It seems that it is easy to be confident behind a keyboard. You can't be seen so you can let go & be totally free to say & do what you freedom is something a lot of people want but are to scared to let go & enjoy.
But what happens when you are not behind the keyboard?
I for one have wanted to go to a munch ( if there is ever one in my neck of the woods, hint hint) but would find it very difficult coping & chatting with a lot of people as i am quiet shy in a large group setting.I tend to stand back & watch people. I know some would say this is a lack of confidence but i never have the problem when meet 2's 3's or 4's groups or people i know & feel comfortable with.
So what are your thoughts on this?
Or should i have added this to the confidence thread?
Believe it or not, I'm quite shy in large groups, especially if I don't know anyone. I prefer smaller groups and it still takes me time to come out of my shell. I might come across as a gobby mare but it easier to seem more outgoing behind the safety of your keyboard.
We were shy and nervous about our first Munch - totally unfounded.
When we arrivied, we were spotted as Newbies by a regular Muncher, who introduced us to a small group of old timers and sat us down with them. We didn't get to chat to everyone there, but had people pointed out to and people came over to say a quick hello and introduce themselves.
The next Munch we went to we already knew some faces so it wasn't intimidating. We've been to four now and are becoming old hands.
There might be a lot of people in the venue, but not everyone will know each other already. As there are so many people there people to tend gather in small groups, then network, then end up back in small groups. There is a really friendly and relaxed atmosphere and before you know it you have joined in a conversation with someone before you have even left the bar.
The only advise I have for you first Munch is, don't wait until you need the toilet before you go, because it takes at least half an hour to walk three metres.
Les x
I'm to shy to comment in here even!
Mike xx
me and deb are both shy until we either:
1) get drunk
2) get to know you
3) get drunk
4) see you naked
5) get drunk
6) have sex with you
7) and get drunk.......
And dont even get us started on cams, they are def a no no...
dave and deb x
I'm dreadfully shy. Fortunately I didn't go to my frist munch on my own - if I'd had to go on my own I wouldn't have gone. It did seem like every one knew one another, I didn't recognise anyone (except BWM) Nat and I sat on our own for a bit, someone did come over and ask if a chair at our table was free, we said yes - thinking he was going to sit down , but he picked the chair up and walked off with it! Eventually a couple joined us but not cos we were being sociable and mingling - I think there was no where else to sit.
It's odd, I'm fine in any other situation - I'll go and ask direction, ask for help in shops, talk to people on the street (my friend had to stop me talking to people on the tube, she said I'd get locked up) but don't ask me to walk into a pub or bar or restuarant on my own, which is a bit of a problem, cos if you don't then you never get to meet anyone.
H.x
I don't think they meant any harm, I thought it was quite funny, and they did say please!
H.x
:lol2: 
:)
). As for munches, they pose problems for us on the shyness/confidence front, and also because we both work for a large company so it's frightning to think what would happen if we were spotted :shock:
like you say, it's dead easy to project a bit of confidence sat at home behind a keyboard, and i think there's sometimes there's the worry that people will expect you IRL to be exactly like you are on here, and maybe you don't think you could live up to it???? 
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