How do I tell my male friend...

26 Dec 2005

How do I tell my male friend that I would like a bi-female to join us in bed?
How do I begin to explain that I often think of him pounding away on another woman whilst I lick his balls? Will that scare him?
Would it be a step too far to suggest he watches me and another woman pleasing eachother and then joins in whenever he is comfortable?
It is such a confusing issue rolleyes

26 Dec 2005

That's a tough one. If you're at all worried that he won't like the idea, you shouldn't try to force it on him. All you have to do is find yourself another man who won't mind. Someone like ... umm ... gosh, it's so hard to find a man like that these days. I suppose I could do it for you.
Worth a try, wasn't it?

26 Dec 2005

Quote by DJohn
That's a tough one. If you're at all worried that he won't like the idea, you shouldn't try to force it on him. All you have to do is find yourself another man who won't mind. Someone like ... umm ... gosh, it's so hard to find a man like that these days. I suppose I could do it for you.
Worth a try, wasn't it?

Like your style, but don't think it is going to work.

26 Dec 2005

Quote by heavenly
Like your style, but don't think it is going to work.

Not a chance.

26 Dec 2005

watch a porno together with thay scene ask him if he would like it lol

my mans desparate for me to find my bi side as i am still curious (never had the chance to try it out ) and thats wat he wants to a T

26 Dec 2005

Quote by PoloLady
How do I tell my male friend that I would like a bi-female to join us in bed?
How do I begin to explain that I often think of him pounding away on another woman whilst I lick his balls? Will that scare him?
Would it be a step too far to suggest he watches me and another woman pleasing eachother and then joins in whenever he is comfortable?
It is such a confusing issue

PL
Since when have this sort of thing worried you???
If I wasn't so far away, I would be in my car and on my way round to show him what you are suggesting lol

:lol: :lol:

26 Dec 2005

It could be that you have to let him think that it was all his idea. Have you ever spoken about HIS sexual fantasies?? You never know - he might be wanting exactly the same thing but does not know how to approach you about it!
The idea of watching a porn film is a good one too!!
C x

26 Dec 2005

PL hun xx
From an analogous male point of view I do not think you will have much of a problem.
It seems to be more of a male thing lol.
Wish you luck kiss

phredd

26 Dec 2005

Quote by PoloLady
How do I tell my male friend that I would like a bi-female to join us in bed? .... Will it scare him?
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He will probably think that all his Christmases have come at once!

26 Dec 2005

You're having us on.

26 Dec 2005

Quote by PoloLady
How do I tell my male friend that I would like a bi-female to join us in bed?
How do I begin to explain that I often think of him pounding away on another woman whilst I lick his balls? Will that scare him?
Would it be a step too far to suggest he watches me and another woman pleasing eachother and then joins in whenever he is comfortable?
It is such a confusing issue

Now this all depends on the type of guy he is cool

If he's purely a sexual partner, if he knows about your swinging lifestyle then easy. For example - "Hey, I fancy something a little different, how about we go find a lovely girl we can both fuck together?"is probably all you would need to say :twisted: lol

However, if this guy is not aware of your swinging, but is pretty adventurous in the bedroom, although you don't know how adventurous, then maybe a more gentle approach might be needed. Something like "You fuck so well, I would just love to watch you giving another woman the same pleasure." could have him practically frogmarching you off in seach of another woman. 8-)
On the other hand, if this guy is not aware of your swinging and you're not too sure of how adventurous he is willing to be, then he might just shit a brick at both those exclamations and run off into the sunset shrieking about the scariest moment of his life :undecided: leaving you with even less than a twosome confused

Something much more subtle needed here ...... ummmmmmm :?
Ummmm dunno

Errrr, lemme think :?
Oooh, here it is :idea: OK somehow bring the conversation round to fantasies, maybe when you're in bed, but not reached the big O? You can say something like"You and your stamina just knacker me out, could do with a helping hand here". See what his response is 8-)
If the response is something along the lines of "Ewww ya pervert!" Then it might be better to laugh it off and forget it :?
Any response that is curious about what you mean or questioning, then you can feed info slowly, so you can still back down and pretend you were joking. For instance, the next line explaining that you think it might be fun to have a go at sharing him with another woman. The more curious he then gets, then the more you can feed and and ask questions back about how he would feel etc 8-)
On the other hand, he might've just been holding back completely, waiting for you to mention something - The double back flip and Woooohoooooo noises might be an indication of this 8-)
So PL - ya gotta read the bloke and tell us what he's like, then we can expand a bit more and have a proper fool proof plan all laid out for ya :happy:

26 Dec 2005

You could bring the topic of converation around to sexual experiences and compare notes wink

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Give the impression that somewhere vaguely in the long and distant past you had experimented a little with threesomes.
If he takes the bait, then great :bounce: .
If he doesn't seem keen you can get out of it by saying "That was all a long time ago"
cool

Good luck :thumbup:

26 Dec 2005

Quote by duncanlondon
You're having us on.

