How so you know when a contact is genuine?

10 Sep 2005

Hi All,
Just wanting to get another opinion on this...
I replied to a photo ad a few days ago for a couple near me. I did them the courtesy of explaining a bit about me, attached a photo what I was looking for etc etc - wasn't an essay, but enough to paint a picture, and I thought, maybe open up a conversation with a view to meeting at some stage.
The response came through last night as "what you doing tonight X needs a seeing to and I can't get there" followed by a second email consisting of "our mobile number is XXXXXX"
No conversation, nothing - just a full blown come on and a mobile number. The emails were poorly written (badly formatted and crap spelling - am I being too fussy?!) and were sent from an email address that was clearly
Personally, I think I'm having my plonker pulled - what do you reckon?

10 Sep 2005

Quote by AndyWolves
Hi All,
Just wanting to get another opinion on this...
I replied to a photo ad a few days ago for a couple near me. I did them the courtesy of explaining a bit about me, attached a photo what I was looking for etc etc - wasn't an essay, but enough to paint a picture, and I thought, maybe open up a conversation with a view to meeting at some stage.
The response came through last night as "what you doing tonight X needs a seeing to and I can't get there" followed by a second email consisting of "our mobile number is XXXXXX"
No conversation, nothing - just a full blown come on and a mobile number. The emails were poorly written (badly formatted and crap spelling - am I being too fussy?!) and were sent from an email address that was clearly
Personally, I think I'm having my plonker pulled - what do you reckon?

No I don't think you are being too fussy .. I think that kind of approach would put me off too and make me question the validity of the people I was talking too.
Just tell them you need more time to get to know them before you jump into bed with them AW and if they are genuine then surely they would respect that smile

10 Sep 2005

Thanks DD - thats pretty much what I was thinking...
The vast majority of the people I've been talking to on here have been really laid back, non pushy and extra friendly - as have I tried to be.
This just really stood out as unusual - was worried it my be a set up or a scam.

10 Sep 2005

Why not ring them for a chat and see what happens?

10 Sep 2005

As Sarah said, I would ring them and see what the score is. However, as a general rule, if someone replies to me with just a very short email and a phone number I give it a miss. I trust my instincts and anyone who can't be bothered to write more than one line to explain themselves isn't worth my pursuing them tbh.
I do recall however, a long long time ago when I first started Internet "dating" :lol2: , I was advertising on another site for couples and single guys. I got a very short email from a couple with a phone number. It wasn't a one liner but it was very short, with only the briefest of details -- their ages and location, basically. But it did say that they did not own a PC and that they only get an hour or so on a mate's PC to reply to emails, therefore if I was interested, please could I ring them. As it happens they were in the same town as me, I was bored that day, so I decided that nothing ventured nothing gained and I rang the number. A bloke answered and he seemed very nice, he was happy to explain more about what they were looking for etc etc., he sounded genuine so I agreed to meet them both for a drink that night. Anyways, I said I would wait in the doorway of the said pub, which I did, feeling like a right pillock :lol2: . A bloke walked in and asked if I was me. I was :lol2: . No sign of his partner however :uhoh: . He bought me a drink and explained that they could not get a babysitter so he had come on his own confused

. I didn't really believe him tbh cos I'm a suspicous bastard, but when he said I was welcome to go back to his place to meet his partner I said yes dunno

. I can look after myself, but I was probably a bit foolhardy if not game for a laugh rolleyes

Anyhow, it all turned out fine, the partner did really exist, and we spent the next several hours shagging :rascal: . I eventually got home about 5am :twisted: . I was knackered the next day cos I had to take my cat to the vets for an operation at before going to work. I can tell you though that I had a BIG smile on my face at work, so much so that people kep asking me if I was ill :lol2:
The point is -- and yes there is a point -- that sometimes when people send short emails and a phone number, sometimes it is well worth making that call. If they sound OK on the phone, and their story seems genuine, then they probably are. I wouldn't recommend doing what I did above really, but I am quite a daft sod at times, and sometimes, as with anything in life, you have to take a risk.
Hope this helps :lol2:

10 Sep 2005

Have to agree with whats been said biggrin

Blue is spot on, I think trust your instincts, and chat on the phone. If you decide not to go ahead, there will always be another occasion.
It could be, that they are equally nervous, and not sure what to say, a phone call should put you right either way :D

10 Sep 2005

Spontaneity and surprise. Really sexy.

