I give up!

Quote by flapjackboy
Just a note to the mods to ask that you delete my forum profile.
I don't know why I thought I'd stand a chance on here, but hey, I guess it was worth a shot.
Guess I'll just wander off and return to my sad, lonely life now...

Quote by Ice Pie
Just a note to the mods to ask that you delete my forum profile.
I don't know why I thought I'd stand a chance on here, but hey, I guess it was worth a shot.
Guess I'll just wander off and return to my sad, lonely life now...

Quote by Flipper
Computers are failry simple compared to women

Quote by flapjackboy
Just a note to the mods to ask that you delete my forum profile.
I don't know why I thought I'd stand a chance on here, but hey, I guess it was worth a shot.
Guess I'll just wander off and return to my sad, lonely life now...

Quote by MikeNorth
According to one of his previous posts, Flapjackboy has Asperger's Syndrome, which is a type of autism. (see his post in the "Tkano's agony uncle" thread yesterday). It may just be that his talk of "having a chance here" referred to something else, not to his failing to attain a shag. I rather suspect that in spite of the good vibes that people give out in this cafe, he needed even more understanding than he received here. One off-hand remark addressed to him could have bowled him over completely, as he could have been both ultra-sensitive, and liable to misinterpret others' light-hearted remarks. It's still nobody else's fault here, but I've a feeling there's more to his disappointment than meets the eye.
Mike.

What Is Asperger Syndrome?
By Barbara L. Kirby
Founder of the OASIS Web site ( )
Co-author of THE OASIS GUIDE TO ASPERGER SYNDROME (Crown, 2001)
Asperger Syndrome or (Asperger's Disorder) is a neurobiological disorder named for a Viennese physician, Hans Asperger, who in 1944 published a paper which described a pattern of behaviors in several young boys who had normal intelligence and language development, but who also exhibited autistic-like behaviors and marked deficiencies in social and communication skills. In spite of the publication of his paper in the 1940's, it wasn't until 1994 that Asperger Syndrome was added to the DSM IV and only in the past few years has AS been recognized by professionals and parents.
Individuals with AS can exhibit a variety of characteristics and the disorder can range from mild to severe. Persons with AS show marked deficiencies in social skills, have difficulties with transitions or changes and prefer sameness. They often have obsessive routines and may be preoccupied with a particular subject of interest. They have a great deal of difficulty reading nonverbal cues (body language) and very often the individual with AS has difficulty determining proper body space. Often overly sensitive to sounds, tastes, smells, and sights, the person with AS may prefer soft clothing, certain foods, and be bothered by sounds or lights no one else seems to hear or see. It's important to remember that the person with AS perceives the world very differently. Therefore, many behaviors that seem odd or unusual are due to those neurological differences and not the result of intentional rudeness or bad behavior, and most certainly not the result of "improper parenting".
By definition, those with AS have a normal IQ and many individuals (although not all), exhibit exceptional skill or talent in a specific area. Because of their high degree of functionality and their naiveté, those with AS are often viewed as eccentric or odd and can easily become victims of teasing and bullying. While language development seems, on the surface, normal, individuals with AS often have deficits in pragmatics and prosody. Vocabularies may be extraordinarily rich and some children sound like "little professors." However, persons with AS can be extremely literal and have difficulty using language in a social context.
At this time there is a great deal of debate as to exactly where AS fits. It is presently described as an autism spectrum disorder and Uta Frith, in her book AUTISM AND ASPERGER'S SYNDROME, described AS individuals as "having a dash of Autism". Some professionals feel that AS is the same as High Functioning Autism, while others feel that it is better described as a Nonverbal Learning Disability. AS shares many of the characteristics of PDD-NOS (Pervasive Developmental Disorder; Not otherwise specified), HFA, and NLD and because it was virtually unknown until a few years ago, many individuals either received an incorrect diagnosis or remained undiagnosed. For example, it is not at all uncommon for a child who was initially diagnosed with ADD or ADHD be re-diagnosed with AS. In addition, some individuals who were originally diagnosed with HFA or PDD-NOS are now being given the AS diagnosis and many individuals have a dual diagnosis of Asperger Syndrome and High Functioning Autism.

Quote by flapjackboy
Thanks for the kick up the arse guys...
I need one every now and then to pull my head out of there.
MikeNorth was on the right track about it having something to do with my A/S and it would seem that even online, I still have problems with reading social signals.
Guess I'll just have to work at it a little harder, eh? :

Quote by Big Bob
I don't know about everyone else on here, but I am totally crap at spotting 'I like you' signals from other people - they go straight over my head :shock:

Quote by Flipper
delighted to see FJB back on the forum.