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how swingy is the vanilla world?

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My wife and I have a friend who very soon after she was married started to discover condoms in her husband’s pockets. She would never consider herself a swinger, but never considered leaving him or confronting him. Although she knows nothing of our ‘other life’ she confided in my wife.
She never considered leaving her husband and was quite happy for him to ‘cheat’. It was only when she came home and discovered him in bed with another man that she broke-up. That is when she told my wife everything.
So, just how swingy is the vanilla world?
thats not swinging....thats cheating surely?
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thats not swinging....thats cheating surely?

but she was ok, when she thought it was just a woman. So she was happy that he was cheating.
happiness and settling for him cheating is not the same thing surely.
the things women do to get to watch corrie in peace a..
To be fair she seems like a crazy women to let her hubby do what he likes,
But to answer your question. I'm not sure there is such a thing called a vanilla world.
I know of people who been on here for years and never had any luck finding a meet,
it don't make them a swinger cause they on a site.
people just let it get to their head xx
confusedWritten by a loving married guy, who has a single profile, with a loving wife that insists he swings alone.
Man you so have it sorted don’t you. :?
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confusedWritten by a loving married guy, who has a single profile, with a loving wife that insists he swings alone.
Man you so have it sorted don’t you. :?

lol and his wife mate don't care that her fella sleeps around. well but when she found condoms in his pocket she was ok thinking it was just women. till found was a man,
This should be in the stories part of the site. it's like footballers wife's without the footballers
it's like footballers wife's without the footballers
And without the wife's by the sound of it!
I have to be honest, we have met a few single guys over the last couple of years but we are not interested in the slightest in a guy that says his wife is cool but doesn't want to get involved. Honesty is the way forward when playing as far as I am concerned.
I would say that swinging is mutual, nsa fun which is agreed by everyone it involves. If the wife didn't agree to the hubby playing away from home then that ain't swinging, its cheating.
Swinging is about trust and respect (and of course sexual activities) and if any one of those factors is missing (which it obviously was in the case of your friend) then it cant be classed as swinging.
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confusedWritten by a loving married guy, who has a single profile, with a loving wife that insists he swings alone.
Man you so have it sorted don’t you. :?

No, I would so like my wife with me. It is not sorted at all, but I live in forelorn hope that it will one day get sorted.
....and it is more that she play alone.
Funny old world?
Is cheating in the mind of the 'cheater' or in the fact the partner does not know?
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Is cheating in the mind of the 'cheater' or in the fact the partner does not know?

OOO fuck me .... we could disappear up our arses if we continue along this route lolWe could. Shall we say if the couple are happy who cares?
*** If thats an offer, yes.
surely the debate points towards wifey being homophobic? she was willing to tolerate women but not men?
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surely the debate points towards wifey being homophobic? she was willing to tolerate women but not men?

Or it may have been the widespread belief that men who have sex with other men are more likely to be hosts for sexually transmitted infections.
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surely the debate points towards wifey being homophobic? she was willing to tolerate women but not men?

Or it may have been the widespread belief that men who have sex with other men are more likely to be hosts for sexually transmitted infections.
na cause " started to discover condoms in her husband’s pockets" the story more fake then eastenders mate smile
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surely the debate points towards wifey being homophobic? she was willing to tolerate women but not men?

She did think that she was married as a cover for him being gay. She felt used that way.
well i suppose there was all sorts of mixed thoughts and feelings during the period of suspiscion and denial.
however once she was confronted with proof positive she responded in a characteristic way.
I'd have fucked him off as soon as I found out he was cheating on me. Be it with a male or female.
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...It was only when she came home and discovered him in bed with another man that she broke-up....

Not guilty! confused??:
;)
I guess it's down to how you define swinging really in terms of being able to answer your question.
We have vanilla friends (male/female couple) that like the odd threesome now and then but don't consider themselves Swingers.
We have single female friends that have a quite a few male fuck buddies but don't consider themselves Swingers.
I think your 'mate' was simply cheating on his with with another bloke as opposed to Swinging.
I agree with Funlovers2009 - whether or not she knew (but didn't know it was a bloke) is immaterial in my opinion. He'd never told her so this would be cheating in my book.
Is your mate hot? :rascal:
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...It was only when she came home and discovered him in bed with another man that she broke-up....

Not guilty! confused??:
;)
I guess it's down to how you define swinging really in terms of being able to answer your question.
We have vanilla friends (male/female couple) that like the odd threesome now and then but don't consider themselves Swingers.
We have single female friends that have a quite a few male fuck buddies but don't consider themselves Swingers.
I think your 'mate' was simply cheating on his with with another bloke as opposed to Swinging.
I agree with Funlovers2009 - whether or not she knew (but didn't know it was a bloke) is immaterial in my opinion. He'd never told her so this would be cheating in my book.
Is your mate hot? :rascal:
Never looked at him that way bloke.
...and she was always more of a mate than he was, in the friendly sort of way.
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well i suppose there was all sorts of mixed thoughts and feelings during the period of suspiscion and denial.
however once she was confronted with proof positive she responded in a characteristic way.

Characteristic, of what?
A English wife; told by everyone what is right and wrong?
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...It was only when she came home and discovered him in bed with another man that she broke-up....

Not guilty! confused??:
;)

what you like sweetheart lol
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what you like sweetheart lol

Come and find out :rascal: