Hello everyone
I have now been on this site on and off for 5 years talked to folks who have seemed interested exchanged photos emails and in some instances numbers which seem to have been able to speak to once then numbers stays on voice message or unabtainable! I now feel my time on this site is coming to an end i have always been honest however it seems thats not always a two thing on here! Is this site really for the six pack 8 inch above men?
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Quote by ish
i have always been honest
Yet your profile doesn't state whether you are single or married. Many (possibly the majority) would make up their own mind and decide you are not single and so be crossed off their list.
You've also got photo's on your profile, but they are in your private gallery. No mention of what people need to do to see them. Maybe they are being hidden from somebody
Most threads like this usually go down the route of getting up off your ass and going to some of the many socials being organised. Get yourself known in chat. The more you put in, the more you get back.
Oh but to answer your main question....
I've been here for 9 years this month
Sex God
Excuse the pun, but in swinging,like all aspects of life, you get out what you put in.
If you've chosen to move on then fair enough, after all a seven year membership is slightly more than a trial
I don't doubt your experiences are as you say they are, but I do wonder whether you have put your best foot forward. before you get defensive please let me explain.
Your last post before today in the Forum was in Jun 2005. No I understand that the forum isn't everyone's cup of tea and consequently it is a much quieter part of the site. However could you have explored this option as a means of getting to know people?
You are amongst 1 million other single men and you don't appear to be doing much to sell yourself.
Have you placed an advert? That is one method of getting noticed.
Do you use the chatroom? I have to be honest I don't recall your profile name.
You haven't been totally honest on your profile, after all, what is your status? A blank status can easily lead people to think you have something to hide. A wife maybe?
Your photo's are also hidden, once again indicating that you may have something to hide.
Out of interest how often in the last seven years have you logged in? Once a day, Once a month? Less? More? The profile search facility isn't the best it could be but it is pretty good. Even if a person matched every criteria we are looking for, we wouldn't see their profile if they hadn't logged in for thirty days. perhaps this could be why your missing out?
Ultimately these sort of threads are either started in a petulant way, in which case delete your profile and cheerio, Or they end up with you getting some short term feedback on what you can do to improve your chances.
How you want to take the advice that your given is up to you.
If you've chosen to move on then fair enough, after all a seven year membership is slightly more than a trial
I don't doubt your experiences are as you say they are, but I do wonder whether you have put your best foot forward. before you get defensive please let me explain.
Your last post before today in the Forum was in Jun 2005. No I understand that the forum isn't everyone's cup of tea and consequently it is a much quieter part of the site. However could you have explored this option as a means of getting to know people?
You are amongst 1 million other single men and you don't appear to be doing much to sell yourself.
Have you placed an advert? That is one method of getting noticed.
Do you use the chatroom? I have to be honest I don't recall your profile name.
You haven't been totally honest on your profile, after all, what is your status? A blank status can easily lead people to think you have something to hide. A wife maybe?
Your photo's are also hidden, once again indicating that you may have something to hide.
Out of interest how often in the last seven years have you logged in? Once a day, Once a month? Less? More? The profile search facility isn't the best it could be but it is pretty good. Even if a person matched every criteria we are looking for, we wouldn't see their profile if they hadn't logged in for thirty days. perhaps this could be why your missing out?
Ultimately these sort of threads are either started in a petulant way, in which case delete your profile and cheerio, Or they end up with you getting some short term feedback on what you can do to improve your chances.
How you want to take the advice that your given is up to you.
Sex God
I was a member on this site for 15 months before I got my first meet, even though I went to several munches and socials, and posted a lot here in the forums. So there's no magic formula that works for everyone. But I agree with the others, an incomplete profile and no public pics does not help your cause.
Good luck.
Good luck.
Sex God
I'm sure there'll be lots of advice from people who swing more than I do. I've, almost always got meets through showing myself on cam. Getting to socials is a proven way to become an accepted part of the swinging community too. Photographs or camming are essential...no one's likely to date anonymous guys, but the timewasters will latch on to anyone.
hello thanks for your words of advice. I have frequently used the chat rooms as a means to get to know people and as a starting point to develop relationships i have built up conversations exchanged photos and in some cases numbers which have proved not to be genuine! but thats another story. Maybe i have not used the forum more than i should thats a fair point and i have now changed my status to show im single. The photos are private however i do exchange when i have chatted some people will look at my photos and so no thanks which is fair enough. I am honest in chat about how i look what i dont get is tHose people that say they are interested and continue to chat then stop responding to my messages or give me a number which we intitally talk on then no answer or its on voice mail.
