Hi
Wanted to introduce myself and get a bit of advice while i'm at it (not at it literally!!!)
A couple I know recently introduced me to swinging and I loved it. logged onto your website and thought I'd look at a few ads before doing my own.
Unfortunately got a bit concerned. being a single gir it's all a bit daunting anyway, but seeing all the comments about non genuine people (pic collectors and the like) spooked me and being such a novice I have no idea how to tell the difference between the virtuous##!?? from those full of Shite.
thought I'd ask for some tips.
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How do I vet the naughties
Quote by clair
Hi I'm clair AKA (Saucyminx)
Wanted to introduce myself and get a bit of advice while i'm at it (not at it literally!!!)
A couple I know recently introduced me to swinging and I loved it. logged onto your website and thought I'd look at a few ads before doing my own.
Unfortunately got a bit concerned. being a single gir it's all a bit daunting anyway, but seeing all the comments about non genuine people (pic collectors and the like) spooked me and being such a novice I have no idea how to tell the difference between the virtuous##!?? from those full of Shite.
thought I'd ask for some tips.
If i was you i'd go to a few of the munches, there are a lot of single women on this site and other women will let u know who they have met that are nice we do try and look out for each other lol i find the best way to know who is genuine is by word of mouth, plus tho who go to the munches are usually genuine, but as suggested b4 hand always meet in a public place and always have someone know where u are, if i was u i'd give the that person a call infront of your meet saying u have arrived etc so he knows someone knows where u are
and i always suggest that u only meet 4 a drink first meet, purly because its easier to tell someone they not ur type on messenger etc that face to face, usually people meet 4 a drink with the view to seeing how it goes but be honest with urself after a night out with him can u really turn round to him and say sorry ur not my type i'm going home? if the answers yes then fine but if u feel funny/nervous about that then make it clear first meets for a drink only. Clubs are a good place to go as a single woman as well, cause they are a safe place with lots of people about and others will always help u out if things get out of hand. 
Sexlightened
I have yet to meet anyone from here and share the same/similar concerns. I intend on going on gut feeling and making contact through E-mail and then phone before going to meet anyone.
Quote by Vix
Go by gut instinct.
ALWAYS meet in a public place.
ALWAYS have a mate on call who knows where you are and, if poss, what you are doing.
Agree with Vix - be safe! You can also help yourself by asking for a photo with something in it that you specify. You can ask to speak on the phone and call them (don't have to give your number, but remember to withhold yours if you don't want to give it!). You can also get them to use a webcam to check that they are who they say they are. You can also check their posts on the forum (if they do) - might give you more of a range of info to make up you mind? I also agree with all the comments on meets.
Take care, but most of all, have fun!
Happy huntingCheers
Al
I agree with meeting in a public place and telling someone where you are!
And Munches are very good!......... or find some one that might no them!
Also it would be a good idear if you got a web cam.......... and make sure that they have one so you see what they look like!............as it has been Known that some peeps send false pics of there selfs via email!
Hope that helps a little!
Please please be safe!
Debsxxxxxxx
And Munches are very good!......... or find some one that might no them!
Also it would be a good idear if you got a web cam.......... and make sure that they have one so you see what they look like!............as it has been Known that some peeps send false pics of there selfs via email!
Hope that helps a little!
Please please be safe!
Debsxxxxxxx
Quote by Aldeway
i have done it again!!! .........some ones beaten me to it! :doh:
Oo you Young's!
Debs gos off to get back to some paper work on here!
That be my bot you're spanking there Debs? Woohoo, the day is looking up already!
:shock: :o :) :DNow be care full!.................... or you will get caught up in me web! :twisted: :twisted:
Quote by Debbiewebs
i have done it again!!! .........some ones beaten me to it! :doh:
Oo you Young's!
Debs gos off to get back to some paper work on here!
That be my bot you're spanking there Debs? Woohoo, the day is looking up already!