10 Sep 2005

We are newbies been chating to a couple for abit, but they wanted to see us on web cam. Can't put a web cam on this laptop because it only has 1 usb. so we asked if they wanted to ring us or us ring them to prove we are genuine. Now they have bloked us, don't you think a phone call would have been good enough to prove we are genuine? dunno

10 Sep 2005

Quote by maskedwench
We are newbies been chating to a couple for abit, but they wanted to see us on web cam. Can't put a web cam on this laptop because it only has 1 usb. so we asked if they wanted to ring us or us ring them to prove we are genuine. Now they have bloked us, don't you think a phone call would have been good enough to prove we are genuine?

Seems odd that a genuine person/people really wanting to meet would block you just cos you have no webcam. As more people have phones than webcams I think phoning is the most usual way to introude yourself. Plenty of couples use the fem-fem chat as the real sign of genuineness and willingness to meet.
My guess is that this was just some sad bloke who wanted a webcam show from you and nothing more.
Don't worry about it and move on.

10 Sep 2005

Quote by Goooner1

The response came through last night as "what you doing tonight X needs a seeing to and I can't get there" followed by a second email consisting of "our mobile number is XXXXXX"
No conversation, nothing - just a full blown come on and a mobile number. The emails were poorly written (badly formatted and crap spelling - am I being too fussy?!) and were sent from an email address that was clearly
Personally, I think I'm having my plonker pulled - what do you reckon?

Could well have been genuine. We aren't one's to go in for the whole getting to know someone and social meets beforehand thing, I'm sure we are in a minority in this smile

We just like to exchange a few emails, texts, maybe a quick phone call to confirm we are genuine and then down to business.
I know not everyone likes to do things this way, but it works for us, most of the time, except when the guy doesn't turn up mad

Not saying yours was genuine, but don't completely discount it. Like others have said though trust your instincts. If you do arrange a meet and get cold feet, at least email or text with an excuse so the people you're meeting aren't hanging around waiting for a no-show!
I would have to agree with this, we had our first meeting after a brief posting exchange on these forums We were intially a bit sceptical but since it was a dogging meet we thought if things didnt go according to plan we could always drive off.
Although the other cpl were running late we did finally meet up with them, they were really nice and much fun was had by all. I think after a few months of experience with many "cpls" turning out to be guys or cpls where the f wanted no involvement, we are now much more sceptical. So probably wouldn't have met people on the same basis, which is a shame really.
We now really like to webcam before meeting up, I know this is going OT a bit but how many genuine people these days really don't have a webcam? Given you can pick one up for about 10 quid and most of us now tend to have broadband is it that unreasonable to expect other genuine cpls to have one?

10 Sep 2005

Some people on here are not here to make chit chat or friends, some people are just here for sex, we had a couple come out to our house and when they arrived i invited them in and offered them a drink, which is usual for me, and the guy said, and i quote.....we are not here to drink and chat we are here to fuck.....and made his way uptairs :shock: so in respect of that i suppose the guy who contacted you could have been genuine, personally i would have called the number and made sure i spoke to the female, if not i would not have called back, i suppose it depends on what your after, some like to chat and make friends first some don't, as a few have mentioned it's best to go by your instincts if your not happy with anything at all don't do it

10 Sep 2005

Quote by naughtynymphos1
and the guy said, and i quote.....we are not here to drink and chat we are here to fuck.....and made his way uptairs :shock:

Did you show him where the front door was?

10 Sep 2005

Quote by steve_j
and the guy said, and i quote.....we are not here to drink and chat we are here to fuck.....and made his way uptairs :shock:

Did you show him where the front door was?
Well they was asked to leave, i don't mind jumping on someone as soon as they walk tho the door so long as we have met b4

10 Sep 2005

Quote by AndyWolves
How do you know when a contact is genuine?