Me? Having you on? :shock: wink

:grin:

26 Dec 2005

Quote by Missy
So PL - ya gotta read the bloke and tell us what he's like, then we can expand a bit more and have a proper fool proof plan all laid out for ya :happy:

Well so far when I have suggested trying something different he has always had plenty of good ideas but has never mentioned another woman being involved.
To date we have tried dressing up, bondage, strap-ons, role-play, videos and a few other things.
The first time that I mention "maybe we could try some extra company", he brought a sexy young man home and they both did me all-night. I mentioned it again and said that an extra guy wasn't the only option - so he brought 3 guys home and we had a mini gang-bang.
I am worried that if I don't actually suggest it being a woman that joins us, he will bring home the local rugby club.
So as you can see I have tried the subtle hints - it is time to be more direct? confused

26 Dec 2005

You don't like rugby? There must be a female football team near you somewhere. Why don't you invite them over one weekend?

26 Dec 2005

Both agree to write down a list of fantasies you would each like to try out, then sit down and discuss which ones you are both prepared to try out.
Hope this helps as it did us hehehehehe wink

26 Dec 2005

A girl I once had regular fun with invited a friend to mine one night and we had a fun night of drinking etc. My friend had gone for a lie down and I found myself being come onto by her friend. I was going down on her when I felt a pair of hands, then a mouth on my cock. The night turned into a wonderful and unforgettable one but I am convinced that my friend had engineered the night to introduce her sapphic side.

26 Dec 2005

Pololady, just tie him to the bed, bring your girlfriend him and tell him if doesnt join in, you will do it without him, if that doesnt work then maybe you should just dump him :grin:

26 Dec 2005

Quote by PoloLady
You're having us on.

Me? Having you on? :shock: wink

:grin:
naughty PoloLady smackbottom

26 Dec 2005

Just tell him what you have told us..................
Chances are he will jump at the opportunity.
The threesome that I have just had was .................
well it just WAS ! ! wink

:lol:

26 Dec 2005

this is what i did !!
i asked him if there was anything he wanted to do that he had never done before.... he said have a 3sum so he could watch me with another woman
a week later i was licking pussy and he was in 'man heaven'!!!
and since then we play as often as we can!!
job done!!
wonder what i should ask him what else? lol

26 Dec 2005

All I've gotta say is.
Bring it on..... ffs

26 Dec 2005

Quote by PoloLady
The first time that I mention "maybe we could try some extra company", he brought a sexy young man home and they both did me all-night. I mentioned it again and said that an extra guy wasn't the only option - so he brought 3 guys home and we had a mini gang-bang.

Oh PL, why didn't ya say that in the first place!! This is an easy one :smug:
OK go and collect the womans football team from your local bi pub. Bring em back to your partner. Say that you were gonna mention it, but thought you would save him the hassle of going and getting em :twisted: cool

8-) 8-)
Then you're away :twisted: :bounce:
Missy
who always thought she shoulda gone into an advisory career :smug:

26 Dec 2005

I think it would be trickier finding a guy who wouldnt go for that!!

27 Dec 2005

Quote by Naughty Wigan Couple
Pololady, just tie him to the bed, bring your girlfriend him and tell him if doesnt join in, you will do it without him, if that doesnt work then maybe you should just dump him :grin:

Yep, that should do it. Better still, tie him to chair and 'force' him to watch. smile

ps. pull the other one, it has bells attached. :twisted:

27 Dec 2005

I could be the victim for you!!!

27 Dec 2005

Quote by methuk
I could be the victim for you!!!

Has she got enough chairs though.
The last time I checked she had 4 bi blokes tied up in chairs around the bed, plus her BF that makes 5. Them dining sets, that persons of the female persuasion like so much, usually come with six chairs so you might be in with a chance mate.
lol