Having just read Reese's thread about being let down and only having the weekends free, it got me wondering.
How do people fit swinging in around their life?
Personally I work full time (and quite long hours) so anything midweek is a definite no no. Because weekends are so precious to me a lot are taken up spending time with family & friends.
Although dammie's not well at the moment, when he's back at work I'll probably only see him at the weekend.
To me swinging isn't the be all and end all - it's just the cherry on the cake
So, What factors influence the days or times of day your available?
Do you go to clubs when you get the urge or is this something you have to plan in advance do to work, baby sitters etc.
And does anyone have issues with working irregular hours, being on call that may mean they have to pull out of meets and risks them being branded a timewaster?
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How often do you swing?
weekend meets are always going to be better for us as we can always find some free time for a munch,party etc as we dont have any young kids so no need for any babysitters 
.i work full time and do 3 shifts so meeting ppl in the wk aint gunna happen but we do go to the club (chams) on a friday evening if i happen to be working mornings that only other problem we may have is affording to go to all the munches,parties etc we have put our names down for for this yr we are down for 3 next month i think i need to ask my boss for a pay rise :P
.i work full time and do 3 shifts so meeting ppl in the wk aint gunna happen but we do go to the club (chams) on a friday evening if i happen to be working mornings that only other problem we may have is affording to go to all the munches,parties etc we have put our names down for for this yr we are down for 3 next month i think i need to ask my boss for a pay rise :P I work full time as well, and am busy trying to set myself up in practise. This coupled to the fact that I don't actually live with my swinging partner means that lately our fun and games have been somewhat restricted.
However, we do manage to have a lot of fun, even if it means its on an occassional basis.
I guess we tend to go for quality over quantity anyway, and use the memories of our experiences to enhance our own relationship.
However, we do manage to have a lot of fun, even if it means its on an occassional basis.
I guess we tend to go for quality over quantity anyway, and use the memories of our experiences to enhance our own relationship.
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How Often? Well not very often thats a fact. We just dont have the time 
We cant/dont play in the week due to long work hours etc, and weekends are the only times we have, but they seem to be taken up with family, munches, socials, Swinging Heaven, munches, socials and ohyes, Swinging Heaven
Umm, think we are doing something wrong here
We cant/dont play in the week due to long work hours etc, and weekends are the only times we have, but they seem to be taken up with family, munches, socials, Swinging Heaven, munches, socials and ohyes, Swinging Heaven
Umm, think we are doing something wrong here
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You forgot another fun stopper HLB, the womanly design fault. Sometimes the good weekends workwise are a no-no due to periods 
Usually we try to go to a club once or twice a month, which is not bad.
John & Shel
Usually we try to go to a club once or twice a month, which is not bad.
John & Shel
I'm very like you HLB, actual swinging really isnt the be all and end all, its definately the icing on the cake - but I can totally take it or leave it. 
I think my perspective on the whole thing has changed and i'm very much more into the social side now - which also fits nicely into my life at the mo: ie I can manage ( and enjoy) my coffee meets and 'doing lunch', I'm not good at being 'available' generally to travel far or for more than a couple of hours at a time cos I have other 'stuff' to attend to.
I'm a sessional worker rather than part/full time , some weeks I work 12 hours, some I work 50 - its very irregular so actually trying to pin me down for a 'meet' is difficult. On top of that I have a family, studies and a home to run and if i'm on a 50 hour week I'm afraid swinging goes on the back burner because they will always come first. I tend to play at/ after munches or other stuff I've had organised for ages which really takes the sponteneity out of it :cry:
This time last year I had an FB i could just call up as and when, and it worked brilliantly. I dont have that now and I miss it. On that point though I'm not willing to compromise or swing just for the sake of it, so right now I'm not actually swinging at all as there's no one in the pipeline :shock: :cry:
I think my perspective on the whole thing has changed and i'm very much more into the social side now - which also fits nicely into my life at the mo: ie I can manage ( and enjoy) my coffee meets and 'doing lunch', I'm not good at being 'available' generally to travel far or for more than a couple of hours at a time cos I have other 'stuff' to attend to.
