Advice sought
I met a lovely lady online and went through to the stage where we met! Heavy petting but nothing more, but for lacking of time we'd have gone further!! but due to distance and opportunity as she is married we've not taken things further...but the main reason for not having another meeting is that she's not confident that I will find her attractive when we're in the all together! I've tried on many occassions to tell her that she's beautiful and she has nothing to worry about and I know once we meet again lust and passion will take over as it did before...but it getting to that point that she agrees to meet again which is the problem....
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How do I persuade !!!!
I spent god knows how many year paranoid about all me wobbly bits etc 
She has got to learn to feel good about herself.
I think one of the things that done it for me was being with people that didn't bat an eyelid at me. Were so natural with me when we were naked that I didn't feel looked at or anything. If anyone complimented me when I was naked then straight away I would try to suck in my tummy, stick out me shoulders so me boobs were higher and just was so concious of myself :?
Course talking afterwards was a must, then the compliments were welcome - but while I was naked I didn't like being talked about.
These days tho, me and me wobbly bits are just fine with each other ........ mind you I still think I would react if I was either complimented or criticised when naked. :?
Thats just me tho - for crying out loud don't try saying nowt, and then blame me if it all goes horribly wrong :lol2:
She has got to learn to feel good about herself. I think one of the things that done it for me was being with people that didn't bat an eyelid at me. Were so natural with me when we were naked that I didn't feel looked at or anything. If anyone complimented me when I was naked then straight away I would try to suck in my tummy, stick out me shoulders so me boobs were higher and just was so concious of myself :?
Course talking afterwards was a must, then the compliments were welcome - but while I was naked I didn't like being talked about.
These days tho, me and me wobbly bits are just fine with each other ........ mind you I still think I would react if I was either complimented or criticised when naked. :?
Thats just me tho - for crying out loud don't try saying nowt, and then blame me if it all goes horribly wrong :lol2:
Persuade her nicely to get over the myth that blokes love stick insect barbie dolls with fake tits and other bits n pieces.
Propose a couple of meetings in public places and agree to do nothing sexual (do try not to look at other women's arses/legs/tits.
Show her you're proud to be seen with her.
Don't for god's sake tell her you like her wobbly bits just yet.
Propose a couple of meetings in public places and agree to do nothing sexual (do try not to look at other women's arses/legs/tits.
Show her you're proud to be seen with her.Don't for god's sake tell her you like her wobbly bits just yet.
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Advice sought
I met a lovely lady online and went through to the stage where we met! Heavy petting but nothing more, but for lacking of time we'd have gone further!! but due to distance and opportunity as she is married we've not taken things further...but the main reason for not having another meeting is that she's not confident that I will find her attractive when we're in the all together! I've tried on many occassions to tell her that she's beautiful and she has nothing to worry about and I know once we meet again lust and passion will take over as it did before...but it getting to that point that she agrees to meet again which is the problem....
over to you....
You need to learn how to lie! Tell her without laughing!
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You are beautiful!
that course was invaluable
Whoa!!! wassat bit underneath??? :confused:
I wanna print this off forever and you won't say it properly!!
Or was that a good thing you said?? :confused:
It was a good thing!
Of course it was, how could you think it was anything else!
I love you, you are beautiful!
Sex God
Seriously now - have you looked long and deep into her eyes face on and told her she is beautiful because, if that's what you really believe, then it sounds like it is the only way she will believe it. If you don't really believe it then don't try it 'cos you'll get found out.
Let her look into your soul as you tell her.
Let her look into your soul as you tell her.
Orgasminator
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Seriously now - have you looked long and deep into her eyes face on and told her she is beautiful because, if that's what you really believe, then it sounds like it is the only way she will believe it. If you don't really believe it then don't try it 'cos you'll get found out.
Let her look into your soul as you tell her.
What perfect advice TE... I had the same problem when I met GT (and still do suffer with a lack of self esteem re - wibblywobbly bits)...
RacingGreen... that is exactly what you need to do... I found it so hard to believe that GT could fancy me and the way he just looked at me convinced me... He told me he loved me just less than a week in to our relationship... I replied 'you can't love me, you don't know me yet' to which he replied... 'I love what I see'... How could I resist that?!
Patience is a key also... you have to continually show her that you are thinking of her... GT emailed me love songs and I do still get the odd love track appearing mysteriously on my desk top...
There's nothing else for it... you have just got to be like Pepe Le Pew ;-)
Good luck!