:shock: :o :) :DNow be care full!.................... or you will get caught up in me web! :twisted: :twisted:
Promises promises....
or, to put it another way, that's a risk I'm prepared to take..... :twisted: :twisted:
anyway, I have the ultimate web killer in my utility belt (slow bandwidth tee hee)
Mod
Quote by steveg_nw
..........I have no idea how to tell the difference between the virtuous##!?? .........
Me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! ......... I'm virtuous!! :twisted: :twisted: :twisted: :twisted: :twisted:
Steve
no Steve - you're virtual!!!
Mal
Quote by blonde
..........I have no idea how to tell the difference between the virtuous##!?? .........
Me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! ......... I'm virtuous!! :twisted: :twisted: :twisted: :twisted: :twisted:
Steve
Is that another word for OLD ? .............lol
ooooo your in the dog house now Blonde :roll: : :giggle:
Dabs rushes off to the Dictionary tread
Quote by Debbiewebs
..........I have no idea how to tell the difference between the virtuous##!?? .........
Me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! ......... I'm virtuous!! :twisted: :twisted: :twisted: :twisted: :twisted:
Steve
Is that another word for OLD ? .............lol
ooooo your in the dog house now Blonde :roll: : :giggle:
Dabs rushes off to the Dictionary tread
Debbiewebs,
Its OK babe .................. he wont remember he made a post. (age ! ) ......he wont read it !!! ................. so I am not worried ...............lol
Mind you I am not sure I should push my luck this far ........................ how do u delete what u've posted ???
Hi and welcome to the site 
, as for your question , i cant help much, we do all our swinging in clubs, but if you get to know people in here, get to a few munches , then parties maybe , you will be fine. Get chatting to some of the single ladies on here too, im sure they will be more than happy to point you in the right direction. Have fun , Dino, xx
, as for your question , i cant help much, we do all our swinging in clubs, but if you get to know people in here, get to a few munches , then parties maybe , you will be fine. Get chatting to some of the single ladies on here too, im sure they will be more than happy to point you in the right direction. Have fun , Dino, xx Well I'm feeling decidedly perky today! Thanks for all your pearls of wisdom folks I think it's helping already.
Me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! ......... I'm virtuous!! :twisted: :twisted: :twisted: :twisted: :twisted:
Steve
For instance I've completely convinced of Steve's virtue now - I can see it in his pic (lol)!
Girls if you could pm recommend me some good munches or handy people to meet - I would appreciate it.
Cheers
Quote by steveg_nw
..........I have no idea how to tell the difference between the virtuous##!?? .........
Me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! ......... I'm virtuous!! :twisted: :twisted: :twisted: :twisted: :twisted:
Steve
For instance I've completely convinced of Steve's virtue now - I can see it in his pic (lol)!
Girls if you could pm recommend me some good munches or handy people to meet - I would appreciate it.
Cheers
Hi I'm xxxx AKA (Saucyminx)
being such a novice I have no idea how to tell the difference between the virtuous##!?? from those full of Shite.
thought I'd ask for some tips.
Tip number 1
Don't sit down with an egg in your pocket.
Tip number 2
Meet me tomorrow for lunch somewhere in the East Mids, and I'll give you the lowdown on the pervy people that wander the halls and corridors of Swinging Heaven.
I can hope can't I ???
Quote by clair
Well I'm feeling decidedly perky today! Thanks for all your pearls of wisdom folks I think it's helping already.
..........I have no idea how to tell the difference between the virtuous##!?? .........
Me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! ......... I'm virtuous!! :twisted: :twisted: :twisted: :twisted: :twisted:
Steve
For instance I've completely convinced of Steve's virtue now - I can see it in his pic (lol)!
Girls if you could pm recommend me some good munches or handy people to meet - I would appreciate it.
CheersSo, that's what a virtue looks like is it? I often wondered.
:jagsatwork: :shock:
Sex God
Quote by clair
Well I'm feeling decidedly perky today! Thanks for all your pearls of wisdom folks I think it's helping already.
Girls if you could pm recommend me some good munches or handy people to meet - I would appreciate it.
