I belong to two other sites.
Both have verification. One of them I have accepted one out of the many meets I have had to verify me. (he is a good friend as well as an excellent fuck) I accepted the verification because I wanted others to know that he was an amazing fuck and wanted to ensure he got as many meets as possible. I know as a 'single fem' I can pretty much pick and choose. But I also care little for the verification of others by others. I go on gut instinct only. The Verification system plays no part in my swinging.
ummm the other site that I belong to that I have no verification on, again I get plenty of meets and offers.
My point is that my membership here is about fucking people. I don't use or need verification here or anywhere else. I care nothing whether it is allowed here. I probably wouldn't use it if it arrived and I sincerely doubt whether it would impact on those people who I wanted to have sex with.
If it helps the site run better for others then bring it on.
I am bored of it being raised again and again and shouted down by people who can basically opt out or in if they wish to.
As has been pointed out verification can be as used or misused as any other part of the site and if the Admin are willing to put in the hours to supervise the support tickets that may arise to reap whatever rewards that verification will bring them, then who are we to stop them?
What people seem to forget is that the site is owned as a business and is run as a business. If we don't like it we can take our business elsewhere.
As for who swings and who doesn't...... who cares why people are here. I meet people who want to fuck, I also meet lots of people who are messing around. A verification system isn't going to say 'I want to meet splendid_ anytime she wants' so it is hardly an indicator of if my sex life is going to change.
pah, am waffling now. This subject bores me and I wanted to just add my two pennorth before I dropped off to sleep.
Let the site owners do what they want with theirsite. If it makes them money and gets people more sex then bring it on.
I think one of the reasons regular forum members see the downside of verification stems from the phase when the forum was the main part of the site.
What tended to happen was that people got themselves known over a long period of time and that was, in effect, intrinsic verification of a sort.
There were far more munches around then and people used to meet up in socials or munches much more regularly. This gave plenty of opportunities for playing with a wide variety of members.
These days there are many more people on the site, who never even look in the forums and are interested in playing without the bother of getting themselves known. Sort of fast-food swinging compared to previously.
When it was mainly just the forums a lot of people could see the downside of verification - because if set up wrong it is open to abuse. Feelings ran very high on the subject.
Obviously, there are a lot more people who see the case for having some sort of verification now and I would have thought that a non-explicit, unattributable, positive endorsement may do it without causing too much trouble. It still wouldn't be foolproof and I think it should not constitute any sort of guarantee that you're going to avoid the wasters. It'll always be a risk.
I think circumstances and members needs are different now and I don't see why it shouldn't be given a trial. Personally, I think it'll be worthless - but that's just my opinion.
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For those who do want a verification system, what do you hope to get out of it?
ie. is it just to prove that the person exists? That they are indeed a couple? That the person has a good history of meeting people? That the person actually swings? Do you want it to be a tick box or comments system or a rating? Do you want to be able to give negatives as well as positives?
Understanding what people want from such a system might go a way to quelling fears and encourage discussion.
hummmm why bother... it didnt say reguler forum readers could not contribute,
to be honest i saw the thread, thought here we go again, but didnt come in with yawn yawn comments, i gave my views and never orced then on anyone or shot anyone down in flames.
been here long time but by no means in any gang,im very much independent,and hope im not a flamer.
i actually have been pleased by the way the thread has been debated. till it gets personal picking on those who have given enough care to share their thoughts.
xx fem xx
ps i would not public name shame in here, i report stuff to admin,ops mods. hope no one thinks i have.
no takers for eye-ball tattooing yet then?
lp
ok guys i think this is the best ting going, you need to know if peeps are genuine or not and to be honest we have a lot of timewasters on here. i now use another sitem ypu can manage your verifications, its cool
xxxTartanterrorxxx
friends are for life, you look after them no matter if you hate what they do
live life to the max
Just for the record... I didn't vote.
I don't really care either way and most of the reasons behind that, Splendid has posted in her contribution.
I went into the Kent room to try and have a discussion on it and only one person acknowledged me. The whole "them and us" thing seems to work both ways. I was kinda hoping that I could post in here that I'd had an interesting discussion about it but sadly I can't do that because no-one replied.
I use chat and forums so I don't consider myself to be a them or an us. I'm just me. :mrgreen:
whats to stop someone having two profiles and verifying themselves... If you can manage verifications what is the point of having them - you get a bed one and just delete it... Yes we all want to get rid of time wasters but its probably never going to happen. You're better off going socials and chatting in rooms and forum... Put the effort in so to speak!
i feel you contradicted your self in that.
""the same few members who regularly post in here members its hardly a disscuison""
that made me feel that my opinion isnt worth while and only those of a new poster count here in this one.
"""other members feel they cant post a opinion because as soon as they do a they feel they get shot down by a regular"""
where has a reguler member shot anyone down? how do you know they think this if they dont post?
""been taken over by the regulars""
im sorry you feel that way, but isnt it expected that those whoare regulers are teh ones here and probally will post.
im not flaming or picking just trying to point out why i felt you thought my opinion and that of reguler posters was not wanted so much in this thread???
xx fem xxx
Is it a swinger who swings once a year, once a week, once a month, once in a blue moon? :dunno: 
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, I was stating a matter of fact, that it has been discussed again and again over the years.
) member site. So its important And, is a great nedium for getting the word out about socials munches meets and the like plus a bit of more leisurely paced banter than the chatroom can offer.
