I use another site with verification, but I hide all of mine, you can see I'm verified by a green tick, and to be honest as a single girl it doesn't effect chances either way if you are or not.
I use the verification process on there to support single guys who have got balls, there was a newbie who came to a "party" totally green, no idea what to expect and I thought fair play to him, there are other exampled of this and I think these guys should get a chance to be invited to other things, or to invite themselves and be accepted.
Therefore on this site I can hide anything they type about me (Some get a bit over eager) and they can choose to show what they want.
Then you get to the discussion of discretion, and I don't really want to know who's shagged who.... it can make it feel a bit seedy...
So to me if it happens, it happens and I'll keep verifying the cute guys, but I wont perv others "lists"
Mex
i am a member on another site, and like i think ive said before i have reported 60 thats SIXTY profiles in the 2 months ive been on there as not being true.
those profiles were of verified members.
men who have a couples account and are no longer a couple.
couples who i know and have admitted their feedbacks are off mates or other members cuse " you just dont get a lok in here if you aint verified or have feedback"
couples who have been verified after being harrassed and abused as fakes "casue they aint verified"
single men who are infact married.
single females who are in fact males.
peopel who have more than one account verifying themselves.
and there should be a stupid twatter report feature for all the twatters who openly admit in the email they send me that i copy in to abuse report, they abuse the verification system.
ok out of the 60 i reported how many have since been adjusted or removed?? NONE.
regarding the reply that said its simple for new people to get verified simply turn up to a std?? some people dont like mass groups, or cant travel that far.
if the site decided to have a verification system then nothing said here will stop that.
what i do ask is please ensure there is a opt out system before it goes live and pre warn us its happening, i dont want the twatting verifications happening when im off line and come in to find info is on my profie and i cant even remove it.
i wont use a verification system and if people choose not to meet me due to that fact thats fine. im sure there are other swingers who will meet and talk to a single bi fem with no verification/feedback who will respect and return the value of privacy i enjoy.
i would just like to know that if i get harrassed for not being verified i can report them and action will be taken.
silver linings, if you catch any nasties at least it will save time you can just look at the persons feedback list and drop them a email advising them all to get checked out lol
its like a family tree for swingers lol
by the way i hate the proposed new look front page.
can we be informed if that goes live cuse i dont want my pictures or info being used as a advertising pull.
and i really dont want my profile to be one of those put on the front page as a hi lighted one.
again will it be a verification or a feed back? i guess just verification as we already have feed back in a manner of quickies, that by the way are not vetted and you can say anything you like even if its bullshit, if its positive the member will display it.
xxx fem xxx
And on that self same site you can be verified after just having spoken to someone on the phone, again no guarantee that they will turn up at a meet. A person can hide comments yes, and just show that they are 'verified' What does that prove? That they chatted on the phone, that they met someone once and then did not turn up for another 3 meets?
Very true, I don't like the web cam and phone verification options, it's not proper meeting to me, but when I type on a guys verification I met him, he turned up, he is worth inviting, they will put it on their profile, and hopefully, be allowed to play again.
So whilst I am not advocating it for me, it can be useful for single guys, especially in group scenarios...
We are in favour of verification. We are members of 2 other swinging sites that have it, yes I know you can still be verified and be a twit but for us it works. As we have said before we prefer our meets to be arranged quick and rarely meet people again so the " whole gettting to know people " doesnt work for us.
We have been memebers of this site twice as long than the other sites but yet we have had more genuine meets from the other sites and I think that is mostly down to feeback/verification system.
Yes we would arrange to meet someone who isnt verified or chooses to opt out of the system but with all our meets whether verified or not I ( Tina ) always speak to the other woman on phone first.
Hmmm, I feel we are getting far to indepth here. what do we want from a swinging website?
we want to meet people one our wave length, who we fancy and who are who they say they are.
The validation system works of us, due to say a couple who we know validate's a couple we don't know, we will have no problem just sorting a quick email and setting a meet up.
they know we know the other couple so there is no need for email tenis or MSN hell, we just meet.
if you get validated from one or more well known members you will be invited to every party lol
Cossie
So if you wanted "validation/verification or other such phrases why did you join this site in 2005 when it had none of what you require ?
It makes me wonder, if no one else does.
medic_1
I wont mention the 'random'thing above :gagged:
okayokay:
the eye tattooing wasnt a good one.
and anal branding wasn't so hot (what?)
how about we all accept that people will abuse (should they choose) any system in place... or not, as the case may be.
what about a register held by the Home Office though... nice and secure.
lp
only if it is on a memory stick or in a briefcase lp.
oh balls, no were ladies lol we dont need verifying
lol xx fem xx
I'm just chuckling to myself here.
Any of you pro folks really think that a form of verification will get rid of 'timewasters' overnight? If paying to use the site didn't do it, why will a silly green tick or some such thing work better?
I asked the question a while ago, no one as far as i can see has answered it yet.
What is a 'timewaster'?
Define that (and good luck, because in four years on this site I've never seen a definitive description) you might have half a chance of weeding them out, but oh no! What if they get verified by somebody they have met? Does that mean for one second they are going to meet everyone they arrange to?
staffcple, I can't agree more with you - spot on IMHO. Verification will simply not work and it's unfair to newbies like us. As you said, a green tick would do nothing for me, for example:
"Darling, she's verified, quick get the lube out!"
"Ok hun!".
Not going to happen is it?!?!? We've a right to be choosy by our own standards and should be allowed to do so, a verification system provides no security whatsoever. The only thing a verification system will create is a panic to get verified.
Well in that case I wish you well,
I hope if feedback is what people really, really want, that they as prepared to have their experience of the site ruined by it as they are to embrace it, because to be of any use whatsoever for the reasons stated, anyone receiving bad feedback should not be able to hide, change or refuse it.
Otherwise you have a system where anyone with feedback will have all good feedback, which is basically where we are now. Your timewasters will be no easier to spot than they are now.
Old proverb says:
"Throw enough shit and some will stick"
I'd ask everyone to bear that in mind, because in my experience of feedback systems on swinging sites, it will only take something as simple as not answering a message or telling somebody you don't want to meet them for it to start being thrown.
Kent,
I'm going to ask one question.
How can a feedback system identify the 'timewasters' if it only allows positive feedback? That after all is the theory which is being proposed to justify this whole idea.
The obvious conclusion to draw from that system is any member without feedback will be judged as a 'timewaster' because they have no feedback and possibly ignored by those who do.