Cheers
is this the point where all the guys jump up and down screaming... me me me!!!!
:) :) :) well i am tall and dark....... 2 out of 3 doing good for you.......
:happy: :happy: me me me!!!! :happy: :happy:
i am sure someone will vouch for me... and i now have a restraining order not allowing me within 50ft of a karaoke machine.....
sean xxxxxxx
VET the naughties???
Well I am naughty but NO way am I going to the VET :shock: :shock: . I have grown quite attached to these bits and NO WAY are you dragging me into the Vets just because I am naughty... UH UH . NO WAY JOSE.
You will have a serious fight :sparring: on yur hands if you think your are going to offer me a ride to the park - even if you tease me out with a promise of dogging.
I know what happens next, first its wag the tail we are off for a dogging ride, then next thing ya know your trying to drag me into some office by my leash and collar to have me err FIXED :eek:
So uh uh.. no vet here darling..
BTW - welcome :welcome: to SH and hope that you have fun...
:rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: oh and I am naughty as well as 
Well I am naughty but NO way am I going to the VET :shock: :shock: . I have grown quite attached to these bits and NO WAY are you dragging me into the Vets just because I am naughty... UH UH . NO WAY JOSE.
You will have a serious fight :sparring: on yur hands if you think your are going to offer me a ride to the park - even if you tease me out with a promise of dogging. I know what happens next, first its wag the tail we are off for a dogging ride, then next thing ya know your trying to drag me into some office by my leash and collar to have me err FIXED :eek:
So uh uh.. no vet here darling..
BTW - welcome :welcome: to SH and hope that you have fun...
:rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: oh and I am naughty as well as Quote by CiscoCat6k
VET the naughties???
Well I am naughty but NO way am I going to the VET :shock: :shock: . I have grown quite attached to these bits and NO WAY are you dragging me into the Vets just because I am naughty...
Yes, don't go there. As a musician I was pleased to go out to be orchestrated, but I mis-heard the words. Lucky I can run fast...
I'm naughty! ....... vet me!!!
It's all been said... munches .. phone a friend etc ....... basically, it's the same as in the vanilla world. How would you react to a guy chatting you up in a nightclub? You make your decision and go with it.... the only difference here is that some people can hide their true selves, that's when you ladies chat on the "SH What's He Like Really Grapevine" ........ it works, believe me, the girls on here are always in touch with each other and I'm sure any of them would help you out if you needed it.
Now.... how a bout a drink.... ....... dark alley .. somewhere in Soho? :lol: :lol:
It's all been said... munches .. phone a friend etc ....... basically, it's the same as in the vanilla world. How would you react to a guy chatting you up in a nightclub? You make your decision and go with it.... the only difference here is that some people can hide their true selves, that's when you ladies chat on the "SH What's He Like Really Grapevine" ........ it works, believe me, the girls on here are always in touch with each other and I'm sure any of them would help you out if you needed it.
Now.... how a bout a drink.... ....... dark alley .. somewhere in Soho?
:lol: :lol: 
Quote by KitKat
I prefer the old fashioned vetting method for naughties.
Nice pair of house bricks, infused with kinetic energy and placed upon a trajectory which will result in violent contact either side of the said naughties.
Just close your eyes and imagine it boys..... :twisted:
lhk
KitKat me thinks you've made a few eyes water there!!!
Just seen Wishmaster running out of that dark alley in Soho faster than Lynford Christie
:lol: :lol: Quote by KitKat
I prefer the old fashioned vetting method for naughties.
Nice pair of house bricks, infused with kinetic energy and placed upon a trajectory which will result in violent contact either side of the said naughties.
Just close your eyes and imagine it boys..... :twisted:
lhk
Doesn't that hurt?
Quote by dambuster
I prefer the old fashioned vetting method for naughties.
Nice pair of house bricks, infused with kinetic energy and placed upon a trajectory which will result in violent contact either side of the said naughties.
Just close your eyes and imagine it boys..... :twisted:
lhk
Doesn't that hurt?
its bound to leave mark dammie
