I need to rant

Hi all,

I need to rant after yet again being let down at the last minute by two blokes. I won't name and shame but oh how I want to!!

I really don't understand the mindset of someone who answers a clear advert, which includes a location, date and time....and if they behave they will be cumming one way or another! Then enters into text conversation over the week, culminating in going quieter and quieter until either they say they can't make it on the day or worse still no contact at all when I aske the direct question 'Are you coming tonight?'.

One of the blokes excuses today is that he is having his car serviced!! WTF! Did he not know that earlier than this morning? You can't make it up!

We are a young (ish) couple, well she is , who have small children so it takes a lot of planning to get out and meet. I reckon we are let down at least once in every two attempts. So frustrating.

Any tips or advice on how to avoid these time wasters?

Thanks for the rant - its a quiet night for us now.

Not all like that I for one wouldn tlet you down just a shame we're so far away

I am guessing that nearly all the genuine people here have had the same experience, we certainly have, it seems that many here get a kick out of the chase but have not got the balls for an actual meet, put that together with the vast amount of "singles" who are actually married and have absolutely no intentions of meeting anyway, you have the basis of the problem. Unfortunately there is no way of getting rid of these timewasters but you do tend to learn to spot the tell tale signs quite early on.

Having said all that, we have had some great meets with some lovely likeminded people so stick with it guys the genuine folk are worth the hassle with the tossers.

Why not try a swinging club?

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Why not try a swinging club?

We are talking about this but it all seems a bit scary. I guess once you take the plunge it'll all be fine as with most unknowns...........

I guess its easy to make the claims, however I have always turned up on time and well groomed. I have couples and singles who can vouch for my genuine status,, I am happy to prove we are not all time wasters.

i enjoyed ur rant just imagine being a single bloke in this scene we are treated sppalingly by people yes even cples lol its how it is i mett a lovely couple for a dooging meet he told me he had 70 replies def meet only 2 turned up lol i got loads lol but timewasters waste more than our time my advice find a genuine bloke like me who makes plans confirms books hotel ie its in my interest to turn up it works randon dooging never works

definitley use a swingers club youll get to meet many potentials every time nothing scarey about clubs usually theres a safe zone usually the bar area we wasted a couple of years trying to get fun on interenet and after first club never looked back

Having been on this site for many years  .. . we have found  - whenever we place an ad (same on elsewhere!) - a host of enthusiastic guys. reply  and show great willingness in arranging a meet  - but as soon as you ask for phone numbers  etc  ...they disappear into the woodwork! Annoyingly, you'll see that they have read your message  - and are often on line ...but you never hear from them again. I reckon they get a kick by having someone agreeing to meet them  - so they can put another notch on their bedpost  - and that's it!  Twats!  Certainly the clubs are way better in this respect  - you know that there, the guys are willing.

I've been to a swingers club once or twice and you're right, the first time you go it's a little scary. I went to Xstasia which is behind a pub (what if everyone is outside and see's me and points!?!) but its nothing like that. If you're nervous go early when there's next to no one their. It wont be expensive for a couple and if you're there for two hours and it busies up and you find you don't like it- leave. But mainly its meeting new people and new contacts.

you don't have to do anything you don't want to not that I've been to any yet it's best place for meeting people & making contacts, my first is next month just pick one local to you