Sex God
Everyone is different buy as a single male you do need to do something to get noticed. Again thats all depends what you are comfortable with and what you have time for. We have been here since 2005 and have been in chat used the forum a lot as you can see lol plus hosted about 5 social events. We have never had one meet as a direct result of this website but have got many at clubs and other websites.
Sex God
It's been said before ish, if you're a single guy then you need to be visible, otherwise you'll just attract the wankers who get off on message exchanges or chat in the rooms..don't be so naive as to think you're chatting with a woman...not always the case.
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Hmmmm that is intetested and gives me food for thought. If as a couple u have not been able to meet anyone via this site then what hope a big asian lad who is not the most wve.
It has nuffin to do with you not being the most well endowed, neither does it because you're an asian Shrek lookalike (your profile wording).
I read your profile and although a little sparse and poorly constructed (like i can talk) there was a little humour in there which is good.
My advice would be to clear house where your profile is concerned, start again, make it a little more about you, (keeping in some of the humour), a little more about what you would like and who you'd like to share etc and whatever happens put up a pic or three, it doesn't have to be one that identifies you, I know loads of Asian shrek lookalikes with small pee pees, actshewally I know loads of every kind of person from extreme ironing fanatics to Brighton Based hussy's (looks up to post above...and in the case of the two latter mentions I admit to zero knowledge of their pee pee sizes...but this may change).
Negativity often comes with..........well..............more negativity and your posts in this thread thus far are a little on the negative size so think positive, change stuff about, post up a few pics, maybe an advert and get down and durty in the chatrooms, works for me and I'm defo a Fiona (shreks female companion before she gets all bootiful like) and i've got fousands wanting in on my pink bits.
Sex God
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..... and i've got fousands wanting in on my pink bits.
It's true, but not if it involves apples
Sex God
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Hmmmm that is intetested and gives me food for thought. If as a couple u have not been able to meet anyone via this site then what hope a big asian lad who is not the most wve.
It has nuffin to do with you not being the most well endowed, neither does it because you're an asian Shrek lookalike (your profile wording).
I read your profile and although a little sparse and poorly constructed (like i can talk) there was a little humour in there which is good.
My advice would be to clear house where your profile is concerned, start again, make it a little more about you, (keeping in some of the humour), a little more about what you would like and who you'd like to share etc and whatever happens put up a pic or three, it doesn't have to be one that identifies you, I know loads of Asian shrek lookalikes with small pee pees, actshewally I know loads of every kind of person from extreme ironing fanatics to Brighton Based hussy's (looks up to post above...and in the case of the two latter mentions I admit to zero knowledge of their pee pee sizes...but this may change).
Negativity often comes with..........well..............more negativity and your posts in this thread thus far are a little on the negative size so think positive, change stuff about, post up a few pics, maybe an advert and get down and durty in the chatrooms, works for me and I'm defo a Fiona (shreks female companion before she gets all bootiful like) and i've got fousands wanting in on my pink bits.
Honestly though, your a woman
Write "I wantz 2 fuk" on your profile put up the worst pictures ever and you will get offers. As discussed in another thread not that long ago even blank female profiles get messages. Thats not to say Shrek sorry I mean Ish shouldent jazz up his profile though but its impossible to compare from a female point of view. Quote by tweeky
Honestly though, your a woman
Quite, but on the same token and speaking as a female one look at his profile and I'd be on to the next, poor profiles get very little response from me and as a female if a bifem/single bloke/couple want to get onto at least the first base with me they'd need to have made their window (profile) at least interesting enough for me to give it more than a passing glance.
and for sure female profiles appear to grab a good amount of traffic but there appears to be a reasonable amount of single males on here (or at least I seem to have spoken to a fair few of them that indicate as much) that have met with ppl off here and with some amount of regularity and who then go on to oodles of fun.