I'm a sessional worker rather than part/full time , some weeks I work 12 hours, some I work 50 - its very irregular so actually trying to pin me down for a 'meet' is difficult. On top of that I have a family, studies and a home to run and if i'm on a 50 hour week I'm afraid swinging goes on the back burner because they will always come first. I tend to play at/ after munches or other stuff I've had organised for ages which really takes the sponteneity out of it :cry:
This time last year I had an FB i could just call up as and when, and it worked brilliantly. I dont have that now and I miss it. On that point though I'm not willing to compromise or swing just for the sake of it, so right now I'm not actually swinging at all as there's no one in the pipeline :shock: :cry:
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Quote by Darkfire
This time last year I had an FB i could just call up as and when
Cooeeeeeeeeee :twisted:
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My answer is infrequently - makes it all the more pleasurable when it happens. Definitely quality not quantity.
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Not very often, we do the socialising thing more than anything. Like TE said, quality not quantity.
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Quote by Darkfire
Not very often, we do the socialising thing more than anything. Like TE said, quality not quantity.
:thumbup: thats the phrase i was looking for but rambled on for 3 paragraphs instead
We all knew what you meant
Woman of few words, me.
Edited: not so few words, I just passed 7000 posts
ops: Sex God
Quote by Darkfire
Not very often, we do the socialising thing more than anything. Like TE said, quality not quantity.
:thumbup: thats the phrase i was looking for but rambled on for 3 paragraphs instead
Can you please be specific about which phrase you are crediting here!! ?
Because if it's the quality not quantity bit then I'm claiming the credit and FB can think up her own phrases!!
:lol: :lol: Sex God
Yes you did Dark, and yes I am 
- sorry.TE, behave - I can borrow bits can't I?
To me it's a very nice way to escape from my 'normal' world. I work far too many hours, usually unsociable hours at that ie nights, lates, I spend time at home with my son and have a couple of very good friends I see regularly ( one of those is my FB but not involved in swinging at all ) When I get the chance to meet up with someone from SH, that's my chance for some flirting, get my sexy undies on and have a damn good session !
I find the build up incredibly horny but have to be careful while son is around as to what I say
That said, it's not often enough for my liking so thank heavens for FBs ! :giggle:
I find the build up incredibly horny but have to be careful while son is around as to what I say
That said, it's not often enough for my liking so thank heavens for FBs ! :giggle:
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I'm glad to read you all do it infrequently (then again the ones who don't post might actually be out there swinging...)
We don't seem to have enough time to fit the few meets in we would like to do.... :cry:
I know what you mean hun, but that does make it all the more exciting when it does happen
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To me it's a very nice way to escape from my 'normal' world.
Yep, that's me too. Twenty-first century life is hectic, eh? Remember those programmes like 'Tomorrow's World' that promised us a life of leisure to come because of the magical microchip? Well we've been conned big time. And we can't blame Tony for that one, which makes it doubly annoying.
Swinging is a great release. Exciting, amusing and relaxing. Shame that although my life partner is great in every other way, she just would not understand my other world. Hey, we all need a hobby, and it sure beats trainspotting.
I need the extra buzz I can only seem to get from swinging. I know many people will be critical of me for that - am I being unfaithful? But it is about giving each other mutual transient, no-strings pleasure, isn't it? It's not an affair - although some of the friendships I have had have come pretty damn close (thanks to red Deb the millennium babe, and L way back).
And in answer to your question: not once in the last 8 months
- having been though a sexual drought owing to temporary location. Hopefully will be back up to once or twice a month - mostly in clubs such as Adam and Eve's and Cupids, and with occasional meets on my many travels. 
:) Sex God
You coming to our next party Jas? :twisted:
