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And I never mind being arrogant and sanctimonious if I'm right.
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Im just curious how come the singles get such a hard time?
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Good ad, Neil. So it wasn't aimed at you.
And I never mind being arrogant and sanctimonious if I'm right.
:shock:
:rotflmao: :rotflmao:P.S. I am one of those noisy, heavily tattooed women who is dim and a liability.
You presume to know such a lot but you've made an awful lot of sweeping generalisations, both in your post on this thread and in your ad. Not a good idea, considering the very large spectrum of people which you will find on this site.
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Quote by The Dukes
well thanx for clearing up where Huthwaite is
Thats fine, just saw it on a map not lived here long, yorkshire originally (good Curry houses there)
Soz gone of the subject.
There's a good one on the 'Cliffe, in Sheffield :thumbup:
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Soz gone of the subject.
Don't worry - it's a tradition
Two of the best curry houses I've been to were in Sheffield.
One at the Lardy Dah posh end. With waiters in turbans, full traditional dress, white clothe over their arm. Immaculate silverware on well presented tables. Couldn't do enough for you.
Food was gorgeous. Best Prawn puree in that crispy/flaky (Filo??) pastry I've ever had.
The other -
Affectionately know as The Rat Pit, in the not so posh area. Sort of place you daren't slow to below 45 or they'd have your wheels off, let alone your trims ! !
Used to get shut down every other month by the health people.
No waiters. The guy who took your order would shout across that it was ready.
Huge sweaty, hairy, un-shirted cooky boy, slaving away over one pot of "do all" curry that he'd chuck different stuff into, to give you what you thought you'd ordered.
Bare Formica topped tables. Unmatched cutlery. Ordinary kitchen type chairs, the ones with a sort of pvc covering over the sponge bits. Obviously seen better days, splits and tears exposing the grubby sponge underneath.
Jugs of water (unlicensed btw) on the tables that looked as though they'd just been topped up and not actually washed for the week.
But the food and atmosphere was second to none.
Loved 'em both, depending who I was with and what frame of mind.
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Good ad, Dambuster. So it wasn't aimed at you.
And I never mind being arrogant and sanctimonious if I'm right.
And then - you go on to use my real life name in the fucking forum ! ! !
And don't now bother to go on to say it's in my fucking ad ! ! Or my email address ! ! ! Or in PMs ! ! !
Or anywhere else ! ! !
It's MY fucking choice where or how I publish any of my rl details, as it is anybody elses OWN fucking choice - NOT YOURS ! ! ! !
Does anybody have the slightest fucking idea just how hard I'm slamming my fucking fingers into this keyboard ! ! ! !
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Quote by dambuster
Good ad, DB. So it wasn't aimed at you.
And I never mind being arrogant and sanctimonious if I'm right.
And then - you go on to use my real life name in the fucking forum ! ! !
And don't now bother to go on to say it's in my fucking ad ! ! Or my email address ! ! ! Or in PMs ! ! !
Or anywhere else ! ! !
It's MY fucking choice where or how I publish any of my rl details, as it is anybody elses OWN fucking choice - NOT YOURS ! ! ! !
Does anybody have the slightest fucking idea just how hard I'm slamming my fucking fingers into this keyboard ! ! ! !
Yep, I do
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Quote by sexyfellaI don't think it IS the case, I think it just looks that way because nearly all the people looking are single males.
Iv been on other sites before this one and ive noticed single men have a much harder time to find what there looking for can anyone explain why this seems to be the case?
If the site were exclusively single male, then it would logically follow that ALL the people who weren't satisfied would be single males. It would also follow that all the people who were satisfied would be single males too. With me so far?
Well, the site is predominantly single male, so extending the above logic you can infer that most of those who are not happy are single males, and most of those who are happy are also single males.
I don't believe I am disadvantaged by being a single male, and if I am disadvantaged I don't care... There are still so many people here who want to meet single males, I'm spoilt for choice. So, no complaints here, I'm single male and loving it.
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Quote by sexyfella
Iv been on other sites before this one and ive noticed single men have a much harder time to find what there looking for can anyone explain why this seems to be the case?
I can't say I've had a hard time on here, in fact I've had a great time and long may it continue.
Just stick around, get yourself known and have some fun.
