How do you feel about married men looking for discreet sex?

6 May 2005

Quote by duncanlondon
I just wondered why having 'got permission' to fuck someones partner it becomes acceptable behaviour. Is there not also a vice contained within the 'trade and barter' of spouses? Consenting married partners are committing adultery. Although not a criminal offence it is a civil offence. Despite that fact that all agree to do it.
Are there any thoughts on the complicity and product of adultery?

You do know this is a swingers sites? Often reffered to as wife swapping, etc etc? Would not be much going on if only un-married couples were here?

6 May 2005

As an overtly married man, who's wife is not interested in swinging, I've been approached my a female here with 'Fancy a Fuck?' I pointed out I was married and the question was withdrawn immediately. In a way, that's why I like the place.

6 May 2005

Quote by Ice Pie
Not passing moral judgement. Stating my opinion! Don't twist my words to suit your clever response. That's how 'superior' intellects (Hello Mr. Blair) tend to move on with a discussion.
I may have only joined this FORUM today, but I wasn't born yesterday.
I've stated my opinion. Some agree, others don't. Each to their own.
First and foremost, I don't lie to me. I don't intentionally, or knowingly, hurt others. I speak to people in the same tone they use with me.

You might get your opinion across a bit more clearly if you leave your aggression at the door. Just a thought.
Well here i go again, third time in less than a week and i agree with him!! Ice Pie if i didnt know you better i would think i was falling in love!!xx
Perhaps those that have failled relationshipos and baggage should butt out of other peoples relationships and get on with their own lives?
My PM Box remains, as ever open, come on i could do with a laugh today!!

6 May 2005

:shock: Didn't realise this was an old thread from way back last Sept till I was midway through reading it ... spooky resurrections, must've been way, way, way down the thread list ... cool

6 May 2005

Quote by westerross
As an overtly married man, who's wife is not interested in swinging, I've been approached my a female here with 'Fancy a Fuck?' I pointed out I was married and the question was withdrawn immediately. In a way, that's why I like the place.

Had a few polite offers, but all nicely withdrawn when I say I socialite due to my wife's wishes smile

As you say Tune, a nice site to be on...

6 May 2005

Quote by Libra-Love

Is it just me or are there far too many married men on this site looking for sex?
Now I'm not talking about married men looking for sex with the knowledge and consent of their wives, as this is my understanding of genuine swingers. I'm talking about all those married men out there looking for a little discreet one off or regular meet without the wife's consent. That's not swinging. That's cheating. And I don't understand how they have the audacity to advertise on a swinging site.
Be honest. Be real. Be true.

Let he/she without sin, cast the first stone !!!

6 May 2005

Quote by O. K.

Is it just me or are there far too many married men on this site looking for sex?
Now I'm not talking about married men looking for sex with the knowledge and consent of their wives, as this is my understanding of genuine swingers. I'm talking about all those married men out there looking for a little discreet one off or regular meet without the wife's consent. That's not swinging. That's cheating. And I don't understand how they have the audacity to advertise on a swinging site.
Be honest. Be real. Be true.

Let he/she without sin, cast the first stone !!!
O.K gets a gold star

6 May 2005

Quote by O. K.

Is it just me or are there far too many married men on this site looking for sex?
Now I'm not talking about married men looking for sex with the knowledge and consent of their wives, as this is my understanding of genuine swingers. I'm talking about all those married men out there looking for a little discreet one off or regular meet without the wife's consent. That's not swinging. That's cheating. And I don't understand how they have the audacity to advertise on a swinging site.
Be honest. Be real. Be true.

Let he/she without sin, cast the first stone !!!
Libra is single and does not play with married/cheating peeps so think she counts in that definition ;) Although I disagree with her actual viewpoint tis an observation ...

