Hiya peeps...
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My quandry... last night my brother came round to see me on my birthday. GT, myself and he were talking downstairs in the kitchen and while I nipped to the loo he shot upstairs, quick as a flash, to my office to use my computer, which he didn't ask permission to use. Open on my PC is a window to this forum... plus a lovely long PM from someone to which I was constructing a reply to in my head...
Our PCs are in our home office upstairs... out of the way... naturally if they were in public view downstairs then I would not have left any windows open. What I didn't expect is that someone, even a family member, would shoot upstairs and use my computer without first asking... PC's are private things... and I am annoyed with my brother for abusing his position. GT could hardly stop him from rushing upstairs... it is his brother in law when all is said and done.
What made matters worse is that a friend from SH called round just prior to my brother leaving to have a chinese with us... we hadn't seen her for ages and it was great to touch base with her again... completely vanilla and friendly... He left... but forgot his jacket and rang the door bell... as I opened it to let him in he made a supposedly humerous comment... 'oh have you started the orgy already'... kinda confirming that he had seen the open windows on my browser... That comment was sneaky and hurtful because it felt like he was sneering or laughing at me...
You may wonder why I am bringing this up here... well I am fully aware that my brother is not stupid and he will have made a mental note of this website's URL... So I checked who joined yesterday and lo and behold someone joined with the name of my brother's and sister in law's name, the right age and location. Naturally I am not going to publicise that name but the coincidence is too great and I feel rather sick...
On the other hand there is the slight chance that it isn't him so I cannot confront the issue unless I know for sure... but right now I am very much in a quandry and need a bit of moral support on how to handle this... If it is you brother... please do the honourable thing and leave this forum... or if you choose not to then please treat my choices with respect and keep whatever you learn about me to yourself and please talk to me...
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Wibbly
xxx
well said.
i suppose its always a shock when someone stumbles on a secret like that, but just think, it could be worse.......he could have been really really upset about it.
i would be tempted to speak to him openly and honestly about why you would like it to remain a secret from other people.
or maybe he might suprise you and have a secret you dont know about ;)
Damned rude thing to do, and then to go and chase it up is a bit odd. ( presuming it is your brother who joined, and it sounds like it is...)
You could always pm this new member and ask if it is him... you know your brother has seen the site so it wont be a surprise. If it isn't him it wont matter either....
Personally if it was my brother, I'd be after a ban as he'd only be here causing trouble, either that or I'd have to ask for a name change and that would be a pain in the arse.
Hope it sorts out for you WW.
WibblyWobbly,
Talk to your brother .............just talk to him ............ you need to know if he did see anything and what he thinks about what he saw.
Good luck babe
Sam xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
If he turns out to be your Bro, and won't see reason then reach back in your mind,and maybe you will remember something on him that will ensure his compliance, but only as a last resort.
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cc_7up
i was going to say, i think blackmail is a little ott.
afterall......its only sex lol.
I don't think he should be banned, after all having seen whats on your computer it may have awoken something in him and he may be genuinely interested in joining in.....however if he's just here to cause trouble then a ban would be in order or a sharp talking to from the Mods.....
But I DO think you should talk to him and make it clear that it is your life and what you choose to do is up to you and that you're very upset with him for abusing your trust.....
Feel free to PM me if you need to.
From what you have writen I am not sure that your brother was being sarcastic, maybe he was just as embarassed as you when he realised that he had left his coat behind and was trying to make light of the event?
Of course you know him better than anyone, but could it be that he might be interested in swinging and not necessarily negatively?
Can only agree with the others here hunni
You need to sit down and talk to your brother
Good Luck hun hope it all works out ok,
heres a hug hun :therethere: I know id feel horrible if it was happening to me and my brother,
Here if you need to chat hun
Vicky
My Twopenorth, for what its worth.
A ban might just incite him to see this as an area of weekness on your part and, if the sneeky 'orgy' comment is anything to go by, he may try to exploit it. It depends on how mature your brother is. Not knowing your situation as a swinger, if both you and your partner are involved, then I would say that you BOTH need to sit down with your brother and have a positive, constructive discussion with him. Try asking him how he feels about what he saw. Explain that you feel violated by the way he's intruded upon your privacy. If he's mature about it, he will apologise for the intrusion and you will both build a stronger bond with each other for sharing your secret.
Dont let him hold this over you. You are doing nothing wrong, nothing to be ashamed of. I understand that your family may not view it as such and it may be difficult to live with the idea that everyone would find out. If your family would be upset, then your brother should consider the impact upon your parents and other relatives before he decides to make a deal out of this. ( I hope that he's reading this thread!!!)
The best thing that could come out of it is that he's reading this thread, he can see a couple of things.
1) That you have the support of a great group of friends, so you're not alone.
2) That his actions so far have caused you a lot of distress and, if he's got an ounce of decency, he should be picking the phone up about now to apologise and to sort things out. (if you are reading this, YES this is a hint!!!!)
Good luck to all involved.
Well
Okay - about this 'orgy' we had last night..........................
All I can say is - I must have dozed off and missed it all - Damn!
Regardless of what happened with your brother we did end up having a lovely evening - as usual. Good food, good wine, great conversation and even better company!
I know how you were feeling last night and I fully understand.
If it is your brother and he does stick around on here - I hope he comes to realise that this site is not 100% about sex. The biggest thing is the open and honest friendships.
You know I'm here if ever you need anyone to talk to (although I know GT is there for you).
Your very good friend,
Alex x x x x x x x x x x
Kisses to you babes x
I remember writing on here that I put my trust in a friend and she told all to people at work. I know it's different for you cos it's family but I was mortified just the same and had to put up with the odd jibe until they all moved on to someone else.
You know where I am, as Alexandra said we're here for ya!
(Just remembered, last week I forwarded one of those 'friend' things that was sent by email from a fellow member here, to my cousin and various other people including a lady at a company I work occasionally for. Right at the end in tiny writing is a link to a swinging site!!!!!!! Just hoping like me, no one has read right to the end!!!!!) I am still getting mail from my cousin and work from the lady so far!
Let's hope your brother does the right thing. He ought to with a sis like you x
Cathy x
shame on you brother wibbly!
i would not care about he fact that he is on here hun - he can hardly throw it in your face if he is here too.
i would be more bothered by that fact that not only was he rude to use your computer, but he did not have the decency to try and put it right by ignoring what he had seen.
hope you are ok hun
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What's the latest Wibs?
cc_7up
Obviously a bit different with opposite sex siblings but my brother and I tell each other everything about everything - including sex stuff and have had unplanned same room own partner stuff going on in the past.
Could be a bonding opportunity?
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