OK i'm 54 and i've just found out that impotence also means “being unable to climax with another person”.
Assume, I have paid a lovely lady £120 for an hour. She treats me like a god, does everything I want and I don't climax. It's like drinking beer and not getting drunk, what just happened!
This is the third time. On my own i'm a heavy, hard cummer, so the mechanics work.
Best guess, PTSD is the cause.
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Warming the Bed
I never knew impotence in the way you defined affects both sexes.
As for myself I sometimes find it hard to climax, and it's not always about the mechanics of the situation, as you have guessed it's about the mind as well.
For myself I sometimes get performance anxiety even with a long term partner - The male orgasm is seen as something just so important to sex (which I guess biologically speaking makes sense) to both partners it can be the sole focus of the sex session. Why can't sex just be pleasurable, and if you feel like cumming then you should, if not why do people care?
Secondly it depends on how I'm feeling at the time. I have had days where I have sat at my desk, feeling horny and rush home to look at some porn, and for some reason just don't feel that horny anymore. The same principal work with actually being with a woman as well! Sometimes imagination and teasing can get you more turned on than the actual thing I guess. At those times I leave it for a few hours and come back to it, often results in a good horny session with a healthy climax. (I have walked away from sex sessions with real people without cumming only to get myself off with porn a few hours later - might be connected?)
Thirdly people might have intimacy issues I have had female partners that say they climax on their own, but don't with other people. These were women I hooked up with in regular nightclubs and then played with (one over several months). Maybe the act of surrender or domination (I'm getting kinky here lol) with someone is something that is impeding progress, and might be cured by being with someone you have a trusting long term relationship with?
Finally (connected with the first point) I find that what works when watching porn (in my fantasy world) does not work in real life. Watching a slutty threesome on the PC turns me on a lot at times, however in the real world I have to be in a specific mood to get a kick out of a threesome.
Anyway these are my thoughts on the matter - it sounds like the physical aspects of your encounter were as you liked them, but as you have guessed climaxing is often the matter of both mind and body.
Man I've writtern a lot lol
As for myself I sometimes find it hard to climax, and it's not always about the mechanics of the situation, as you have guessed it's about the mind as well.
For myself I sometimes get performance anxiety even with a long term partner - The male orgasm is seen as something just so important to sex (which I guess biologically speaking makes sense) to both partners it can be the sole focus of the sex session. Why can't sex just be pleasurable, and if you feel like cumming then you should, if not why do people care?
Secondly it depends on how I'm feeling at the time. I have had days where I have sat at my desk, feeling horny and rush home to look at some porn, and for some reason just don't feel that horny anymore. The same principal work with actually being with a woman as well! Sometimes imagination and teasing can get you more turned on than the actual thing I guess. At those times I leave it for a few hours and come back to it, often results in a good horny session with a healthy climax. (I have walked away from sex sessions with real people without cumming only to get myself off with porn a few hours later - might be connected?)
Thirdly people might have intimacy issues I have had female partners that say they climax on their own, but don't with other people. These were women I hooked up with in regular nightclubs and then played with (one over several months). Maybe the act of surrender or domination (I'm getting kinky here lol) with someone is something that is impeding progress, and might be cured by being with someone you have a trusting long term relationship with?
Finally (connected with the first point) I find that what works when watching porn (in my fantasy world) does not work in real life. Watching a slutty threesome on the PC turns me on a lot at times, however in the real world I have to be in a specific mood to get a kick out of a threesome.
Anyway these are my thoughts on the matter - it sounds like the physical aspects of your encounter were as you liked them, but as you have guessed climaxing is often the matter of both mind and body.
Man I've writtern a lot lol
Sex God
It is worth noting that certain erection enhancing substances can also cause the male to be less sensitive, and therefore he will find it more difficult to climax.
I was once asked to test horny goat weed, supposedly an aphrodisiac, and what it did was cause me to question what actually is an aphrodisiac? Now certain substances will have a different effect upon different people, but horny goat weed caused me to become very sensitive and to reach an orgasm very easily. As you might realise this is not the effect many men would be looking for. I hasten to add that this was just a little testing of the substance, and in no way was it a scientific study. My doctor was nevertheless pleased to have a heads up, so to speak.
I was once asked to test horny goat weed, supposedly an aphrodisiac, and what it did was cause me to question what actually is an aphrodisiac? Now certain substances will have a different effect upon different people, but horny goat weed caused me to become very sensitive and to reach an orgasm very easily. As you might realise this is not the effect many men would be looking for. I hasten to add that this was just a little testing of the substance, and in no way was it a scientific study. My doctor was nevertheless pleased to have a heads up, so to speak.
Warming the Bed
you guys are lucky i always cum to soon & my mrs isn't to happy
Warming the Bed
Quote by nickrwayProbably. I had the same thing after the Gulf War and after Bosnia.
Best guess, PTSD is the cause.
