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Quote by hayleyw2
I was told by a site member "Dont worry about it its not important, it's only the internet" when things went pair shaped. But this site and it's members is important to me. When i joined I felt like father xmas had adopted me.
Isn't he the guy who comes down your chimney?
:shock: :shock: :twisted:
:lol: 
Sex God
No need to be coy Hayley . It was me that said that in a reply to your confusing PM . We dont have to keep it secret , we think SH is a bit of fun on the internet . It has great intelligent and funny people and is most definately the best of its kind weve encountered .
But thats all it is , a bit of fun , and not huge at all in the scheme of things .
But thats all it is , a bit of fun , and not huge at all in the scheme of things .
Quote by Silk and Big G
No need to be coy Hayley . It was me that said that in a reply to your confusing PM . We dont have to keep it secret , we think SH is a bit of fun on the internet . It has great intelligent and funny people and is most definately the best of its kind weve encountered .
But thats all it is , a bit of fun , and not huge at all in the scheme of things .
Thats because you have each other and I'm glad for you. I'ts huge to me if you dont mind.
I know- sad.
And i wasn't being coy i was being discreet, I didnt want to mess anything up for you.
Sex God
Im not here to sympathise , or to judge . Were here for a giggle thats all .
If youre suggesting that the internet OR dogging is a replacement or reasonable substitute for a loving relationship then put quite simply theyre not .
No offence intended or arguament meant , but I think ill stay out of your threads in future unless invited cos everything I say seems to rub you up the wrong way , and also because id like to see some more entertaining stuff at the top of the board and I dont want to keep bumping them .
My opinion for what its worth is that as far as SH is concerned complaints and depressing overtures about things going wrong almost always illicit a negative response from all but the newest members . Perhaps it would all be more fun and less confrontational if we kept our very personal problems to ourselves (or in e mail and PM) and joined in the many more light and interesting discussions that are available here .
All the Best G
If youre suggesting that the internet OR dogging is a replacement or reasonable substitute for a loving relationship then put quite simply theyre not .
No offence intended or arguament meant , but I think ill stay out of your threads in future unless invited cos everything I say seems to rub you up the wrong way , and also because id like to see some more entertaining stuff at the top of the board and I dont want to keep bumping them .
My opinion for what its worth is that as far as SH is concerned complaints and depressing overtures about things going wrong almost always illicit a negative response from all but the newest members . Perhaps it would all be more fun and less confrontational if we kept our very personal problems to ourselves (or in e mail and PM) and joined in the many more light and interesting discussions that are available here .
All the Best G
Quote by Silk and Big G
Im not here to sympathise , or to judge . Were here for a giggle thats all .
If youre suggesting that the internet OR dogging is a replacement or reasonable substitute for a loving relationship then put quite simply theyre not .
No offence intended or arguament meant , but I think ill stay out of your threads in future unless invited cos everything I say seems to rub you up the wrong way , and also because id like to see some more entertaining stuff at the top of the board and I dont want to keep bumping them .
My opinion for what its worth is that as far as SH is concerned complaints and depressing overtures about things going wrong almost always illicit a negative response from all but the newest members . Perhaps it would all be more fun and less confrontational if we kept our very personal problems to ourselves (or in e mail and PM) and joined in the many more light and interesting discussions that are available here .
All the Best G
Quote by Silk and Big G
No need to be coy Hayley . It was me that said that in a reply to your confusing PM . We dont have to keep it secret , we think SH is a bit of fun on the internet . It has great intelligent and funny people and is most definately the best of its kind weve encountered .
But thats all it is , a bit of fun , and not huge at all in the scheme of things .
I`m glad this was brought up, because it`s a sentiment that has been voiced before, which for me personally, and for a few others, is not actually the case.
In my case I have very few offline friends who I can interact with as fully as I`d like to, they seem to be of a different breed! That is not to say I`m an unpopular saddo, simply that I get more satisfaction from life interacting with the kind of openminded (amongst other things ;) ) people who are rife on SH. Now, I could have carried on hanging out with only people who didn`t stimulate me, or just not bothered interacting with people at all, but neither of these options appealed to me much, so I did something about it! When I found SH, I recognised that I would be able to build the kind of real life circle of friends a personality like mine demands. I have been determined that this would extend beyond the keyboard, and it has, but due to distance and finance, the main bulk of my contact is acheived through the SH forum.
