Well a very good friend of our's has just found out a cpl of weeks ago he got the big C gullet cancer even. He been told he had a for a long time and it is very in the late stage's. He is only 45 and got 3 young children under 10. They are very very gutted too say the least and so are we has my hubby has known him since he was 15 and 30 years is a very long time too be best mate's.
Now my hubby not in best of health so i have too keep a very close eye on him too. I am also a very good mate too our friends partner too who is finding it very hard too cope with at the moment. She is over 10 yrs younger than he is and loves the bones off his body all she keep saying is i dont want too lose him. Wot elae can i do to help her though this really bad time. And how doe's she explain too the kids. We have told her she dont not yet just too say that daddy is poorly i mean wot else can she say they are only 8 6 and 16month.
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Thanks too all that responded to my post and for the advice. Well he went too christie's on momday too be told that he got up too 12month with cemo if that how you spell it. And he started the first treatment today.
He was told too be there for 8am which he was and they didnt start his treatment till 1pm saying they had got back log's from yesturday. Now i know this is propley true but i feel for him n his mrs how they must have felt has he wudnt have fisnished his treatment till 9pm tonight. Once again thanks all.
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Just read it bone and thank you so much ya sure do know who your friends are wen it come's down too it. And belive me i have found out we got some really good friends on here too babe's. Love's ya load's.
shaz xxxxx
I think all you can do is be there...talk about normal stuff if you can as trying to keep things as ordinary as poss does help a little. Remember that he is still here and encourage them to make the most of
sugs hun you know i luffs ya loads and am always here for you babes it dont matter to me if its 1pm or 1am call if you need me and if i can i will come running. xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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There are some really good support groups out there and I would definitely get in touch with them about what help can be offered. We've found their help invaluable, from applying for benefits to counselling etc. They really offer clear thinking when you can't do it yourself.
Good luck and hugs to all involved.
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i know there is really good support groups Calista. But they cant even talk about it between thereself's yet so dont think they wuould beable too with anyone else either. My mother has offered too talk too them about it has she lost a child too the big C. But like we said no one can make them talk about it although it wud help they have got too make that decesion thereself's. All we can do is be here for them at anytime of the day which we have told them that wen ever they want we will have the kids for them too.
But once again thanks too everyone that has post on thread and for there support aswell many thanks.
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I had to tell my children recently that a family member has terminal cancer. I debated for a while over whether to tell them but I made the decision that they should know while she was relatively well ( on the outside). We explained that she was ill and would go to heaven and they seemed to take it quite well.
Im glad I did tell them because only two weeks later and one course of Chemotherapy my relative lost all of her hair and it would of been a great shock for the kids to see her like that without knowing what was going on.
It must be the hardest thing in the world to do when its one of their parents but I think they need time to get their little heads around it. It would be more upsetting to suddenly lose their parent without prior notice.
My deepest sympathy's go to you, your friend and their family.
Louise xx
Thanks helen hun hug's
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can offer you support then it shows that everyone cares about their fellow human beings in their time of need.