hi please can all u couples tell me how u ask each other about getting into swinging?
simon
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How do i ask my wife to swing with me
Sex God
You know your wife better than most one assumes. You should know how to approach her.
have you never had a theoretical 'what if' conversation with her i.e. "have you ever thought what it would be like to be in a threesome dear?"....
Think on it a little. I would love to give you a flow diagram to follow but lets face it this is not gonig to happen if its really what you want then good luck to you mate
have you never had a theoretical 'what if' conversation with her i.e. "have you ever thought what it would be like to be in a threesome dear?"....
Think on it a little. I would love to give you a flow diagram to follow but lets face it this is not gonig to happen if its really what you want then good luck to you mate
Master of Sex
Quote by simon1980
hi please can all u couples tell me how u ask each other about getting into swinging?
simon
Single male... but married!!!!!
Sex God
What about
'Simon says let's shag other people'?
'Simon says let's shag other people'?
Sex God
Quote by Freckledbird
What about
'Simon says let's shag other people'?
:rotflmao: :rotflmao: Perhaps he thinks that swinging with couples will put the *sigh* in Simon.
Quote by simon1980
hi please can all u couples tell me how u ask each other about getting into swinging?
simon
I would imagine a lot of people already have quite deep conversations regarding fantasies and suchlike before the topic of swinging as a "real" practise comes up.
If you and your wife tend not to indulge in this, then i think it would be a bit of a shocker to just slip it into your usual pillow-talk.
If there are any indications that she might be interested, then you'd need to very subtley and gently explore that and expand the conversation to include the possibilty of real life experiences not just fantasy.
I think a lot of people would prefer - or even should - just stick to fantasy 'cos the reality is sommink else!
Sex God
Quote by Happy Cats
Just say, "youre a crap shag and i want to shag other women"
If that doesnt at first work, just keep telling her and eventually she will give in.
Well it worked for Pash and you gave in didn't you, HC? :lol:
Sex God
Quote by simon1980
hi please can all u couples tell me how u ask each other about getting into swinging?
simon
Is it me or did this question change???
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hi please can all u couples tell me how u ask each other about getting into swinging?
simon
Is it me or did this question change???
:? :?The original post isn't showing as edited. Maybe it's just your perception.
Possibly its caused by the title of the thread being a different question to that posted
Of course I could be talking out of my arse
hwoar: :happy: :bounce:hi, welcome to the forums,
im not sure how you would go about asking or making your wife swing.
if you have a good sexual relationship maybe it will be possibe to start making gentle comments heading this way.
I dont not think you should say anything to lead her into doing something she isnt into. dropping hints and allowing her the option to reveal its something she has thought about is different.
if its not leave it be.
if it is are you then going to explain youve been swinging without her the whole time youve been married to her?
you could be opening a big can of worms.
would be better if you made it cear on your profile that your married aswell.
i dont think im alone in checking out peoples profiles, ads and forum posts before a meet to get a feel for that person, or in fact see they are actually not to be trusted and have lied.
xxx fem xx
im not sure how you would go about asking or making your wife swing.
if you have a good sexual relationship maybe it will be possibe to start making gentle comments heading this way.
I dont not think you should say anything to lead her into doing something she isnt into. dropping hints and allowing her the option to reveal its something she has thought about is different.
if its not leave it be.
if it is are you then going to explain youve been swinging without her the whole time youve been married to her?
you could be opening a big can of worms.
would be better if you made it cear on your profile that your married aswell.
i dont think im alone in checking out peoples profiles, ads and forum posts before a meet to get a feel for that person, or in fact see they are actually not to be trusted and have lied.
xxx fem xx
She's at her worst time of the month, on the phone to her mother; who's giving her total grief, the kids are screeching at her for food and everythihg else in life, you've just told her you've been made redundant, the table is covered in unpaid bills, a dumped lover from a dodgy affair has just texted her with the fallout details, the police have arrived on your doorstep accusing you of kerb crawling.
I think that would be an ideal opportunity.
:shock:
I think that would be an ideal opportunity.
:shock:
Markz and Freckledbirds first posts on this thread really did actually make me lol!!
No seriously they did its not a cliche,
anyway all the funny stuff has been said now so here's for the whacky..... why dont you just go home and when ur wife is asleep, let your mate in the back door (ahem) and creep into bed with your wife!!??
He could then start to gently fondle her body (In the dark obviously) and as she begins to respond you turn the light on and say in mock shock "what the hell is going on here?" :shock:
Two scenarios are possible, your wife is shocked but in a state of sexual arousal suggests "what the hell, why dont we just go for it, he's here now?" OR Your wife says she has no idea you throw ur mate out the house in mock aggressive manner
and then go back upstairs and "talk about it" asking her if she is "into that kind of stuff?" and as she has OBVIOUSLY been "at it" you now require her to let you have another woman in your bed together?
