I don't think you can really know anyone that well by reading someone's posts in the forum or chatting by pm/chat or even meeting once or twice. You can gain an idea of what a person likes, interested in etc. Yet, its only what information they want to share.
You can make friends to a degree - but those friendships have to be maintained to continue.
They are some members here who would be welcome in my home any time - they are few and far between and I have known them a very long time and have complete trust in them.
Whenever I see threads like this I always think of
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Quote by anais
I don't think you can really know anyone that well by reading someone's posts in the forum or chatting by pm/chat or even meeting once or twice. You can gain an idea of what a person likes, interested in etc. Yet, its only what information they want to share.
You can make friends to a degree - but those friendships have to be maintained to continue.
They are some members here who would be welcome in my home any time - they are few and far between and I have known them a very long time and have complete trust in them.
Whenever I see threads like this I always think of Johari's window
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Me me me.......
I would say the posts here are a good place to start, but I would never jump into bed with someone just of the cafe posts.
It is a chance to say yes may and lets PM them, then a lot of PMs and may be a cam-meet, then who knows. There are a few here I would like a chat over a cup of coffee. Even then, well, no one knows everything about me.
Some will see my interest in history, others think I am a computer wiz, I am not.
People see what they see, perhaps what we have in common, perhaps what surprises them.
The cafe is a good place to start. No more!
Travis
It is a chance to say yes may and lets PM them, then a lot of PMs and may be a cam-meet, then who knows. There are a few here I would like a chat over a cup of coffee. Even then, well, no one knows everything about me.
Some will see my interest in history, others think I am a computer wiz, I am not.
People see what they see, perhaps what we have in common, perhaps what surprises them.
The cafe is a good place to start. No more!
Travis
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I don't even know me these days. So how anybody else could claim to know me is a mystery to me. P'raps, if anyone does, they could contact me and tell me. Save a helluva lot of time methinks.
I managed to get 'me' in that post 8 times!! :smug:
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I managed to get 'me' in that post 8 times!! :smug:
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Quote by anais
I don't think you can really know anyone that well by reading someone's posts in the forum or chatting by pm/chat or even meeting once or twice. You can gain an idea of what a person likes, interested in etc. Yet, its only what information they want to share.
You can make friends to a degree - but those friendships have to be maintained to continue.
They are some members here who would be welcome in my home any time - they are few and far between and I have known them a very long time and have complete trust in them.
Whenever I see threads like this I always think of Johari's window
Link to Interactive Johari Window for anyone interested in doing it with friends.
I like the Johari window, but it can be unhelpful if participants are overly aware of it - I know I have a solidly defined hidden area, but I also know why it's hidden, and what I choose to park there. So if I take part in a Johari exercise I'm starting from the basis that I know what I don't want people to know, and that the shape of that space is contextually determined. Here in SH I asume most of us are consciously playing a role that is both self-determined and a mirror we hold up to test our self awareness.
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I don't think you can really know anyone that well by reading someone's posts in the forum or chatting by pm/chat or even meeting once or twice. You can gain an idea of what a person likes, interested in etc. Yet, its only what information they want to share.
You can make friends to a degree - but those friendships have to be maintained to continue.
They are some members here who would be welcome in my home any time - they are few and far between and I have known them a very long time and have complete trust in them.
Whenever I see threads like this I always think of Johari's window
Link to Interactive Johari Window for anyone interested in doing it with friends.
I like the Johari window, but it can be unhelpful if participants are overly aware of it - I know I have a solidly defined hidden area, but I also know why it's hidden, and what I choose to park there. So if I take part in a Johari exercise I'm starting from the basis that I know what I don't want people to know, and that the shape of that space is contextually determined. Here in SH I asume most of us are consciously playing a role that is both self-determined and a mirror we hold up to test our self awareness.
Yeah know what you mean about the context. That's what I like about it though - you don't have to use it as management tool, you can use it for different aspects of life if chosen to.
