that Duracell!
You should attend the next Portsmouth Munch, I think that reasonably near, but I hopeless without a map
I did my first Munch alone and was looked after by Heather after I arrived, the next one I helped organise and took Mrs TnH to. You would not be alone at a munch, everyone, even the couples, are there to socialise and find about everyone else. The best bit is you already got something to start a conversation on, SH, then lead on from there to other topics and you away...As for how I got into this site (I've not swung yet but have made 2 munches) I was looking for info on dogging and came across the site. I never actually been dogging but an article in Mrs TnH's magazine brought the subject up, so I thought I would do some research. The site was so friendly (and free :) ) that I created an account, and here I am...
Sex God
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I came here to moan about people not answering my mails, and I've hung around to moan some more.
Bluddy hell Roger you have moaned........... :rascal: Your nearly upto your 1000th post :shock: :shock:
Hope you have it out of your system now. :therethere:
Im here accidently on purpose...
I had a date with a guy who said he *was a bit of a swinger* it didn't enter my head that he meant *swinging*. I kept thinking of the song, "oldest swinger in town" (why I don't know). Anyway he did eventually tell me about it and asked if I'd be interested in being his partner at clubs etc. He gave me a few internet sites to look at, joined them, then found this one purely by accident.
Since then, I've become quite fascinated by the swinging and the fetish scene, mainly because I find that whatever background you come from, race, disability, sexuality etc etc people are accepted for who they are.
Although I don't partake of the lifestyle, the important part that is really highlighted by being a member of a site such as this, is the friendliness of everyone here..... I enjoy myself here so much I've cancelled my membership of the Knitting Pattern Swapping Circle, this is much more fun!!! :) 
:)
xanaisx
I had a date with a guy who said he *was a bit of a swinger* it didn't enter my head that he meant *swinging*. I kept thinking of the song, "oldest swinger in town" (why I don't know). Anyway he did eventually tell me about it and asked if I'd be interested in being his partner at clubs etc. He gave me a few internet sites to look at, joined them, then found this one purely by accident.
Since then, I've become quite fascinated by the swinging and the fetish scene, mainly because I find that whatever background you come from, race, disability, sexuality etc etc people are accepted for who they are.
Although I don't partake of the lifestyle, the important part that is really highlighted by being a member of a site such as this, is the friendliness of everyone here.....
I enjoy myself here so much I've cancelled my membership of the Knitting Pattern Swapping Circle, this is much more fun!!! :) :) xanaisx
Sex God
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in swinging? if you don't mind me asking?
As far as SH is concerned, by being a nosey bastard, quite frankly - coming in here on the recommendation of a friend, having a rather skeptical outlook, realising very quickly that there are internet communities that aren't composed entirely of geeks and weirdos, and making a lot of friends and having a great time.
i joined this site a while ago then dissapeared now i'm back again posting etc. however i've never been close to meeting anyone off the site. the problem i think is i still can't bring myself to get any photos of myself. i get a sinking feeling whenever i think about it ( i even created a seperate email strictly for this site ). does that mean this place isn't for me or something? if i can't bring myself to take or send pictures out yet. did this happen to any one else? male or female. or is this just a problem of my own head?
There's all sorts here, from the outrageously exhibitionist to the aloof and mysterious. Some are quite mad, others are very nearly sane. We've got big ones, small ones, some as big as yer 'ead. Some publish their pics, some don't. Some talk a lot, some say very little. Rich, poor, black, white (even blue
). There's people from all walks of life and lifestyle, and everyone fits in because there are no criteria, so don't worry about it not being the place for you just because you don't want to do what some other people are doing. Nobody will think ill of you for it, of that I am absolutely convinced.And no, you don't have a problem with your head, you just haven't come across a place as cool as this before and you'r looking for the catch.
But there isn't one. What you see is what you get, so pull up a pew, make yourself at home and clear your diary, and if you want to know what the people who don't have pics really look like, get yourself to a munch and you'll see that this place really is for everybody. :D
Ice
Sex God
Ice pie wrote:
Nicely observed post, Ice. Funny word, isn't it,aloof....never realised it before.
Mike.
There's all sorts here, from the outrageously exhibitionist to the aloof and mysterious
Nicely observed post, Ice. Funny word, isn't it,aloof....never realised it before.
Mike.
Sex God
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Ice pie wrote:There's all sorts here, from the outrageously exhibitionist to the aloof and mysterious
Nicely observed post, Ice. Funny word, isn't it,aloof....never realised it before.
Mike.
And some that can be classed as either..... IRL I have been told that I come across as aloof (and although I was :shock: at the time, it IS a funny word!)
You`ll laugh, but I was doing psychological research on fetishes. Whilst browsing I thought of seeing if we could get a swinging site, as we`d discussed it for years, but were browsing adverts in sex magazines which we found of-putting.
Bloody obvious we should have thought of it before now of course, but it wasn`t until the research I actually thought of it!
Venusxxx
Bloody obvious we should have thought of it before now of course, but it wasn`t until the research I actually thought of it!
Venusxxx