Just a suggestion, thats how i did it with Miss SRNE
No seriously they did its not a cliche,
anyway all the funny stuff has been said now so here's for the whacky..... why dont you just go home and when ur wife is asleep, let your mate in the back door (ahem) and creep into bed with your wife!!??
He could then start to gently fondle her body (In the dark obviously) and as she begins to respond you turn the light on and say in mock shock "what the hell is going on here?" :shock:
Two scenarios are possible, your wife is shocked but in a state of sexual arousal suggests "what the hell, why dont we just go for it, he's here now?" OR Your wife says she has no idea you throw ur mate out the house in mock aggressive manner
and then go back upstairs and "talk about it" asking her if she is "into that kind of stuff?" and as she has OBVIOUSLY been "at it" you now require her to let you have another woman in your bed together?Just a suggestion, thats how i did it with Miss SRNE
Forum Virgin
Why dont you ask to come along with her to ours, as she does every Wednesday
Sex God
Quote by keeno
hi please can all u couples tell me how u ask each other about getting into swinging?
simon
Is it me or did this question change???
:? :?The original post isn't showing as edited. Maybe it's just your perception.
Possibly its caused by the title of the thread being a different question to that posted
Of course I could be talking out of my arse
If it is, your arse keeno - then im stillhearing you
That's exactly what I did talk about being Lost. I think I may have to stop reading forum at silly o'clock in the morning :lol2: Yhat really did answer my Question though thanks.
Sex God
Quote by flower411
hi please can all u couples tell me how u ask each other about getting into swinging?
simon
We didn`t "ask" really simon, it just became obvious after a very short space of time that, although we were really into each other, we also found other people attractive !!
I have always had this feeling but until I met mrs f it had always caused problems and as it turns out she was never entirely happy in monogamous relationships.
It is such a nice feeling being in touch with someone and I feel that if you have to ask the question then it is possible that your other half may not be open to the suggestion.
If you really want to bring the subject up, then during sex might be an idea but i`d definately say that if she doesn`t jump at the idea, there is no point trying to persuade !!
If people don`t want to do it , they don`t want to do it !!! Simple as that .
Enjoy what you have. I have spent years as a serial monogamist and I had a great time. Now mrs f and myself are together, we are experiencing something new and it`s great but swinging is the icing on the cake. It`s not essential
^^^^^^^^^^^^^Enlightened^^^^^^^^^^^^
Couldn't agree more
Met a couple at La chambre on a Fiday and the female confided (whilst her man was at the bar) that she came here only because he kept on at her to get into swinging but it just didn't appeal to her.
Makes me wonder how many other people do it just to keep the peace between them or face falling out over it/splitting up :!:
If there is an impasse it leaves some (male point of view) options to chose from.
1. Give up swinging . :shock:
2. Swing as a single without her permission (cheat) :!:
3. Swing as a single with her permission
4. Visit clubs as a couple where you can play as a single with her blessing and she doesn't have to play (best to go on a mixed night). 8-)
5. Dump the narrow minded cow.
The choice is yours but first have a good honest 2 way talk with her about it all and find a compromise that is right for you may want to keep option 5 to your self unless she wont discuss the matter or you get caught after going for option 2 (that is if you haven't already been dumped) :!:
Keep us posted on how it goes Simon.
Btw,
It is only fair to invite the females on here to submit the options from a reluctant partners perspective as they see them if they were faced with the same situation.
( I've created a Monster) :twisted: :lol:
Seven_up.
Makes me wonder how many other people do it just to keep the peace between them or face falling out over it/splitting up :!:
If there is an impasse it leaves some (male point of view) options to chose from.
1. Give up swinging . :shock:
2. Swing as a single without her permission (cheat) :!:
3. Swing as a single with her permission
4. Visit clubs as a couple where you can play as a single with her blessing and she doesn't have to play (best to go on a mixed night). 8-)
5. Dump the narrow minded cow.
The choice is yours but first have a good honest 2 way talk with her about it all and find a compromise that is right for you may want to keep option 5 to your self unless she wont discuss the matter or you get caught after going for option 2 (that is if you haven't already been dumped) :!:
Keep us posted on how it goes Simon.
Btw,
It is only fair to invite the females on here to submit the options from a reluctant partners perspective as they see them if they were faced with the same situation.
( I've created a Monster) :twisted: :lol:
Seven_up.
Sex God
I shouldnt worry mate , she was fine when we asked her.
Warming the Bed
Well my Mrs is Bi so we just started looking into this site....which led to cam'ing which led to parties invites....then nature took its course...