Sex God
Quote by Toots
Honestly though, your a woman
Quite, but on the same token and speaking as a female one look at his profile and I'd be on to the next, poor profiles get very little response from me and as a female if a bifem/single bloke/couple want to get onto at least the first base with me they'd need to have made their window (profile) at least interesting enough for me to give it more than a passing glance.
and for sure female profiles appear to grab a good amount of traffic but there appears to be a reasonable amount of single males on here (or at least I seem to have spoken to a fair few of them that indicate as much) that have met with ppl off here and with some amount of regularity and who then go on to oodles of fun.
As the male half of a couple who only meet single males we feel exactly the same. You don't settle for poor quality in other aspects of your life, so why would you do so in swinging? If the initial attraction, (via a profile, advert, chat or whatever) isn't there, then why would anyone go further. However if there is an initial spark it gives a chance for something to develop.
Hey i can understand and if someone tells me no thanks thats cool and i dont dwell on it because the site is always going to be around looks and attraction and equipment size! What i dont get is those people that claim to show interest but never seem to wanna act upon it even though they claim they want to! I have met people on other sites who are at least willing to go to the next step.
Quote by ish
Hello everyone
I have now been on this site on and off for 5 years talked to folks who have seemed interested exchanged photos emails and in some instances numbers which seem to have been able to speak to once then numbers stays on voice message or unabtainable! I now feel my time on this site is coming to an end i have always been honest however it seems thats not always a two thing on here! Is this site really for the six pack 8 inch above men?
As long as it takes
Sex God
Quote by ish
Hey i can understand and if someone tells me no thanks thats cool and i dont dwell on it because the site is always going to be around looks and attraction and equipment size! What i dont get is those people that claim to show interest but never seem to wanna act upon it even though they claim they want to! I have met people on other sites who are at least willing to go to the next step.
The polite name for those people is fantasists. We've all had to deal with them at some stage, and annoying as it is it helps if you learn from that experience.
Sex God
If your sole aim of being on this Site is to get a pre arranged meeting to have sex - then I reckon you are on a losing run after five years. Most people I know who use conventional dating Sites will get their leg over within six weeks - so why are you hanging around on here for five years?
If, on the other hand, you are using this Site to find out what is going on, seeing where the socials and parties are and attending those events - at which you make contacts - then you are using the Site well.
We have had three (or maybe 4) direct meetings as a result of being on this Site but lots more as a result of going to places suggested and recommended on here. After seven years our "success" rate as a couple may seem quite poor - but we have not really been trying hard - just have ads running and respond to people we like the look of, but rarely does it come to anything.
If, on the other hand, you are using this Site to find out what is going on, seeing where the socials and parties are and attending those events - at which you make contacts - then you are using the Site well.
We have had three (or maybe 4) direct meetings as a result of being on this Site but lots more as a result of going to places suggested and recommended on here. After seven years our "success" rate as a couple may seem quite poor - but we have not really been trying hard - just have ads running and respond to people we like the look of, but rarely does it come to anything.
Sex God
Joined 23 Mar 2005
Thats SEVEN years not five!
Thats SEVEN years not five!
Surely if u are Building up communication via this site whether it be in chat room, messages or phone contact via this site you would have more chance to take it on to the next level im not here just to get my leg over but id like to hopefully make some long lasting relationships even if they do not lead to intimacy. I am not sure how going to a social or event is gonna increase my chances of sex and like someone said its about looks so u would automatically be judged in that if u have not engaged in communication.
And yes its been 7 years! But from some of the responses other folk have not done much better and they have been more proactive than me!
And yes its been 7 years! But from some of the responses other folk have not done much better and they have been more proactive than me!
Sex God
Quote by ish
like someone said its about looks so u would automatically be judged in that if u have not engaged in communication.
Yes, but we judge everyone by looks don't we? it's human nature to do so.
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And yes its been 7 years! But from some of the responses other folk have not done much better and they have been more proactive than me!
So why get so bothered about things?
Sex God
Join a dating Site - or two
Master of Sex
umm a tip for the OP.. I'd recommend more ermm flattering photos..less pixelated too
Sex God
I never think about meeting people from S.H., when it happens it happens, if I want to meet someone I go out...I can recommend going out.
