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How should we screen single guys? UPDATED!!

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Hmmm. that Munch thingy seems like a good idea but there doen't appear to be a London one. The stickies in the 'Lets meet up' threads all appear to be for other places. sad
Am I just being blind or can someone enlighten me smile
By the way - the 700x10 seconds thing? Good spot fabio grooverider :cheers: That's another very important point. As a single male, you have to accept that some times there just aint the time.
i think its quite arrogent of a fella if he EXPECTS a reply.
I specifically tell couples that I am looking for couples with a very bi female - so both the male and female will want to play with me and me and the female can equally play with the male. I don't meet couples with straight fems or bi curious fems, they have to be actively bi and enjoy playing with women. I make sure I explain this clearly, several times! They always answer , yes, yes, yes, yes.
Yet still within an hour or so of making it all clear and making arrangements to meet...
Will you do my wife and I will watch.
I have never had another woman, but I am curious to see what it is like to have one lick me.
Did I mention the wife is not going to be there tonight?
Can we bring a friend as I don't like swinging with single females. (WTF- did you hear anything I said?)
and so on.....
But that's the way the cookie crumbles. You either take the chances and put up with the fact you'll encounter some dumb-ass people along the way or you end up sat on your arse wishing something would happen.
Quote by fabio grooverider
Well I guess its not surprising but what pees me off is when you do everything the couple asks for - pics, number, detailed letter, etc etc and you still don't hear a word back. By my reckoning it takes about 10 seconds to type thanks but no thanks - there I've just done it - but that rarely happens. Allowing for the fact that a significant proportion of the ads are probably fakes it still means there are an awful lot of rude people out there....Of course since they've privatised this site it may be that people can't reply.....anyone know?
But hey ho I keep on trying so how stoopid am I????!!! Doh...
Peter not really

okay... let's put some more propective into in... i know a person who put up an ad in women seeking men...... she ended up getting about 700 replies!!!!
700 x 10seconds equals 7000 seconds..... bearing in mind there are 3600 seconds in an hour!!!! so you want her to reply to everyone for the best part of 2 hrs saying "thanks but no thanks".....................
time to jump on the train marked "real life" methinks........
yeah - had she not heard of copy 'n' paste lol :lol: could cut that down to 1400 seconds easy.

Polo Consultancy Corp. Real life solutions for your virtual life problems.
Quote by Tobias69
Hmmm. that Munch thingy seems like a good idea but there doen't appear to be a London one. The stickies in the 'Lets meet up' threads all appear to be for other places. sad
Am I just being blind or can someone enlighten me smile

You could always just travel to one dunno
Quote by PoloLady
maybe im just paranoid but on the net a lot of people are not what they seem.

never rolleyes
lol :lol: :lol: wink
No
apparently it's true PoloLady (or not, as the case may be! confused )
Quote by the_Laird
maybe im just paranoid but on the net a lot of people are not what they seem.

never rolleyes
lol :lol: :lol: wink
No
apparently it's true PoloLady (or not, as the case may be! confused )
I don't believe you Miss!
:lol: :lol: :lol:
Quote by PoloLady
maybe im just paranoid but on the net a lot of people are not what they seem.

never rolleyes
lol :lol: :lol: wink
No
apparently it's true PoloLady (or not, as the case may be! confused )
I don't believe you Miss!
:lol: :lol: :lol:
:lol: cool Who told you??
/the Laird-ess goes off to change her profile
i just asked because you said you wouldnt touch someone who shaved that morning........surely thats less personel info than you give out on other subjects?
Quote by the_Laird
maybe im just paranoid but on the net a lot of people are not what they seem.