John
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Speaking as a single man (in the sense that I'm not married) and since I stumbled across SH when I was looking for Essex on Google one night................er...............and definitely since I met my Kitty 
I can say quite categorically that I've had a hard time ever since. :shock: :shock: :shock: :shock:
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I can say quite categorically that I've had a hard time ever since. :shock: :shock: :shock: :shock: :wink: Well from a single female perspective, I don't know how it is for single guys but I do see a few ads that I just think 'why do they bother'??? In my opinion, for many women, mostly, (see how I'm hedging my bets here???) sex, even tho it's sex through a swinging site, needs some sort of seduction/preamble. Isn't there some cliche about the most erogenous zone being the brain??? 
I'd want to meet a single guy if he was polite but flirtatious in his initial approach (PM or email reply to my ad), then if he went on to tell me a bit about him (personality does count!) and was honest and open, perhaps even to a fault, admitting some foibles is good in my book. Someone friendly, confident, with a wicked sense of humour and a broad minded attitude would go down well.
I would NOT want to meet someone who expects me to give them my address within 2 mins of MSNing with them (and then gets tetchy or rude when I won't, and calls me a timewaster or as one particularly polite young man did, a 'fat whale') who wants me to go round there 'right now' or someone who is clearly only interested in 'fucking me', i.e. doing something TO or even AT me, not thinking of whether I'm enjoying it or not.
Don't know whether this makes any sort of sense to anyone except me, but I just thought I'd add my two pennies worth.
I'd want to meet a single guy if he was polite but flirtatious in his initial approach (PM or email reply to my ad), then if he went on to tell me a bit about him (personality does count!) and was honest and open, perhaps even to a fault, admitting some foibles is good in my book. Someone friendly, confident, with a wicked sense of humour and a broad minded attitude would go down well.
I would NOT want to meet someone who expects me to give them my address within 2 mins of MSNing with them (and then gets tetchy or rude when I won't, and calls me a timewaster or as one particularly polite young man did, a 'fat whale') who wants me to go round there 'right now' or someone who is clearly only interested in 'fucking me', i.e. doing something TO or even AT me, not thinking of whether I'm enjoying it or not.
Don't know whether this makes any sort of sense to anyone except me, but I just thought I'd add my two pennies worth.
There is a side to this single guy stuff I haven't seen discussed yet. It's a sort of syndrome I've noticed which I could call "Right here - right now!". Very often I have had contacts with single guys who want to meet me. Meet me now!!! "Can you get to Macclesfield by " Me : "No but I have some free time this weekend." Him: " ". ie nothing.
So one minute there are all these guys responding to your post or ad but because you can't leave within the next ten minutes you've blown it, apparently. And then, suddenly, after some weeks you get :"Hello - remember me? I'd really like to see you. Can you get to..." and so on.
So I have started to identify this pattern - "am randy - want woman - she can't come - best wank then - don't want her now".
Am I right? Anybody else come across it?
So my advice to the single guys is be patient. Accept she has a life to lead. Keep in contact and be prepared to plan.
Jezzay.
So one minute there are all these guys responding to your post or ad but because you can't leave within the next ten minutes you've blown it, apparently. And then, suddenly, after some weeks you get :"Hello - remember me? I'd really like to see you. Can you get to..." and so on.
So I have started to identify this pattern - "am randy - want woman - she can't come - best wank then - don't want her now".
Am I right? Anybody else come across it?
So my advice to the single guys is be patient. Accept she has a life to lead. Keep in contact and be prepared to plan.
Jezzay.
Quote by sexyjo
Well from a single female perspective, I don't know how it is for single guys but I do see a few ads that I just think 'why do they bother'??? In my opinion, for many women, mostly, (see how I'm hedging my bets here???) sex, even tho it's sex through a swinging site, needs some sort of seduction/preamble. Isn't there some cliche about the most erogenous zone being the brain???
I'd want to meet a single guy if he was polite but flirtatious in his initial approach (PM or email reply to my ad), then if he went on to tell me a bit about him (personality does count!) and was honest and open, perhaps even to a fault, admitting some foibles is good in my book. Someone friendly, confident, with a wicked sense of humour and a broad minded attitude would go down well.
I would NOT want to meet someone who expects me to give them my address within 2 mins of MSNing with them (and then gets tetchy or rude when I won't, and calls me a timewaster or as one particularly polite young man did, a 'fat whale') who wants me to go round there 'right now' or someone who is clearly only interested in 'fucking me', i.e. doing something TO or even AT me, not thinking of whether I'm enjoying it or not.