I think the answer to that one must be along the lines of: 'If you feel good the morning after.'
There are genuine people who sound fake, and fake people who sound genuine, as well, of course, as the fake people who sound fake, and the genuine people who sound genuine.
lhk
Kat

10 Sep 2005

Quote by AndyWolves
Hi All,
Just wanting to get another opinion on this...
I replied to a photo ad a few days ago for a couple near me. I did them the courtesy of explaining a bit about me, attached a photo what I was looking for etc etc - wasn't an essay, but enough to paint a picture, and I thought, maybe open up a conversation with a view to meeting at some stage.
The response came through last night as "what you doing tonight X needs a seeing to and I can't get there" followed by a second email consisting of "our mobile number is XXXXXX"
No conversation, nothing - just a full blown come on and a mobile number. The emails were poorly written (badly formatted and crap spelling - am I being too fussy?!) and were sent from an email address that was clearly
Personally, I think I'm having my plonker pulled - what do you reckon?

Stick to your first instincts.... they're hardly ever wrong...... you could choose either to ring them and invite them to chat things over with you...... or you could leave well alone... and stick to your own methods of 'vetting' people..... either way.... hope you find what you're looking for..... and stay safe...
equi-princess xxx

10 Sep 2005

AndyWolves wrote:

Hi All,
Just wanting to get another opinion on this...
I replied to a photo ad a few days ago for a couple near me. I did them the courtesy of explaining a bit about me, attached a photo what I was looking for etc etc - wasn't an essay, but enough to paint a picture, and I thought, maybe open up a conversation with a view to meeting at some stage.
The response came through last night as "what you doing tonight X needs a seeing to and I can't get there" followed by a second email consisting of "our mobile number is XXXXXX"
No conversation, nothing - just a full blown come on and a mobile number. The emails were poorly written (badly formatted and crap spelling - am I being too fussy?!) and were sent from an email address that was clearly
Personally, I think I'm having my plonker pulled - what do you reckon?

I myself would of been curious as to why the replys where as you said, At the end of the day you have to play safe and make sure your 100% sure before meeting anyone.
bucksfuncpl wrote:

We now really like to webcam before meeting up, I know this is going OT a bit but how many genuine people these days really don't have a webcam? Given you can pick one up for about 10 quid and most of us now tend to have broadband is it that unreasonable to expect other genuine cpls to have one?

I find thats a good way to verify the person/persons is realy who they say they are ( as well as a phone call ) I think a majority of people do have cams now so it normally isn't a problem... I would feel happier if i can see a face before the meet lol

10 Sep 2005

There is a myth which is the 'Ronseal Swinger'. The ones who do exactky what they say on the advert/reply (tin).
Nothing will be quite in place as expected. So be aware of this and open to surprise and spontaneity. Or alternatively, remember to plan the easiest exit as you suss out the location on entry.

10 Sep 2005

I totally agree, you have to go on your gut instincts. I've had good experiences when I didn't expect to, and vice versa. Just before a meet, different thoughts and emotions are running through people's minds, and when the ice is broken, anything can happen ...

10 Sep 2005

Thanks Guys - I really, really appreciate your thoughts on this!
Decided to drop them an email inviting an msn chat or phone call. I can understand where some of you are coming from, but I just couldn't feel comfortable with calling them off the cuff - It's probably being totally over cautious, but I'd rather miss out than risk something horrible happening.
I'll keep everyone posted with the outcome!!!
Thanks again folks - you're stars!

10 Sep 2005

Quote by sharon_2005
AndyWolves wrote:

bucksfuncpl wrote:
I find thats a good way to verify the person/persons is realy who they say they are ( as well as a phone call ) I think a majority of people do have cams now so it normally isn't a problem... I would feel happier if i can see a face before the meet lol

Yes but for me I have a web cam and am perfectly happy to show my face on cam, give my phone number etc but as soon as I put my web cam on they all disappear. I never thought I was that ugly :upset:
DD

10 Sep 2005

awwwwww DD ?!! Hugs for you hun!!!
I'll make it a personal mission to go out and grab a cam in the next day or two - we'll talk!

10 Sep 2005

be careful the number they gave you is not a premium rate line

11 Sep 2005

awwww DD i'm sure thats not the case...
After all its personality that counts.......oh and if there any good when it gets down to the business :twisted: