Hi, We are often out at pubs and see couples who may or may not be looking to meet another couple. Obviously we can chat, but at no point in the conversation would it be easy to 'test the water' and bringing up the subject of swinging.
Maybe there should be a subtle indication such as a small pin badge or some other such form of identifying that the other couple are of the swinging variety.
Moreover, perhaps the indication, whatever form it may take, should show the level of swinging, ie soft, bi fem etc.
We know it sounds silly, but we have often looked across to another couple in a bar and wondered.
Does anybody have any suggestions?
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Had a quick read through the thread that you linked to jags..
Did anything ever get sorted about producing a pin/lapel badge..
I quickly noticed a price of 64p per item with any profits being donated to a trust..
So if we could agree on £1 or even per item then surely there would be left over monies to go to whatever trust seems good..
Would be nice if someone from each area who goes to munches could act as a distributor as we only get to one munch a year at best...
Anyhow....If anyone gets anything sorted please please please let us know either in the forum or by pm as we would both love to be able to spot fellow SH members when out and about..
Did anything ever get sorted about producing a pin/lapel badge..
I quickly noticed a price of 64p per item with any profits being donated to a trust..
So if we could agree on £1 or even per item then surely there would be left over monies to go to whatever trust seems good..
Would be nice if someone from each area who goes to munches could act as a distributor as we only get to one munch a year at best...
Anyhow....If anyone gets anything sorted please please please let us know either in the forum or by pm as we would both love to be able to spot fellow SH members when out and about..
Well we could have a lapel badge identifying S.H. members, and that would be a good thing I'm sure, but A general identifying method, discreet but noticeable would surely be the answer (not every swinging couple is a S.H. member, good though it is!)
There should be some simple sign which perhaps both partners could wear that would subtly identify them, not a big sign saying "We're a couple of swingers, any takers" lol!
Maybe its time to propose a discreet pin-badge to very subtly show that we are in this scene.
How about a dolphin a mermaid, a cat or anything else for that matter. Perhaps something like a little silver swing or something else. I think it could be adapted so that it shows different levels of interest, my partner is very bi curious, so maybe there could be a pin badge which identifies this.
Come on all you ou there, lets come up with a code which can be used. I'm happy to go out and get a pin badge I just hope that we can all begin to build up an agreed code to start with. It could of course develop and evolve with time, but it should be discreet and simple. It should be possible to look at it and not know the significance to the non-swinger! Maybe an item from a charm bracelet could be used, but whatever it is, it should be available at any jewellers, even if it is not exactly the same.
Ok, lets say the basic sign should be a mermaid! ok, I've said it. We will both go out at the weekend and get a small silver mermaid and wear it. Any takers? or does anybody have any other ideas?
Regards to the forum
There should be some simple sign which perhaps both partners could wear that would subtly identify them, not a big sign saying "We're a couple of swingers, any takers" lol!
Maybe its time to propose a discreet pin-badge to very subtly show that we are in this scene.
How about a dolphin a mermaid, a cat or anything else for that matter. Perhaps something like a little silver swing or something else. I think it could be adapted so that it shows different levels of interest, my partner is very bi curious, so maybe there could be a pin badge which identifies this.
Come on all you ou there, lets come up with a code which can be used. I'm happy to go out and get a pin badge I just hope that we can all begin to build up an agreed code to start with. It could of course develop and evolve with time, but it should be discreet and simple. It should be possible to look at it and not know the significance to the non-swinger! Maybe an item from a charm bracelet could be used, but whatever it is, it should be available at any jewellers, even if it is not exactly the same.
Ok, lets say the basic sign should be a mermaid! ok, I've said it. We will both go out at the weekend and get a small silver mermaid and wear it. Any takers? or does anybody have any other ideas?
Regards to the forum
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Was gonna ad .....when I say we i mean the wife and I not the monkey and I but hey....:lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:
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*Ahem*...... I do read these threads you know.....
I quite like the idea of a swing badge, but maybe that would be a little too obvious.... We do need something that would have some meaning to the swinging community....
