Been here for a while (as yet bloody unsuccessfuly!) and need advice from you experienced lot. My question is how on earth can I convince my missus to venture into the realms of this "seedy" world of swinging? Personally I cant wait to lose my "cherry" and meet loads of new people, but er indoors doesnt seem to understand.
Any pointers? :cry:
Thanks guys
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How do I tell the girlfriend i want to swing?
Sex God
well said dawn,,how can any one else convince if you cant m8 :thrilled:
Sex God
so you know his mrs then 
Quote by raunchyrabbits
Perhaps offer to take her out to a club, but just not tell her which type of club?
:shock: :shock: :shock: Read that as how to loose your girlfriend..... Good god if he did that she would slap him and tell him to take a hike!!....
My advice??..... Dont even bother.... If she isn't interested you are on a non starter!!.....
Shireen
Quote by da69ve
Perhaps offer to take her out to a club, but just not tell her which type of club?.
Now that i would have to see.....hope he's a good runner?
Run I dont think he could bent over like he would be. He would not be swinging for days.
forget it if the subject comes up be honest, but don't push to far to fast. If you want to play toghether is her pace or no pace.
My wife and I play but not in the same room, she chooses not to know and not to know that I know.
Her pace only!
GOOD LUCK.
Hmm. I seem to upset a few people here!! :cry:
Look. I didnt mean to offend anyone, and If I did Im sincerely sorry. Hey, Im just a regular, intellegent, witty guy tryng to broaden my horizons. Is that a crime?
Anyways, Ive been given some decent advice and will be taking heed over the festive period.
As some of you rightly say, its her pace or no pace. In that respect, this club thing sounds perfect. If I can convince her to attend one there doesn't have to be any involvement and if things progress the way I want it to, we could be regular visitors to this forum! (Dont moan)!
You never know, a few glasses of Californian white and the general festive spirit may just do the trick!!! LOL
So ladies and gentleducks, for now my fingers (and toes) remain firmly crossed, (typing has become difficult!) and with any luck my christmas may come early! (so to speak)!
Take care now...
Look. I didnt mean to offend anyone, and If I did Im sincerely sorry. Hey, Im just a regular, intellegent, witty guy tryng to broaden my horizons. Is that a crime?
Anyways, Ive been given some decent advice and will be taking heed over the festive period.
As some of you rightly say, its her pace or no pace. In that respect, this club thing sounds perfect. If I can convince her to attend one there doesn't have to be any involvement and if things progress the way I want it to, we could be regular visitors to this forum! (Dont moan)!
You never know, a few glasses of Californian white and the general festive spirit may just do the trick!!! LOL
So ladies and gentleducks, for now my fingers (and toes) remain firmly crossed, (typing has become difficult!) and with any luck my christmas may come early! (so to speak)!
Take care now...
Quote by Dawn_Mids
You never know, a few glasses of Californian white and the general festive spirit may just do the trick!!! LOL
Woohhhhhhhoooooooooooo get her pissed then get her to swing, excellent idea :bounce:
Don't forget to pack your bags for when she sobers up :thumbup:
What would be really funny is if she agreed to give it a go on her terms ..... told him she was not happy for him to play with other women, then went off and got shagged silly in a gang-bang
That's Karma! :lol: :lol: :lol:
Quote by da69ve
Sorry. Didnt mean to sound rude. "Seedy" is the exact term the missus used, thats all!!!
well if thats the term your wife uses....no point trying to convince her it looks like she has made her mind up on the subject!!
What he said :P
She's clearly made up her mind and her perception is her reality.. end of
On the other hand, you could let her watch a bloke give you one up the arse and see if she likes it... then progress from there... Just an idea like..... :wink:
Quote by Dawn_Mids
You never know, a few glasses of Californian white and the general festive spirit may just do the trick!!! LOL
Woohhhhhhhoooooooooooo get her pissed then get her to swing, excellent idea :bounce:
Don't forget to pack your bags for when she sobers up :thumbup:
Get her so druck she does not Know what she's doing! Sounds like to me. See you in court, please don't mension the site, it will give swinging a bad rep!
Quote by raunchyrabbits
How to tell your girlfriend you want to swing?
I guess you could do it in the style some people use for wishing someone a happy birthday, with big banners placed on roundabouts and motorway flyovers.
Maybe say it with flowers, and in the card write that you love her but want to shag other people too?
Perhaps offer to take her out to a club, but just not tell her which type of club?
HTH.
Sex God
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Get her so druck she does not Know what she's doing! Sounds like to me.
You'd think so, wouldn't you? But then this story popped up a recently: . The woman could not remember giving or refusing consent. Fortunately "the outcome did not set a precedent for other cases".
Just an idea but why don't you show her this site?
If you take her to a club she may feel your pushing her into something, but if you tell her about your curiosities about swinging and just let her read some of this she can have a look in the comfort of her own home with no pressure. She may find it "less seedy" - a bunch of us playing pictionary, and just general chit chat.
If you take her to a club she may feel your pushing her into something, but if you tell her about your curiosities about swinging and just let her read some of this she can have a look in the comfort of her own home with no pressure. She may find it "less seedy" - a bunch of us playing pictionary, and just general chit chat.
hi guys i tried for 5 years before we got into it,we went away to bath for a week and i set up a meet with a guy.i told kate about it an hour befor he met us in a beer gardenshe was not happy so i told her no pressure have a few drinks and a chat if she still felt the same no met with him spent the rest of the day and night having a few drinks and a laugh(he was a really nice guy) and it just progressed from there and she loved it,we have had a few 3some was worried how it would affect our marriage and how she would feel morrally in the morning,morrally it has not affected her one bit as she does not see it as dirty or seedy and as for our marriage that has not been affected either as we have total trust in each have always had a good sex life but it gets better and i think i have rambled long enough
Sex God
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Don;t worry mate the ladies can get a bit tetchy in here sometimes lol
I understood you mate
And how many have you met to suss out that we are tetchy? I'm guessing none with that attitude :P
Maybe he's right though Bex, but there are plenty of blokes who get tetchy too, particularly when we swingers are referred to as 'seedy'.
well id guess ud have to broach the subject gently ,,see her reaction if its a no no , then i wouldnt even try to go to the next step which would be a verbal , what would you like to try etc etc , but ya gotta be careful on this . lots of couples use this chat as foreplay and go no further ,,very tricky subject tread carefully but most of all RESPECT her wishes and views 