We all have a private self that we don't wish anyone to know (am I glad
). In my last job we were trained to be extremely self reflective and self aware. I learnt a lot about myself and how others see me from taking part in this exercise over the years. I found that my Johari's window changed depending on what context I was looking at it from and the private box changed in size - mine would probably be huge it done from a SH perspective :lol2: I'm not as open in some aspects of my life here as I am in the real world - which is interesting as I feel that its the reverse for some members 
What a fascinating and entertaining post. I can't help think that many people adopt a self-serving stance when posting. Not saying that is wrong just can be distracting when reading their contribution. I do admit to be turned on to some people from just one line though. So opinions can be sexy
I like the look of Joharis window Anais, and will venture into sometime soon.
I like the look of Joharis window Anais, and will venture into sometime soon.
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What a fascinating and entertaining post. I can't help think that many people adopt a self-serving stance when posting. Not saying that is wrong just can be distracting when reading their contribution. I do admit to be turned on to some people from just one line though. So opinions can be sexy
I like the look of Joharis window Anais, and will venture into sometime soon.
I had a reply in my head, got distracted by your shower pic and now I can't remember what I was going to say
:? :? :lol: :lol:Can't have been that important
Quote by anais
What a fascinating and entertaining post. I can't help think that many people adopt a self-serving stance when posting. Not saying that is wrong just can be distracting when reading their contribution. I do admit to be turned on to some people from just one line though. So opinions can be sexy
I like the look of Joharis window Anais, and will venture into sometime soon.
I had a reply in my head, got distracted by your shower pic and now I can't remember what I was going to say
:? :? :lol: :lol:Can't have been that important
The moral Anais, is to not go perving when you've got something to say :lol: The shower is a Mira sport if that helps your focus.
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I always think shite.. is that them really when i see them on cam after reading there forum posts
matching a "face" to the name!!... always interesting. . . and enlightening :lol:
And sometimes surprising.
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Quote by wideeyedand
What a fascinating and entertaining post. I can't help think that many people adopt a self-serving stance when posting. Not saying that is wrong just can be distracting when reading their contribution. I do admit to be turned on to some people from just one line though. So opinions can be sexy
I like the look of Joharis window Anais, and will venture into sometime soon.
I had a reply in my head, got distracted by your shower pic and now I can't remember what I was going to say
:? :? :lol: :lol:Can't have been that important
The moral Anais, is to not go perving when you've got something to say :lol: The shower is a Mira sport if that helps your focus.
I wasn't really looking at the shower :lol:
Quote by Kaznkev
I always think shite.. is that them really when i see them on cam after reading there forum posts
matching a "face" to the name!!... always interesting. . . and enlightening :lol:
And sometimes surprising.
But do you not find that when you know the person,the face becomes irrelevant?The sexiest folk i have met have made me interested because of what they have said,not how they have looked.
indeed i would take it further and say that if i find someone attractive, then how they look physicaly is very low down on my list of reasons to meet,because the best sex happens in the mind
I know what you mean. Win my wind, own my body.
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Quote by Kaznkev
I always think shite.. is that them really when i see them on cam after reading there forum posts
matching a "face" to the name!!... always interesting. . . and enlightening :lol:
And sometimes surprising.
But do you not find that when you know the person,the face becomes irrelevant?The sexiest folk i have met have made me interested because of what they have said,not how they have looked.
indeed i would take it further and say that if i find someone attractive, then how they look physicaly is very low down on my list of reasons to meet,because the best sex happens in the mind
I agree with what you say but for me at least there has to be at least a small degree of sexual attraction to start with. Dont find it works in reverse :twisted: Ive known some drop dead sexy woman who were total bitchs and didnt even like me, but if they were to bend over the desk and say go on then I would :lol:
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I would like to think that I am the exact same in real life as I am on here, altho maybe a tad taller
as the internet grows it seems to be an established part of our lives, and its use is a baseline to what we do out there beyond the terminal. ( cue spooky sounding space music). so i think in some cases i prefer to go back to what i believe in the profile etc. whereas without it an experience may well have been filed under 'forget about it'. but being pleasantly surprised in an encounter i am enlightened and open to new and more appreciations. but because recreational sex is transitory, i would not expect
to get to know someone in depth, so i may not look out for the opportunities if i was only focussed on sex. also i think we pass through significant stages of how we relate throught this site to other people. and that its possible to be content feeling that you have communicated with someone within a certain kind of way.
