Crikey, what a thought provoking question, and at the moment, I can only think of some rather philosophical advice rather than practical stuff. The things which spring to mind are:
Be honest, with yourself and with anyone you meet;
Always remember you are doing this for enjoyment, dont take it too seriously;
Push boundaries, but ONLY if YOU want them pushing;
Talk, talk, and then talk again (couples);
Enjoy everything, the good and the bad experiences, and learn from them; and
A woman can never have too many pairs of boots/shoes :twisted:
Ooh, fantastic question :thumbup:
Experiment - but talk about it first.
Be honest with your partner about the things you want to try. There have been things that we both wanted to try but didn't want to initiate discussion in case we freaked each other out. We have learned that, actually, we are both open and broad minded (which is what attracted us to each other in the first place, of course).
Above all, understand that the desire to swing may come and go. If it isn't what we want to do right at this moment that doesn't mean that it won't come back - and it has! :rascal:
Will
Most of what you expect to happen.................won't.
J & S
Don't look in the current affairs forum.
it would have to be for me
be careful who you trust it can be very costly
I'd also add never let your emotions get in the way of the sex. It's just sex, sometimes with people who become friends, but keep it compartmentalised. :thumbup:
Run they're all a bunch of godless perverts who only want to corrupt your purity........still waiting to be corrupted....bastards
Trust your instincts and if you really don`t want to meet them then don`t.
Know what your boundaries are and push them if it feels right and stick to them if it doesn`t.
Travel for the right people, its worth it.
And above all DONT GET TOO CARRIED AWAY.
And a personal note to me: you know why you call him your number 1, he always has been and always will be, let him know a bit sooner so you can be his a little bit longer.
That people will leave the scene, so stop hesitating, and just go for it.
that you may think people are out of your league or unobtainable, but you would be surprised and you wont know if you dont ask
oh.. there are so many things i could tell myself.. a lot of things i have done that i regret, things i havent done and regret missing out.
1 - dont be so much of a wall flower... so much of my time as a swinger has been looking in from the outside.. take a risk every now and agian. and do what you think you would enjoy.. instead of over thinking about what the concequences
2 - dont wear your heart on your sleve..... keep your gaurd up and dont let people get too close.....
3 - on the 6th June 2005 when your visiting chams.. do not walk into the Lounge... it will prevent you spending 2 years of your live with somoene that slowly changes you as a person.. and not for the better.
there are loads more for me.... will come back with a few others later
Communicate, Communicate, Communicate......
Don't think, none of it needs any thinking about. Just know what's right for you.
Don't have sex with people you value more as friends.
Don't travel so far in your car as its so not worth it.......
don't attempt to please everyone as your not pleasing yourself !
sometimes the ones you classed as friends really aren't
everyone is on here for their own satisfaction.
don't send 200 one line replies to ads...titled "I'm dean..fancy a shag"...and to couples all over the country from Scotland to Cornwall....coz you won't get a reply !!
lol.... and yes thats exactly what I did do on my first day here !!!
Hopefully I have learnt a little in the 6 years i have now been her..lol
Always checks your iron's safe before leaving it unattended
Moisturise, moisturise, moisturise
read signals and people better and you might not miss out on so much
Never trust anyone except yourself!!!!!
