Im a newbie to this is scene, ive very recently joined this website. It has always peaked my interest but i've never had the confidence to follow up. Its time to bite the bullet but i could do with a mentor with experience to help show me the ropes of the do's and dont's. Any advice appreciated, please help.
First bit of advice- read the rules!
Second, don't assume anything about people and treat everyone with respect.
That's a great start to get you on your way.
Quote by Leo89
Im a newbie to this is scene, ive very recently joined this website. It has always peaked my interest but i've never had the confidence to follow up. Its time to bite the bullet but i could do with a mentor with experience to help show me the ropes of the do's and dont's. Any advice appreciated, please help.
Following on from the sage advice offered by Lapua,
From my own limited experience ( compared to some) as a single male you're in the majority
Standing out from the crowd with an interesting profile, add in some quality photos as a start?
Consider verifying your account (see your profile settings on how to verify) members like verified accounts
You will need lots of patience when contacting others so make your emails interesting, one liners usually are dtiched and be prepared for knockbacks whether by way of polite 'no' or no reply at all, key is dealing with them in a respectful, polite and dignified manner.
Visit the chatrooms, observe for a time then when ready jump in, responses are not guaranteed but over time you'll make friends and who knows where that may lead in the future?
If you drive maybe consider attending one of the semi-regular social evenings, the next is in the link below.
https://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/lets-meet-up/coventry-summer-social-june-7th-2025
Both patience and perseverance will serve you well, with them you'll do well, without you'll not.
Thank-you very much for your reply, I do appreciate it. Complelty understand being in majority and that sits with me fine, it was to be expected. I'm just here to try and find new experiences and try and branch out my personal growth to see what I like and don't like. With regards to rejection I'm not a pushy person anyway, if I was to send a message and get no reply I'd leave it be, and if I was to get a rejection say thanks for the response and move on. Maybe my personality type is not a good fit for this scene I'm a reserved type of person who tends to stay in the back ground. I've been monitoring the chat room to gain some experience on the do's & don't, and I've been looking at local clubs around my area to see what is about, there's one in a few weeks where I may and go and get a beer and see what it's all about. Thank-you very much for your help