never rolleyes
lol :lol: :lol: wink
No
apparently it's true PoloLady (or not, as the case may be! confused )
I don't believe you Miss!
:lol: :lol: :lol:
:lol: cool Who told you??
/the Laird-ess goes off to change her profile
Good job I'm bi :twisted:
Quote by PoloLady

lol cool Who told you??
/the Laird-ess goes off to change her profile

Good job I'm bi :twisted:
Can I bring a friend??
:twisted: :twisted: :twisted:
jude if i had a problem with you i'd say it to your face. sounds like you have one with me though......whats all this "mr one liner" stuff your going on about in my inbox?
5 different pubs??? now thats going a bit far....
invite 5 guys 2 meet u 1 may show up - if u r lucky 2.......
people fall of scaffolding and everything lol ,
so do 1 pub saying `if we meet u 1 at a time,we may never get round to u...`
worked perfect the other night - we ended up with 2 really nice guys from here
and there is a london munch / social -
read the forums
if u need 2 do some serious screening c if u can borrow a mobile screening unit from the nhs!!!!!!!!!!!
2`s
Quote by the_Laird

lol cool Who told you??
/the Laird-ess goes off to change her profile

Good job I'm bi :twisted:
Can I bring a friend??
:twisted: :twisted: :twisted:
Sure, but I will be working so it will just be a fella that turns up to meet you. :lol:
Bugger - how does that help me confused feck-flarn-fluck! evil
Quote by PoloLady
I specifically tell couples that I am looking for couples with a very bi female - so both the male and female will want to play with me and me and the female can equally play with the male. I don't meet couples with straight fems or bi curious fems, they have to be actively bi and enjoy playing with women. I make sure I explain this clearly, several times! They always answer , yes, yes, yes, yes.
Yet still within an hour or so of making it all clear and making arrangements to meet...
Will you do my wife and I will watch.
I have never had another woman, but I am curious to see what it is like to have one lick me.
Did I mention the wife is not going to be there tonight?
Can we bring a friend as I don't like swinging with single females. (WTF- did you hear anything I said?)
and so on.....
But that's the way the cookie crumbles. You either take the chances and put up with the fact you'll encounter some dumb-ass people along the way or you end up sat on your arse wishing something would happen.

I could not help but notice a slight contradiction here. You do not wish to meet bi curious women, only fully active ones. Yet you say you are curious yourself.
Is that fair, and does it help by giving prosepective partners a confusing set of rules?
Quote by duncanlondon
I specifically tell couples that I am looking for couples with a very bi female - so both the male and female will want to play with me and me and the female can equally play with the male. I don't meet couples with straight fems or bi curious fems, they have to be actively bi and enjoy playing with women. I make sure I explain this clearly, several times! They always answer , yes, yes, yes, yes.
Yet still within an hour or so of making it all clear and making arrangements to meet...
Will you do my wife and I will watch.
I have never had another woman, but I am curious to see what it is like to have one lick me.
Did I mention the wife is not going to be there tonight?
Can we bring a friend as I don't like swinging with single females. (WTF- did you hear anything I said?)
and so on.....
But that's the way the cookie crumbles. You either take the chances and put up with the fact you'll encounter some dumb-ass people along the way or you end up sat on your arse wishing something would happen.

I could not help but notice a slight contradiction here. You do not wish to meet bi curious women, only fully active ones. yet you say you are curious yourself.
Is that fair, and does it help by giving prosepctive partners a confusing set of rules?
Where does it say that dunno confused
Quote by duncanlondon
Right where it says 'i am curious'

erm... do you mean below where it says "Yet within an hour or so of making it all clear and making arrangements to meet..."
As in - what follows is a typical list of examples of the things couples then say to demonstrate they are deaf! rolleyes
Edit - but having said that - what difference does it make. If I was bi-curious and only wanted to meet actively bi women - it would be my choice and then as long as I have explained that - then it is their choice as to whether my preferences meet theirs. But i still have no doubt that there would be some who said "yes, that's just what we want" and then half an hour later try to change the arrangement.
Sorry, I see it now. Its you saying what some couples come out with in the situation.
Quote by duncanlondon
Sorry, I see it now. Its you saying what some couples come out with in the situation.

Bingo - and I had all of them this Sunday. But that is what happens and you just say "no thanks" and move on to the next one.
Quote by Tobias69
Sounds like a great idea. biggrin Next question: where do we get details of London Muches?

Theres a London Munch/Social on March 4th organised by Fembernie if you are still interested. Not sure if there are any places left but you should find it in the Lets Meet up Section
Harry
Quote by easyease
maybe im just paranoid but on the net a lot of people are not what they seem.