6 May 2005

Oh no :shock:
The ONLY problem with ressurected threads is that there may be a huge chunk of the book missing. I think Libra, like many of us, came to realise that many issues here are grey in colour as oppose to black or white.
x

6 May 2005

Hmmm. An interesting issue this. Since becoming an 'item' Sappho and I have not swung at all - though we have often talked about potential whos, whys and wheres. We are not married, but clearly in a relationship. Our preference is that we would probably swing as a couple - at least in the first instance. Having said that, neither of us would object to the other one 'playing', whether we were told about it or not.
Speaking for myself, I don't want there to be secrets, so I would raher that Sappho knew and approved. As I have mentioned elsewhere, Sappho has actively encouraged me to swing in the last few months when she has not been available - but I have chosen not to. If I approach someone through here (rather than chatting someone up in a bar) then there is a fair chance that they know I am in a relationship already. If one of the SH girlies were to make the first move (yeah, as if that is likely!! rolleyes

), then I would actually prefer it if she sent a PM to Sappho first along the lines of "Is it ok if I contact Will?"
I don't want us to have any secrets and if one of you girlies had the green light from Sappho, wouldn't you feel more comfortable? At least it would be proof that I (and, therefore, you) were not going behind someone's back, and isn't that important? It is to us. Trust is even more important in a swinging relationship than it is in a 'conventional' one.
Will

6 May 2005

Quote by O. K.

Is it just me or are there far too many married men on this site looking for sex?
Now I'm not talking about married men looking for sex with the knowledge and consent of their wives, as this is my understanding of genuine swingers. I'm talking about all those married men out there looking for a little discreet one off or regular meet without the wife's consent. That's not swinging. That's cheating. And I don't understand how they have the audacity to advertise on a swinging site.
Be honest. Be real. Be true.

Let he/she without sin, cast the first stone !!!
Maybe you should have read the ENTIRE thread then hey? rolleyes

6 May 2005

Quote by Libra-Love
Maybe you should have read the ENTIRE thread then hey?

I stood up for you ... sniffle... feels ignored now ;)

6 May 2005

Quote by tallnhairy
Maybe you should have read the ENTIRE thread then hey?

I stood up for you ... sniffle... feels ignored now ;)
kiss

Thank you TnH. Didn't mean to ignore you, just tired and was skim reading.

6 May 2005

Quote by foxylady 123
Not passing moral judgement. Stating my opinion! Don't twist my words to suit your clever response. That's how 'superior' intellects (Hello Mr. Blair) tend to move on with a discussion.
I may have only joined this FORUM today, but I wasn't born yesterday.
I've stated my opinion. Some agree, others don't. Each to their own.
First and foremost, I don't lie to me. I don't intentionally, or knowingly, hurt others. I speak to people in the same tone they use with me.

You might get your opinion across a bit more clearly if you leave your aggression at the door. Just a thought.
Well here i go again, third time in less than a week and i agree with him!! Ice Pie if i didnt know you better i would think i was falling in love!!xx
Perhaps those that have failled relationshipos and baggage should butt out of other peoples relationships and get on with their own lives?
My PM Box remains, as ever open, come on i could do with a laugh today!!
To quote lil gem....
I looked in my bothered bag, and I'm not :P

6 May 2005

I've seriously thought about whether I'm worried about married guys wanting a shag on the site. And I'm not worried at all dunno

6 May 2005

if i was asked to participate sexual erm..................things with a married man(unknown to his wife) well i wudn't say yes no way am i getting involved with a married man!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
sorry smile

7 May 2005

Quote by Reese
... "turn-down" letter:
~Reese!

Wow... do ya think we'll need to compose one of these?

7 May 2005

every relationship is different. what works for some, won't work for others. everyone has opinions about this, and mine is quite simple: tell the truth from the start.
my wife has her own circle of friends. i have mine. we're happy for each other to be doing what we are, and we can only do that because our own relationship is strong. we just want different things from life. we don't have to be having sex with all our friends, but if it happens; it happens. but this works for us.
i won't judge anyone for being married and looking for a little more from life, sexual or otherwise, so long as they are honest. to themselves, their existing partner, and any prospective partners.

7 May 2005

Quote by Libra-Love
Not passing moral judgement. Stating my opinion! Don't twist my words to suit your clever response. That's how 'superior' intellects (Hello Mr. Blair) tend to move on with a discussion.
I may have only joined this FORUM today, but I wasn't born yesterday.
I've stated my opinion. Some agree, others don't. Each to their own.
First and foremost, I don't lie to me. I don't intentionally, or knowingly, hurt others. I speak to people in the same tone they use with me.

You might get your opinion across a bit more clearly if you leave your aggression at the door. Just a thought.
Well here i go again, third time in less than a week and i agree with him!! Ice Pie if i didnt know you better i would think i was falling in love!!xx
Perhaps those that have failled relationshipos and baggage should butt out of other peoples relationships and get on with their own lives?
My PM Box remains, as ever open, come on i could do with a laugh today!!
To quote lil gem....
I looked in my bothered bag, and I'm not :P
Have those who (think they) live in glass houses always lived in glass houses???

:rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao:

7 May 2005

I'm afraid I'll have to agree to the "honesty is the best policy" line here. Ok I wouldn't say our relationship is conventional but there is honesty and lots of love in whatever we do.
If a partner feels the need to cheat then there are obviously other issues apart from sex IMHO. Infideltiy will only cause hurt and heartbreak no matter how well you hide it as it's self-destructive and stressful and this will change the behaviour in the relationship. If the differences can't be addressed, if a person can't be honest or communicate with their partner about their needs, if they have to lead a double life, then I personally believe that the relationship is better off ended so that everyone involved has a chance to be happy eventually.
Like I said.... just my humble opinion
Mr CC

7 May 2005

hi there
i have no probs about going with married men
thats upto them if they play away
thanks jo x

7 May 2005

well as i recently divorced man ( not because of affair just didnt get on ) i can simpathise with some of these guys had i known of the swinging scene before i might have gone down that road but there is 1 thing worse than what these guys are doing and thats what you women are doing judgemental people should all be shot or made to pay the price for that persons mistake im sure the have there reasons for doing what they do and if its a mistake its there's to make.

7 May 2005

Quote by hornywelshlad
well as i recently divorced man ( not because of affair just didnt get on ) i can simpathise with some of these guys had i known of the swinging scene before i might have gone down that road but there is 1 thing worse than what these guys are doing and thats what you women are doing judgemental people should all be shot or made to pay the price for that persons mistake im sure the have there reasons for doing what they do and if its a mistake its there's to make.

Three points:
1. What makes you think that everyone who has been negative about married cheats is female?
2. What makes you think that all married cheats are male?
3. In saying that people are being judgemental, you are labelling them and therefore being judgemental yourself.
Passes Hornywelshlad a gun (with one bullet loaded) and a bag of punctuation marks.

7 May 2005

Quote by hornywelshlad
well as i recently divorced man ( not because of affair just didnt get on ) i can simpathise with some of these guys had i known of the swinging scene before i might have gone down that road but there is 1 thing worse than what these guys are doing and thats what you women are doing judgemental people should all be shot or made to pay the price for that persons mistake im sure the have there reasons for doing what they do and if its a mistake its there's to make.

As Mr CC's had his say I might as well have mine...
Just because someone has a low opinion of cheating doesn't mean they're judgemental does it? confused

I know how I'd feel if my hubby went behind my back. I couldn't care less about their reasons for doing so if it's done without her knowing, there's no excuse for that I believe in total honesty. However I wouldn't lecture anyone doing so I'd just steer clear of them... does that make me judgemental?
I agree it's their mistake to make but that doesn't mean I can't have my own opinion or be able to express it. smile

Mrs CC

7 May 2005

Quote by Libra-Love

Is it just me or are there far too many married men on this site looking for sex?

Quite a few women too.

7 May 2005

firstly i canct be bothered with punctuation marks i do believe this post was about cheating men and posted by a woman or was i mistaken ???????

7 May 2005

Quote by freckledbird
Passes Hornywelshlad a gun (with one bullet loaded) and a bag of punctuation marks.

:rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao:
Sorry, but a total lack of punctuation marks makes the post almost unreadable. Sorry to be 'judgemental' lol

Now then, I had better get Sappho to log on and wade through the 300 or 400 "Can I contact Will?" PMs :rotflmao: :lol:
Somehow - I suspect not!! rolleyes

Will

7 May 2005

Quote by hornywelshlad
firstly i canct be bothered with punctuation marks i do believe this post was about cheating men and posted by a woman or was i mistaken ???????

Yes the post was about cheating men and was indeed posted by a woman. However, you referred to 'guys' and 'women' in your answer; this leads people to think that your reference was in the plural. Obviously your lack of literacy skills would explain the confusion.

7 May 2005

Quote by freckledbird
firstly i canct be bothered with punctuation marks i do believe this post was about cheating men and posted by a woman or was i mistaken ???????

Yes the post was about cheating men and was indeed posted by a woman. However, you referred to 'guys' and 'women' in your answer; this leads people to think that your reference was in the plural. Obviously your lack of literacy skills would explain the Bev!! worship

:worship:
Will

7 May 2005

keep to the main points of the thread instead of spoiling it ,its the points of view that matter.