Wanders off deep in thought......
Shireen
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Sex God
the way i establish if couples are swingers or not is quite easy:
when the man speaks to me without rasing his eyes above my neck.. i look at his wifes face...
if she is turning purple they dont play.
if she is smiling encouragingly.. they possibly play.
if she is pushing him out of her line of vision....we are going upstairs!
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when the man speaks to me without rasing his eyes above my neck.. i look at his wifes face...
if she is turning purple they dont play.
if she is smiling encouragingly.. they possibly play.
if she is pushing him out of her line of vision....we are going upstairs!
:lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: The way a woman dresses tells one, i.e. short skirts, showing leg, wearing stockings, how friendly they both are, the conversation can be steered in that direction, lots of ways to tell others what we are and how we live, a look, a smile, body language, talking and acting sexily, will get your message across to like minded people, try it.
Sex God
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The way a woman dresses tells one, i.e. short skirts, showing leg, wearing stockings, how friendly they both are, the conversation can be steered in that direction, lots of ways to tell others what we are and how we live, a look, a smile, body language, talking and acting sexily, will get your message across to like minded people, try it.
I see the point you are trying to make ok.. but to be honest I have a bit of a problem with the whole “how someone is dressed can tell you what they want†idea.
Sex attackers have used the argument for years that a woman was dressed provocatively .. and so must have been up for it!
What a load of crap!
How you dress is in no way an indication of what you are looking to do.
I often go out with my female friends dressed very sexily but have not got it in mind to cop off with anyone.. I dress like that for myself!
Women dont always go out wearing a short skirt and no knickers if they are swingers.
Some of the circles we move in would be very erm.....whats the word.......Exitable if Shireen went out dressed like that on a regular basis..
What we are trying to achieve is a way of identifying somebody in a bar a shop a q for the bus even...
Some of the people we socialise with at weekends we have......well I have anyway.....Looked at and thought they are lovely people,very easy on the eye,wonder if they enjoy the same things that we do.....But we obviously dont say anything for fear of being branded as deviants or pervs etc etc....
I suppose we have the advantage in as much as anyone we mix with who uses this site will know us purely by the fact that my wifes name is very unusual....
But on ocasion we do happen to be out and about and it would be so much fun to meet others who enjoy the same lifestyle we do and a badge or something similar would make that so much easier...
Some of the circles we move in would be very erm.....whats the word.......Exitable if Shireen went out dressed like that on a regular basis..
What we are trying to achieve is a way of identifying somebody in a bar a shop a q for the bus even...
Some of the people we socialise with at weekends we have......well I have anyway.....Looked at and thought they are lovely people,very easy on the eye,wonder if they enjoy the same things that we do.....But we obviously dont say anything for fear of being branded as deviants or pervs etc etc....
I suppose we have the advantage in as much as anyone we mix with who uses this site will know us purely by the fact that my wifes name is very unusual....
But on ocasion we do happen to be out and about and it would be so much fun to meet others who enjoy the same lifestyle we do and a badge or something similar would make that so much easier...
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When we are talking within the Site, it seems we are all swingers to some degree, but in the context of the total adult population, it is a very small percentage. Having any form of label would not remain secret for long. Soon the press would get hold of it and the benefit of knowing who are swingers would be lost as others stop and stare, point or take the piss. On top of that, in most cases there are some people you just don't want to know for a variety of reasons and even they could quite easily then discover your 'secret'.
Wearing badges at a Munch is fine because everyone there is 'within the scene' and it is purely to know someones name. But try it in a pub and it would be a lot different. Masons use a secret handshake, so I believe, to identify other Masons, which is better, but not sure what we could use?
Mal
and Little Mal
Wearing badges at a Munch is fine because everyone there is 'within the scene' and it is purely to know someones name. But try it in a pub and it would be a lot different. Masons use a secret handshake, so I believe, to identify other Masons, which is better, but not sure what we could use?
Mal
and Little Mal
