How far does 'Soft Swing' go?

23 Mar 2005

This may be locked as it might have been over done... but hey!
We have been seeing the term 'soft swing' alot - now one can assume that full swing is everthing... partner swapping etc etc... smile

but surely people's concepts of 'Soft Swing' differ? Is it simply touching and a bit of kissing, foreplay... oral.. same room fun??? confused

Everyone seems to have a different concept of how far soft swinging goes...
Just looking for some clarity really.. but obviously.. if there is somewhere, where we have missed that goes through this, then please do just let us know!!! biggrin

Thanks
Mav and Sini
cool

23 Mar 2005

suppose its up to personal opinion thenr really....

23 Mar 2005

mm think its up to your own feelings on this, soft well stroking feeling petting oral up to your own bounderies really some cpls dont want fingers penertrating think its best to set the limits before you both start some cpls think kissing is to personal ,yep theres some things you gota keep between yourselfs

23 Mar 2005

My immediate response to this was ...soft swing stops when things get hard :shock:
But that would make it extremely unfulfilling wink

Seriously I think there are no rights or wrongs here other than it is important there is no misunderstanding between the participants as to what each others boundaries are .

23 Mar 2005

Quote by niceguysdoexist
My immediate response to this was ...soft swing stops when things get hard :shock:
But that would make it extremely unfulfilling
Seriously I think there are no rights or wrongs here other than it is important there is no misunderstanding between the participants as to what each others boundaries are .

cheers....
Suppose you just have to spell them out before you get started really....
But as so many ads say 'soft swing only' or such - sometimes it can be unclear what people are after?

23 Mar 2005

Soft swing is whatever you choose to call it. It ranges from just sharing a room to see and be seen through to everything except penetrative sex. 10 soft swingers would probably give you 11 different definitions. lol

You can set out your likes and dislikes before you start, but just saying "no" when you reach a limit works too.
The most important thing is to set your limits with your partner before you start and don't change them in the heat of the moment. Go away and discuss it a bit more and then change the limits if you still want to. One partner wanting to go further than agreed limits and trying to sort it out in the middle of a meet is often a recipe for a severe falling out.

23 Mar 2005

Quote by northwest-cpl
Soft swing is whatever you choose to call it. It ranges from just sharing a room to see and be seen through to everything except penetrative sex. 10 soft swingers would probably give you 11 different definitions.
You can set out your likes and dislikes before you start, but just saying "no" when you reach a limit works too.
The most important thing is to set your limits with your partner before you start and don't change them in the heat of the moment. Go away and discuss it a bit more and then change the limits if you still want to. One partner wanting to go further than agreed limits and trying to sort it out in the middle of a meet is often a recipe for a severe falling out.

Thanks for that!
Will definately have a serious chat!
biggrin

23 Mar 2005

I think soft swinging is everything bar full sex, tho a lot seem to be focused on kissing i know a lot of people that do full swap that not kiss, so i think it depends, u just have to set rules b4 you start i suppose smile

23 Mar 2005

Hmm..
and I thought soft swing was just my walk to the bathroom afterwards..

23 Mar 2005

Quote by naughtynymphos1
I think soft swinging is everything bar full sex

That is how we define Soft-Swing and we also include kissing within that definition.
We find kissing can be incredibly passionate and very,very erotic.
wink

D&Mxxx

23 Mar 2005

Quote by surreycouple2003
I think soft swinging is everything bar full sex

That is how we define Soft-Swing and we also include kissing within that definition.
We find kissing can be incredibly passionate and very,very erotic.
wink

D&Mxxx

23 Mar 2005

Quote by northeastcoupleuk
I think soft swinging is everything bar full sex

That is how we define Soft-Swing and we also include kissing within that definition.
We find kissing can be incredibly passionate and very,very erotic.
wink

D&Mxxx
awwww, bless...........
:wink:
D&Mxxx

24 Mar 2005

Aaah the old definitions game :-) Doesnt anyone else find a wry smile creeping over their faces , when surrounded by supposed hedonistic trail blazers a question gets asked about what the rules are ?? biggrin