Husband Voyeur First Timers Any Advice

Hey folks,

So my wife and are I just getting started into all of this, with a mind towards me watching while she has sex. It nicely fulfills fantasies for us both, so we've decided to take the plunge with it. But as it's become a more real prospect, suddenly the potential awkwardness of it has become more of a concern!

For my part: what do I do while this is going on? Do I go naked? Do I sit there clothed? Do I try and blend in the background or do I make comments? Do I jerk off? I'm not looking for a humiliation experience or anything, so I feel my role is strictly passive, but if I become overt while watching will that be a distraction for her?

For her part: how will it be with me there watching? What if it's not very good sex where nothing clicks and I'm watching? Will she feel too self-conscious to get into it?

Haha...all very silly in the moment I guess, but we are a bit nervous about it all. Any tips from folks with experience in this kind of activity would be much appreciated!

A&A

Hi, and :welcome: 

As far as I know there isn’t a rule book or play list:  you pretty much need to go with the flow, see what happens, and find out what feels right for the situation.  As long as you and your wife have properly discussed what you both want from the experience, and laid out your own personal ground rules, things should be okay.  Just remember that like any sexual encounter, expectations and limits should be set at the lowest person’s comfort level, with nobody feeling pressured into something they don’t want to do.  

With all that said, try not to over think things.  Enjoy it! :thumbup: 

This is something we tend to do more now..I like to watch Mrs Bad have fun.. ..I am often fully dressed  but may masturbate..we do like to film some of our meets so I get my enjoyment from watching them back .. ..the main thing to do is set out your play rules on what you both want and both want from any meet you might set up..but sometimes things just go with the flow and you should follow it 

Thanks folks, very useful. I guess we just need to take the plunge and try to find someone we feel will help make the experience as comfortable as possible! Wish us luck! ?

Hi guys why not try a massage at your place ....hubby can watch ...music ..candles ...drinks to make the mood nice...then you can enjoy whatever you wanna do ....find the right guy first on a social through S/H...have a look on our profile /stories all true ...best of luck....nice to share ..xx

first time I watched my wife.  It all seemed to pull together. I ended up wanking while they were completely naked and fucking. 

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Hi guys why not try a massage at your place ....hubby can watch ...music ..candles ...drinks to make the mood nice...then you can enjoy whatever you wanna do ....find the right guy first on a social through S/H...have a look on our profile /stories all true ...best of luck....nice to share ..xx

 
Sounds great advice, we love a massage!  Always a great way to get us both in the mood. 

Talk to each other and discuss what both parties want. Are her expectations the same as yours? Some wives enjoy being treated completely differently from how their hubby fucks them. Not always in ways which he feels comfortable. 

Make sure that the guy is comfortable and respects your role. Immediately ditch anyone who tries to separate you from her. 

Hi folks,

I've just joined the site, but read this post from a few months ago and thought I could share my (one and only) experience. 

About ten years ago my partner (now my wife) confessed during pillow-talk that she had always fantasised about making love to two men at the same time, so I set something up. The guy was a first timer too, though it was he who had advertised. I was slightly uncertain how I would get on. Would I get jealous?  Would I be able to perform with someone else there? It turned out I had no reason to worry.  

And she was quite inexperienced: I had been only the second person she'd had sex with even though I was in my 50s and she in her 40s, both recently divorced. Once again, no worries. She performed like an expert. It turned out to be easily the most erotically enjoyable thing I've ever done and I wanted it to go on for ever!

The guy arrived at our place. She cooked us a nice meal, with a bottle or two of wine. Then I told them to go and familiarise themselves with each other while I took 20minutes to wash up!  We then had a very stimulating evening, starting with her having a dual massage, then on to the full thing using her mouth and pussy at the same time and we two chaps switching roles from time to time. He slept in the other bedroom for the night, then we had a repeat performance before he left next morning. She had seven orgasms, four with me and three with the other guy. 

I was surprised that I found my priorities were that those two would have a fantastic experience. I regretted that he only came once (and that not inside her) but he seemed to enjoy himself well enough. The highlights for me were watching his first penetration of her with her astride him, and the look on her face when she came to orgasm by him. Unforgettable! She later told me that he had experienced difficulty maintaining an erection at times, but I was unaware of that. And I certainly didn't have a problem!

My only other regret is that, although she obviously enjoyed those 16 hours, she has said that she doesn't want to involve another person again. Done that...

I still think about it and it makes me aroused. I would love to do it again, but it seems that it would need to be with another couple this time and as I'm now in my late 60s the opportunities seem to be less despite me still being very fit and able to perform. 

So there you have it. If you fancy it, don't be afraid, give it a go, leave your inhibitions behind and keep an open mind. 

I have had one or two experiences regarding your particular Fantasy (Voyeur) Mine are different, set up to suit my fantasy, but you may draw some ideas from my experiences. I met with a mature couple in their 60s, The Lady was straight and the Husband was Bi-Curious. As for myself, I am a lover of mature women with a fuller figure and who are old school, you know, frilly blouse, a little cleavage and a tight skirt or dress. The Lady fitted the bill admirably, and the Husband was a normal looking chap. We got on well in the pub where we met and had chatted about our desires etc and decided to meet for drinks at their house, I am married and my wife, god bless her does not play.

On arrival I was greeted with a peck on the cheek from his wife, and a glass of wine from her husband. We sat and chatted for a while, we sort of laid the ground rules, the Lady finished her drink and got up saying she had to powder her nose, very old school that term. She was gone for quite a while, and as arranged her Husband began to flirt with me, I am Bi-Curious but have no experience of man/man role play. He got as far as fondling my cock, which I confess willingly rose to the occasion, before long we had both exposed each others cocks and were toying with each other, and as my first experience I enjoyed it. 

The lady returned to the lounge having given us enough time to become horny as hell. She sat opposite and began to pose showing ample cleavage and a hint of stocking top. The Husband suggested to me that she was horny and would I like to seduce her. Oh yes. The Husband got a nice wank from me and watched me slowly seduce his sexy wife, which excited him immensly.

James 

Don't overthink it, a dynamic will emerge quite quickly, it wont be perfect, it rarely is, but you will enjoy it i'm sure

Best to just listen to how she's having fun with me ;)

I have been highly sexed all of my life since a very young man and used to get erect at a very young age. Being in the ladies fashion game gave me the opportunity to meet and take to bed many lovely ladies. After a divorce I had the freedom to meet and pursue my pleasure without recrimination and broadened my interests into threesomes with couples, which was more exciting. I joined SH many years ago and met some wonderful couples who I shared some amazing timers with, but recently the site has changed with many people being complete time wasters. I still meet the very occasional couple who I like to have as friends and long term partners, but would love to meet a female who likes to have sex and fun with others. I still enjoy meeting couples who get a thrill from another male in their relationship, but would like a sexy, exciting lady, married or single who either misses the thrill and excitement of good sex with a horny, attentive, well endowed male. Fortunately the world has change where swinging is now acceptable and is growing as people enjoy the sexual is no sin in it as long as its mutual and with the consent of all involved and in many cases can help with marriage when it gets a bit stale or health problems occur. I have a friend who is now impotent while his lovely wife still has the desire and need for sex. She still loves her husband, but occasionally they introduce another male to their relationship for her safe pleasure. Site this are a great help providing people are honest about what they really want and don't mess others about. When someone makes contact, please have the decency to reply either way. North Kent.