Don't know whether this makes any sort of sense to anyone except me, but I just thought I'd add my two pennies worth.
I agree with you 100% Jo, when guys on here read our add and see that we also meet as single i get loads of mail from single guys asking me to meet them on my own and if i do not agree to meet them get accused of being a guy etc and have also had the abusive remarks off guys when i turn then down because they want my phone number after less than 5 mins of chat, now if i was looking to meet a guy i would expect them to want to chat on the phone so i could prove i was female but i do not expect to be pestered for it after a couple of mins and then get verbal abuse cause wont give them my number, as a rule i will only meet a guy if i have already met them at a munch, party, club etc that way there is not need for me to have to cam, send out pics or talk on phone its easier all round that way
Quote by sexyjo, spookily
I'd want to meet a single guy if he was polite but flirtatious in his initial approach (PM or email reply to my ad), then if he went on to tell me a bit about him (personality does count!) and was honest and open, perhaps even to a fault, admitting some foibles is good in my book. Someone friendly, confident, with a wicked sense of humour and a broad minded attitude would go down well.
sexyjo
But seriously . . . .
Quote by sexyjo
Don't know whether this makes any sort of sense to anyone except me, but I just thought I'd add my two pennies worth.
Made perfect sense to me.
The only thing missing was a phone call
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Quote by jezzay
There is a side to this single guy stuff I haven't seen discussed yet. It's a sort of syndrome I've noticed which I could call "Right here - right now!". Very often I have had contacts with single guys who want to meet me. Meet me now!!! "Can you get to Macclesfield by " Me : "No but I have some free time this weekend." Him: " ". ie nothing.
So one minute there are all these guys responding to your post or ad but because you can't leave within the next ten minutes you've blown it, apparently. And then, suddenly, after some weeks you get :"Hello - remember me? I'd really like to see you. Can you get to..." and so on.
So I have started to identify this pattern - "am randy - want woman - she can't come - best wank then - don't want her now".
Am I right? Anybody else come across it?
So my advice to the single guys is be patient. Accept she has a life to lead. Keep in contact and be prepared to plan.
Jezzay.
My guess is that they don't start wanking then - they've been at it fer 10 minutes already - hence the immediacy!
Obviously not stayers!!
Quote by dambuster
I'd want to meet a single guy if he was polite but flirtatious in his initial approach (PM or email reply to my ad), then if he went on to tell me a bit about him (personality does count!) and was honest and open, perhaps even to a fault, admitting some foibles is good in my book. Someone friendly, confident, with a wicked sense of humour and a broad minded attitude would go down well.
sexyjo
But seriously . . . . You mean you WEREN'T serious?????
Quote by sexyjo
Don't know whether this makes any sort of sense to anyone except me, but I just thought I'd add my two pennies worth.
Made perfect sense to me.
The only thing missing was a phone call
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Hey I'm from Mansfield toooo, i hear the best Curry house is in huthwaite (Sutton Ashfield way)
On the subject of hard times ( i always get one when a womans around
Also know where that curry house is and IT IS good :wink:
Well . . . . . .
as we never got to the Italian on Chats* Road . . . . . . . . . . . . ?
:wink:
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Quote by jezzay
There is a side to this single guy stuff I haven't seen discussed yet. It's a sort of syndrome I've noticed which I could call "Right here - right now!". Very often I have had contacts with single guys who want to meet me. Meet me now!!! "Can you get to Macclesfield by " Me : "No but I have some free time this weekend." Him: " ". ie nothing.
So one minute there are all these guys responding to your post or ad but because you can't leave within the next ten minutes you've blown it, apparently. And then, suddenly, after some weeks you get :"Hello - remember me? I'd really like to see you. Can you get to..." and so on.
So I have started to identify this pattern - "am randy - want woman - she can't come - best wank then - don't want her now".
Am I right? Anybody else come across it?
So my advice to the single guys is be patient. Accept she has a life to lead. Keep in contact and be prepared to plan.
Jezzay.
I had something similar this week. A PM out of the blue from a single bi male who lives in Manchester area, Asked if I would come up for a meet!
FFS I live on the South coast!
Where are they coming from?