As a result we both have many close friends here, and just because we are separated by the PC, it is not an indication that the person I am interacting with is any less of a person as a result. For people like me, bust ups on here are just as valid as falling out with any friend in the flesh.
For some here, this forum is just a bit of fun, and that`s fine, others choose to make more of it than that, and that`s valid too, as long as it IS fulfilling, then whatever approach is not an indication of `not having a life` (Big G, I know you didn`t say that)
People just need to realise that some things mean different things others. It`s a personal thing. I suppose it depends what your scheme is, and what you decide to make of it.
Venusxxx
Sex God
K then
Hmmm...so that's what I've been doing wrong all this time. Making REAL friends and not just coming here for a laugh. I should be here for the sex and the sex alone.
Damn. I'm pleased it's starting to make sense to me now.
So I'll kick you when you're down and bring you down when you laugh. I have to you know, nothing personal, it's just cos if you laugh a little too much or a little too long you could be taking the piss out of me after all.
If life hands me a bag of shit today I won't express my want or need for emotional support and a kind word of encouragement from those I've come to know. No, please, feel free to rage fucking war cos that's not what you and I are here for. Give me the sex and we can be *virtual* friends. Cos I only want to fuck you, you're not welcome in my *real* world you fucking freaky cyber fiend. This IS cyber remember, you sad, sad girl.
So I wont post on my up days, I may be too cheery for you today. Won't post on my down days, I'm just an attention seeking slut anyway. So I'll try a little upper and downer and meet you all inbetween. Because this isn't my * real life* remember, it's cyber and I'm bonding with a fucking machine. I'm not your *genuine* friend and you could never be mine. And as long as you get that, you and me will get along just fine.
PS note, not one fucking emoticon needed either!
Damn. I'm pleased it's starting to make sense to me now.
So I'll kick you when you're down and bring you down when you laugh. I have to you know, nothing personal, it's just cos if you laugh a little too much or a little too long you could be taking the piss out of me after all.
If life hands me a bag of shit today I won't express my want or need for emotional support and a kind word of encouragement from those I've come to know. No, please, feel free to rage fucking war cos that's not what you and I are here for. Give me the sex and we can be *virtual* friends. Cos I only want to fuck you, you're not welcome in my *real* world you fucking freaky cyber fiend. This IS cyber remember, you sad, sad girl.
So I wont post on my up days, I may be too cheery for you today. Won't post on my down days, I'm just an attention seeking slut anyway. So I'll try a little upper and downer and meet you all inbetween. Because this isn't my * real life* remember, it's cyber and I'm bonding with a fucking machine. I'm not your *genuine* friend and you could never be mine. And as long as you get that, you and me will get along just fine.
PS note, not one fucking emoticon needed either!
Quote by Libra-Love
Hmmm...so that's what I've been doing wrong all this time. Making REAL friends and not just coming here for a laugh. I should be here for the sex and the sex alone.
Damn. I'm pleased it's starting to make sense to me now.
So I'll kick you when you're down and bring you down when you laugh. I have to you know, nothing personal, it's just cos if you laugh a little too much or a little too long you could be taking the piss out of me after all.
If life hands me a bag of shit today I won't express my want or need for emotional support and a kind word of encouragement from those I've come to know. No, please, feel free to rage fucking war cos that's not what you and I are here for. Give me the sex and we can be *virtual* friends. Cos I only want to fuck you, you're not welcome in my *real* world you fucking freaky cyber fiend. This IS cyber remember, you sad, sad girl.
So I wont post on my up days, I may be too cheery for you today. Won't post on my down days, I'm just an attention seeking slut anyway. So I'll try a little upper and downer and meet you all inbetween. Because this isn't my * real life* remember, it's cyber and I'm bonding with a fucking machine. I'm not your *genuine* friend and you could never be mine. And as long as you get that, you and me will get along just fine.
PS note, not one fucking emoticon needed either!
Amen to that ....
I think its fair to say that different folk are here for different things. And its not all to do with how much time you spend on here (in my case - far too much 
) but all to do what your reasons for spending any time at all here are.
I also don't think there is any need to have a go at folk that are here for different reasons to you.
What's I find interesting is any of my real life friends who I've intorduced this site to (and that would be folk who share my sense of humour and interests in life) never seem to fall under its spell. I am the only one who became addicted.