Sex God
Am I the only one who's thinking 'but she's married' ?
Surely it won't/can't matter that much as she already has a husband?
Maybe she's using 'lack of confidence in herself' to put off meeting you again because she feels guilty?
Did you join this site for advice? Because swingers know how to get people who cheat, get together? Sorry all you other folks, I am trying very hard here; I know we should live and let live and be tolerant and OK yes there are cheaters on here (male and female) but I do think maybe we should draw the line at helping people to cheat!
Surely it won't/can't matter that much as she already has a husband?
Maybe she's using 'lack of confidence in herself' to put off meeting you again because she feels guilty?
Did you join this site for advice? Because swingers know how to get people who cheat, get together? Sorry all you other folks, I am trying very hard here; I know we should live and let live and be tolerant and OK yes there are cheaters on here (male and female) but I do think maybe we should draw the line at helping people to cheat!
Sex God
Errm 
If you take out the married bit, there is still a valid point - the point I chose to pick up on.
By all means give advice on other points
I refuse to get on the "all married people cheating are the incarnation of evil" bandwagon. It ain't my problem, hell it isn't even his - its the person who he is seeing, not even on this site that's the married one. Shouldn't she be the one that's told off for cheating rather than RacingGreen?
I will not preach to others about the morals of cheating (unless the cheater does it with arrogance or contempt etc) - I don't know enough about anyones life to feel able to do that. By all means others carry on, I'm not saying don't do it, I'm just saying that I won't.
By all means give advice on other points
I refuse to get on the "all married people cheating are the incarnation of evil" bandwagon. It ain't my problem, hell it isn't even his - its the person who he is seeing, not even on this site that's the married one. Shouldn't she be the one that's told off for cheating rather than RacingGreen?
I will not preach to others about the morals of cheating (unless the cheater does it with arrogance or contempt etc) - I don't know enough about anyones life to feel able to do that. By all means others carry on, I'm not saying don't do it, I'm just saying that I won't.
Orgasminator
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Am I the only one who's thinking 'but she's married' ?
Surely it won't/can't matter that much as she already has a husband?
Maybe she's using 'lack of confidence in herself' to put off meeting you again because she feels guilty?
Did you join this site for advice? Because swingers know how to get people who cheat, get together? Sorry all you other folks, I am trying very hard here; I know we should live and let live and be tolerant and OK yes there are cheaters on here (male and female) but I do think maybe we should draw the line at helping people to cheat!
Hiya Bev,
Yes I did consider *all* of the above but I chose not to be judgemental because I don't know all the facts. I responded with honesty because I identified with the poster's dilemma. Both GT and I were in very long term but unhappy relationships... all four people in the quadrangle were disatisfied but muddling along because the couples were friends (and still are friends)...
We married, GT's ex is now very happily re-married. If GT hadn't made the first move then, more then likely, there would still be four unhappy people in this world instead of three very happy people and one still looking for the love of his life (good luck babe!).
I do appreciate where you are coming from Bev... but I've found that things tend not to be black and white and until I feel I know the truth of the matter I prefer to withold judgement.
Take care both of you...
W
xx
Sex God
I agree with Feckledbird, this lady is married and may not want to meet with you again, and using that as an excuse rather than saying no thanks , and moving on
Orgasminator
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I agree with Feckledbird, this lady is married and may not want to meet with you again, and using that as an excuse rather than saying no thanks , and moving on
That is definitely a strong possibility!
Sex God
I didn't think I was being judgemental and I apologise if it came across that way. Each to their own and all that. My point was, he's come on here and asked for advice, basically to woo her - but she has been (at some point) wooed and may be just giving him that excuse because she doesn't want to see him, possibly out of guilt. Maybe, just maybe, he ought to be encouraging her to sort things with hubby if she's making excuses not to be with him (Racinggreen)?
I dont think this woman is using her figure and insecurities as an excuse, I think she is being honest with you. Ok she is married, but it is still a big step to go naked with someone else.
Why dont you suggest to her that she wares a basque or similar to meet you in, something that will help her keep her bits in place, and then assure her that you wont pressurise her to take of anything that she isnt comfortable removing?
That should help her feel better about herself
Why dont you suggest to her that she wares a basque or similar to meet you in, something that will help her keep her bits in place, and then assure her that you wont pressurise her to take of anything that she isnt comfortable removing?
That should help her feel better about herself