:roll: :roll: :roll: well ..as a newish single guy i can comment only so much i suppose...
i agree in the forums people tend to reply to your queeries..
in chat there are 2 tpyes of singgle guy....
those who join or have been a member for a few days and post nonend for meeting singles/couples etc...i spent a few days just watching and commenting every now and then and as the weeks rolled on i got to know some people//met some people and now have a good laugh in chat....
i suppose m8 im just agreeing with all the others really but very long winded way lol...
just take your time is my advice and get to know people...you would be very lucky indeed or have a brad pitt lookalike type avitar to be asked for a meet up....ask about social events ...thats what im interested in and meeting more SH members...
by all means have a laugh with every 1 in chat regardless of sex or sexual orientation...ive not found 1 person hard to approach or talk too...
hope this helps m8 ...enjoy yourself
i agree in the forums people tend to reply to your queeries..
in chat there are 2 tpyes of singgle guy....
those who join or have been a member for a few days and post nonend for meeting singles/couples etc...i spent a few days just watching and commenting every now and then and as the weeks rolled on i got to know some people//met some people and now have a good laugh in chat....
i suppose m8 im just agreeing with all the others really but very long winded way lol...
just take your time is my advice and get to know people...you would be very lucky indeed or have a brad pitt lookalike type avitar to be asked for a meet up....ask about social events ...thats what im interested in and meeting more SH members...
by all means have a laugh with every 1 in chat regardless of sex or sexual orientation...ive not found 1 person hard to approach or talk too...
hope this helps m8 ...enjoy yourself
Quote by dambuster
Hey I'm from Mansfield toooo, i hear the best Curry house is in huthwaite (Sutton Ashfield way)
On the subject of hard times ( i always get one when a womans around
Also know where that curry house is and IT IS good :wink:
Well . . . . . .
as we never got to the Italian on Chats* Road . . . . . . . . . . . . ?
:wink:
:wink:
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Quote by dambuster
I've already had to have stern words with Budbud and tell him we're not having a Mk IV
Budbud is lovely, looks like he might fall off that chair
Sex God
Quote by markz
I have'nt had a hard time on the forum
that usually comes when I go on the photo ads section
:laughabove: :laughabove: :laughabove:
I have recently been successful, and also getting a bit more response from emails and answering ads. Not all have been from SH, but other sites.
However not all the replies I received offered as much detail as the advertiser required or thought they needed. What came back was failry safe, but largely unexpressive. And as I said lacking any real detail or description. Some rambled on in a way that was hard work to follow or be sympathetic to. Sometimes it seems that there is a limited vocabulary out there for people to use.
I am glad of the response and feel that I have made some kind of a breakthrough, but not sure if that is the way to go as my communications appear to be attracting some dependant types. The successful meeting came from a female who had said nothing about herself. She was not a regularly contributing SH member.
The point I am making is that some of the feedback is way off the mark for the standard single male expectation of uncomplicated sex. Which may account for the lack of it.
Men do have hormonal flushes which lead them down various avenues of behaviour. But equally so do women. We try as much as possible to make these coincide and compliment each other. I am not sure how well the medium of the internet assists in this part of human contact.
However not all the replies I received offered as much detail as the advertiser required or thought they needed. What came back was failry safe, but largely unexpressive. And as I said lacking any real detail or description. Some rambled on in a way that was hard work to follow or be sympathetic to. Sometimes it seems that there is a limited vocabulary out there for people to use.
I am glad of the response and feel that I have made some kind of a breakthrough, but not sure if that is the way to go as my communications appear to be attracting some dependant types. The successful meeting came from a female who had said nothing about herself. She was not a regularly contributing SH member.
The point I am making is that some of the feedback is way off the mark for the standard single male expectation of uncomplicated sex. Which may account for the lack of it.
Men do have hormonal flushes which lead them down various avenues of behaviour. But equally so do women. We try as much as possible to make these coincide and compliment each other. I am not sure how well the medium of the internet assists in this part of human contact.
Sex God
Quote by sexyjo
I would NOT want to meet someone who expects me to give them my address within 2 mins of MSNing with them (and then gets tetchy or rude when I won't, and calls me a timewaster or as one particularly polite young man did, a 'fat whale')
Well Jo if you look anything like your avatar and you've been called a fat whale, I wonder what these people consider to be slim???.................. you look slim and absolutely gorgeous to me
M
Ooops sorry H didn't see you standing there reading this 