Yes they are the silly buggers who spoil things for the genuine ones.
Quote by the_Laird

lol cool Who told you??
/the Laird-ess goes off to change her profile

Good job I'm bi :twisted:
Can I bring a friend??
:twisted: :twisted: :twisted:
would that be a bring and bi like they used to do on blue peter?
Quote by pb4u
maybe im just paranoid but on the net a lot of people are not what they seem.

Yes they are the silly buggers who spoil things for the genuine ones.
Only if you let them.
You can either focus on all the shit you have to wade through - or you can focus on the real fantastic fun you have when you find the good 'uns.
OK
I am a single male and yes, i know a lot of couple on here that have fun with single blokes. Unfortunaty because of the large number of T**ts, they decide not to advertise and may only advertise for couples and females.
A lot of such couple's do there screening by attending munchs meeting people socially first then they can decide if they get on to take things furthur. I dont have an advert on here nor do i openly say what i am looking for but people can tell what i am looking for by the way i act/flirt.
I belive that a big issus is that a lot of people just think by replying to an advert they will get the shag. This is not the case. You can learn a lot about people with just meeting socially for a drink.
I mean after now spending a couple of years in the scene, i am finally making the effort to dress up when i go to meet someone for the first time. The people that know me know that i will often just put jeans and a tshirt or shirt if it is a social meet i.e in a pub or round someones house. If it is a party where play might occur i do try and make an effort. Troucers and Shirt Time.
Guys here is my advice get yourself known on forums and chat. Come down to a munch meet people socilally and take it from there. Swinging isnt for everyone and there is a huge social scene, associtated with swinging. To be honest as well if you get youselfs known as a nice honest decent person, you will find that word of mouth spreads and you will end up making more friends and have more potential to take things furthur.
Mike
Excellent post Mike, really excellent kiss
You never mentioned the boxers though dunno
BTW - Guys, making a little effort when we do meet is a really good idea. After all, you are on a sort of first date and the ladies - in my experience - appreciate a well presented, polite, confident, man - especially if he's got a good girth about him.
On the subject of the London munch...
Quote by twos_company
5 different pubs??? now thats going a bit far....
invite 5 guys 2 meet u 1 may show up - if u r lucky 2.......
people fall of scaffolding and everything lol ,
so do 1 pub saying `if we meet u 1 at a time,we may never get round to u...`
worked perfect the other night - we ended up with 2 really nice guys from here
and there is a london munch / social -
read the forums
if u need 2 do some serious screening c if u can borrow a mobile screening unit from the nhs!!!!!!!!!!!
2`s

... er, I did read the forums... I guess some myopia has crept into my old age. Will try and join the fun, if there's still some room.
MOD EDIT - I HAVE MERGED THIS WITH THE ORIGINAL THREAD
A quick reca:
- we post ad to meet single guys for fun. We get inundate with a zillion replies (ok maybe slightly less). We want to arrange to meet them first so as to see whether we 'click' but there are only so many bars we can go to in a night without getting paralytic and anyway we don't want to trapse from bar to bar only to find someone doesn't turn up (again). :cry:
So, we read through all the fab advice smile and decided to meet all six guys in the same pub. We sent messages to all of them AND got replies from them saying that they'd turn up. I game them all my mobile number in case of problems or if they had trouble finding us in the appointed bar.
The result: One guy turned up :) and one texted to say he couldn't make it . Ergo, four guys didn't turn up or have the courtesy to text us, even if to say they'd bottled it. banghead :banghead: :banghead: :banghead: mad :x :x :x
... and they wonder why we complain! Maybe we're being unreasonable but what a waste of our time!
Rant over ! Sorry.
Hey hey hey.... 5hit happens ok...
no point complaining to us... what can we do about it?
some peeps were dragged up without manners
Ive missed out on two meets - with sex a dead cert!
both of them due to circumstances out of my control & I am unable to comply.
Yes in my case I have picked up the mobile text or emailed my appologies & reasons
But I would get a really bad taste in my mouth if they decided to post on SH their annoyance about my no show...
Yes we all could sit & winge but sit & think how tragic it would be if we always got what we wanted...
life would be very dull indeed!
:therethere: kick back suck on a brew... build a bridge & get over it drinkies