) but all to do what your reasons for spending any time at all here are.I also don't think there is any need to have a go at folk that are here for different reasons to you.
What's I find interesting is any of my real life friends who I've intorduced this site to (and that would be folk who share my sense of humour and interests in life) never seem to fall under its spell. I am the only one who became addicted.
Quote by hayleyw2
I was told by a site member "Dont worry about it its not important, it's only the internet" when things went pair shaped. But this site and it's members is important to me. When i joined I felt like father xmas had adopted me.
I'm not much of a people person, and I'm the same online as in real life in that way. However, what places like this offer is an opportunity to be "around" people without having to actually be around people, so to speak. It's a chance to be more selective and more in control of socialising, and yes, very easy to lean on the names on the screen for support sometimes, if you've either nobody else you think you can talk to, or feel comfortable posting such things on the net (not something I'd do, but I can see the need).
Just my collection of grubby small change
Sex God
Quote by hayleyw2
I was told by a site member "Dont worry about it its not important, it's only the internet" when things went pair shaped. But this site and it's members is important to me. When i joined I felt like father xmas had adopted me.
Just think of the place as football. To some it's just a dumb bunch of overpaid whingers kicking a plastic sphere round for however long it drags on for. To others it borders on a religion to crusade and fight for (either verbally or physically).
Just make sure you're not ripping the piss out of a crusader and you'll be fine.
I understand where the original poster comes from - I am normally too late to post about such things, but I do read the forums.
When you are in 'Cyber-space' and you look at the people around you in that dimension - they can, and do, become real friends - I know because I have met people on munches etc before.
What many do forget is that even though it is 'just a computer' it is the real person who types in the messages into the reply box. I.E. see how many times you have been pissed off at the automated message you get from customer service! How many times have you been totally pissed off when a geek tells you it is a computer error that has cause you so much grief!
But you then become a person who is willing to interact with people on the internet and you become that geek - 'It was only a joke, mis-understanding' Blah Blah!.
Look at this forum as all others - it is real people posting, real people who want to have an interaction with others, some what to laugh, others what to be supported. Treat people with the respect they deserve, as you would wish to be respected - whether online or in RL. Works wonders!
When you are in 'Cyber-space' and you look at the people around you in that dimension - they can, and do, become real friends - I know because I have met people on munches etc before.
What many do forget is that even though it is 'just a computer' it is the real person who types in the messages into the reply box. I.E. see how many times you have been pissed off at the automated message you get from customer service! How many times have you been totally pissed off when a geek tells you it is a computer error that has cause you so much grief!
But you then become a person who is willing to interact with people on the internet and you become that geek - 'It was only a joke, mis-understanding' Blah Blah!.
Look at this forum as all others - it is real people posting, real people who want to have an interaction with others, some what to laugh, others what to be supported. Treat people with the respect they deserve, as you would wish to be respected - whether online or in RL. Works wonders!
If I laugh just a little bit
maybe I can forget the chance
that I didn't have to know you
and live in peace, in peace
If I laugh just a little bit
maybe I can forget the plans that
I didn't use to get you
at home -- with me -- alone
If I laugh just a little bit
maybe I can recall the way
that I used to be, before you
and sleep at night -- and dream
If I laugh, baby if I laugh
just a little bit --
maybe I can forget the chance
that I didn't have to know you
and live in peace, in peace
If I laugh just a little bit
maybe I can forget the plans that
I didn't use to get you
at home -- with me -- alone
If I laugh just a little bit
maybe I can recall the way
that I used to be, before you
and sleep at night -- and dream
If I laugh, baby if I laugh
just a little bit --
I will put what I like on here as will any one of you I will never presume to tell anyone what to say and if there is something i dont enjoy I will leave it for those who do. It's just manners nothing special, no swearing or reference to bodily funtions needed. Silk and big g are always invited whether you want to is of couse up to you. This site is free and anyone over 18 can join so the saying it takes all sorts to make a world must also apply here. You dont have to enjoy every single thing, You can please some of the people some of the time. You cant please all blah blah blah.
Can I just make one thing clear - people can NOT post anything they like !
This may be a free site but it is, and will remain, legal, responsible and non-abusive. May I refer the honourable members to the site AUP if you are in need of guidance and/or reminding about what you can and cannot post. The Moderators will remove offensive posts, abusive messages AND the people who persitently post them, make no mistake about that.
Now, go and play nicely.
Read here if you need to remind yourselves of it
This may be a free site but it is, and will remain, legal, responsible and non-abusive. May I refer the honourable members to the site AUP if you are in need of guidance and/or reminding about what you can and cannot post. The Moderators will remove offensive posts, abusive messages AND the people who persitently post them, make no mistake about that.
Now, go and play nicely.
Read here if you need to remind yourselves of it
ops: :oops: I have a busy,full,active life - Family,friends,work,interests - I can fill my day,my night too - not THAT way as often as I'd like mind!
But this site has become vital to me.I have lots of laughs on it,yes.
But - I hope they don't mind me saying this - its clear I will be meeting various special (to me anyway)people via this site soon - and boy are they special - well worthy of being friends of mine ,and I,I hope of being friends of isn't all with sexual intentions it were all for sex why would I be bothering with people who've clearly stated thats not their reason for being here or being in contact now with me?There are different paths in this journey aren't there?
Hayley if you're reading this - keep posting - a lot of us want to read what you have to to contain some of your personal stuff yes - why? - because the sometime robust reaction you'll get here may add to your pain in that instant in time though I'm certain there is no malice intended on this stay here Hayley because you are overwelmingly amongst friends x
But this site has become vital to me.I have lots of laughs on it,yes.
But - I hope they don't mind me saying this - its clear I will be meeting various special (to me anyway)people via this site soon - and boy are they special - well worthy of being friends of mine ,and I,I hope of being friends of isn't all with sexual intentions it were all for sex why would I be bothering with people who've clearly stated thats not their reason for being here or being in contact now with me?There are different paths in this journey aren't there?
Hayley if you're reading this - keep posting - a lot of us want to read what you have to to contain some of your personal stuff yes - why? - because the sometime robust reaction you'll get here may add to your pain in that instant in time though I'm certain there is no malice intended on this stay here Hayley because you are overwelmingly amongst friends x
The way I felt about this topic yesterday is very different to how I feel about it today.
For those who think 'it's just the internet' - ask yourself this: is there a single person here whose opinion could get inside your skin if you met them in person ? If the answer is yes, whether that's because you like them, or you hate their guts, then you need to accept that there's a bit more to this than simple chit-chat or, and trust me on this, if and when you do meet them in person, you're lining yourself up for one hell of a shock.
For those who think 'it's just the internet' - ask yourself this: is there a single person here whose opinion could get inside your skin if you met them in person ? If the answer is yes, whether that's because you like them, or you hate their guts, then you need to accept that there's a bit more to this than simple chit-chat or, and trust me on this, if and when you do meet them in person, you're lining yourself up for one hell of a shock.
People use this site for different reasons and get from it what they want out of it. For some it is just a bit of fun, for others it is something more significant and more than 'just a website'. If this was a site about collecting comics or astronomy or classic cars then yes it would just be a website. However this site is about interpersonal relationships, which means it is about people, real people, who belong to a community that actually do meet eachother either socially or sexually.
The fun, the banter, the flirting, the serious debates are all part of what the site is good at mediating as well as allowing individuals to communicate via PMs and adverts. It works well for those who have learned to use it and it is free. However it is a personal site, not an impersonal one and it acts as a focus for a community which extends beyond cyberspace into real life. There are real people behind the words, people who have made real life connections with others who are likeminded.
For many those connections are continued beyon initial meetings. Those people we have met become part of our lives and we allow them into our homes and share intimate moments together. For many on this site this is what swinging means and it sometimes goes beyond something purely sexual. For many this site is vital, because it connectes them in a way they would be unable to in real life.
LC
The fun, the banter, the flirting, the serious debates are all part of what the site is good at mediating as well as allowing individuals to communicate via PMs and adverts. It works well for those who have learned to use it and it is free. However it is a personal site, not an impersonal one and it acts as a focus for a community which extends beyond cyberspace into real life. There are real people behind the words, people who have made real life connections with others who are likeminded.
For many those connections are continued beyon initial meetings. Those people we have met become part of our lives and we allow them into our homes and share intimate moments together. For many on this site this is what swinging means and it sometimes goes beyond something purely sexual. For many this site is vital, because it connectes them in a way they would be unable to in real life.
LC
