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15 year old girl soon to be 16. Has a baby a month or so old. Her father has attacked her partner, who is bringing up the baby with her twice and has attacked her once while she was holding the baby :shock: Police witnessed the third attack and put them on a train to some family living in a different part of the country and they contacted social services and started the ball rolling with trying to get her some help. This seems to have fizzled out whilst they have been away (2 weeks). They both want to return to her home town and I am going to take them there. What I need to know is where should my first port of call be? should it be the police, the social services or the council. Her partner has a bedsit but is not allowed anyone to stay with him so she and the baby do not have a home at the moment. All I am interested in is trying to help the girl feel protected in some way and supported as her partner although older than her just does not have enough life experience to know what to do.
I'm not interested in anyone's views on their situation (no offense of course) I only want to help as much as I can so people that are really qualified to advise me I will be eternally grateful for your help.
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Fire xx
social services and police. In either order, one will notify the other as a matter of course. But you can and should contact both and I would probably do it prior to returning them to their 'unsafe' place.
im about to go into a long pm to you fire xxx
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social services and police. In either order, one will notify the other as a matter of course. But you can and should contact both and I would probably do it prior to returning them to their 'unsafe' place.

Thank you gorgeous kiss I won't be going anywhere near her fathers house as the police have already told her she is not safe to return there. If I can't get a roof over her head before I have to leave there I will be returning with mother and baby.
Thank you Fem I'll look forward to it kiss
Whatever happens Fire, hope it all works out hun, sounds like this wee girl and her baby need all the help they can get. xxx
Is it possible to contact SS and Police prior to arriving? They (SS particularly) may be able to put something in hand sooner.
Either way, hope it all turns out ok.
Thought : Does the partner have any family that might be able to help out at all?
I know Derby has a 'furniture project' that provides basics (second hand of course) for people setting up home with nothing. There may be something locally?
I'll put the kettle on then shall I :uhoh:
Thanks Foxy. They will be notified when we are on the way. The partner has to be in town tommorrow as he is starting a course that he HAS to do and it is after all the mothers home town and she wants to be near where she grew up and near to her partner. The partner does have family but not anywhere near the town I am taking him to. They are about 4 hours away. They have spent the last 2 weeks with his family but it is causing other family members to have to sleep on sofa's to accommodate them so certainly not an ideal situation. I only got my own arse in gear today and decided to help so if I had known I was going to do it sooner we could have been a little more organised.
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I'll put the kettle on then shall I :uhoh:

rotflmao :rotflmao: :rotflmao: kiss Oh I do love you xxxxx
You will, as I'm sure you guy's know, have an uphill struggle to get the SS to help. Whilst she's been away she will not have been "in their face" enough to warrant them throwing scant resources at her.
However, she's not yet 16 and they have a duty of care. You'll need to make it abundantly clear that they are SS's problem- and no-ones going anywhere unless they deal with the sutuation.
However, watch very carefully for any signs that they're looking to say that the mum is unable to look after her baby. They do have a duty to ensure that families are kept together wherever possible.....however, after the last couple of years we've come to realise that SS's "duties" can easily fall by the wayside.
Good luck honey, and good on you. kiss
Thank you Winchy kiss I will be very careful and very watchful.
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Sorry i cant help, but i hope you manage to get it all sorted for them.
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Sorry i cant help, but i hope you manage to get it all sorted for them.

kiss What do you mean you can't help? you just did!
I have absolutely no advice whatsoever (never really been any good at that) but I really hope its all sorted out and that you're ok too.
Mrs Classy
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Hi Fire, can`t be much help and add anything other than what has been already said although as she has just had a baby her health visitor may be of some help. Hope the situation gets sorted soon and they find somewhere to call home xxx kiss
Has anyone thought to have a quiet word with the girls Father and tell him to get his head in order.....
Nothing he does now is going to make things any easier for his duaghter if he continues the way he is so he may as well accept what has happened and do whats right by the girl...
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Has anyone thought to have a quiet word with the girls Father and tell him to get his head in order.....
Nothing he does now is going to make things any easier for his duaghter if he continues the way he is so he may as well accept what has happened and do whats right by the girl...

I have a mattock you could borrow biggrin
our council wont help till the girl is to have a strong word with the father, and some sympathetic digs till she`s old enough to get on the council list seems favourite