in need of help

26 Sep 2005

please please please could someone help me sort this out,
i have been through the whole site for weeks and still no action,
any sugestions on success
adam.
sad

26 Sep 2005

Quote by adeymull
i have been through the whole site for weeks and still no action,
any sugestions on success
adam.

What you mean you were kind of hoping to have been through half the members within a few weeks? confused

Calm down mate. Try getting to know a few people first. This isn't a one stop shag shop and despite what the tabloids may say about swingers, we DON'T shag anything that moves evil

We like to get to know people first. After all, would you really walk into a pub and ask the first woman you see to come and have a shag?! Of course not, so please don't expect to do it in here smackbottom

T-J

26 Sep 2005

Quote by RedHot

i have been through the whole site for weeks and still no action,
any sugestions on success
adam.

What you mean you were kind of hoping to have been through half the members within a few weeks? confused

Calm down mate. Try getting to know a few people first. This isn't a one stop shag shop and despite what the tabloids may say about swingers, we DON'T shag anything that moves evil

We like to get to know people first. After all, would you really walk into a pub and ask the first woman you see to come and have a shag?! Of course not, so please don't expect to do it in here smackbottom

T-J
That told yer! wink

Sound advice though! :thumbup:
ES

26 Sep 2005

Hi Adam
I'm no expert, but maybe half the problem is that you havent been through "this whole site" at all - your posts have been concentrated in the Dogging section, therefore are only read/responded to by a limited audience.
dunno

26 Sep 2005

Quote by RedHot
we DON'T shag anything that moves
After all, would you really walk into a pub and ask the first woman you see to come and have a shag?!

:smackbottom: :smackbottom:
Stop generalising... The odds are that some people on here WILL shag anything that moves... stands to reason... lol

In any case, how do you know he's into women? rolleyes

Wibbly
xx

26 Sep 2005

iam very greatfull for all you responses, iam not here just to shag as posted, in fact iam here to meet some great people who have no holdups about having some fun,
yes i love sex but who doesn`t??????
but for me iam in a circle of straight boring people at work and home and need more in my life,
i love to be sociable and meet interesting people, ive had enough of the same old boring conversations about day to day bullshit,
i woulkd love to spread my dreams and fantasies into reality.
point taken, i have to maybe look at what is on offer and how to put others views intyo action
so once again
thanks.

26 Sep 2005

by the way iam straight so sorry guys

26 Sep 2005

:roll: :roll: :roll: :roll:

26 Sep 2005

' After all, would you really walk into a pub and ask the first woman you see to come and have a shag?!'
sounds like an entertaining experiment to me! ;)

26 Sep 2005

okay..... you want me to serious.....
right.. having reading thru all 26 posts you have made so far and you have on on the forums for all of 3 weeks.....answer me a question...
If i was a woman or a couple, what would we know about you so far????
The answer is "not a lot" and then taking that further.... have you shown anything that is different for all the other single blokes that want a shag... the answer is no!!!
so have you given them any reason to want to get to know you.....no!!!!
as Redhot say.. people will still be choosy because they can afford to be, this isn't a one stop shag site, and you haven't sold yourself at all..... you get out of the site what you put into it....
hand on heart.... if you were to look at what you have written so far, would you go with you...
I think you know the answer......

26 Sep 2005

iam more then happy to accept critism and good comments and for this i have respect,
i agree with you and in a way its as you say, as new to this iam maybe not in a possition to be able to express my concerns or wants,
thanks and i have taken notes on your advise and will endeviour to improve and provide a more direct approch with consideration to who might want to read and respond
thank o wise one for your input
wink

26 Sep 2005

Quote by lancyuk
' After all, would you really walk into a pub and ask the first woman you see to come and have a shag?!'
sounds like an entertaining experiment to me! ;)

Maybe we should have an evening out trying that LOL Just need to run as we get thrown out of the pub and the police are called. bolt

26 Sep 2005

Quote by fabio grooverider
this isn't a one stop shag site.

FFS, dont be telling Eager & H, red this :shock: :shock: , i dont wanna be the bearer of such sad news. They arent going to take this too well at all.
I know i am not nearly brave enough to break this to them.
Is anyone here willing to tell them ? plz rolleyes

26 Sep 2005

Quote by Dino.
this isn't a one stop shag site.

FFS, dont be telling Eager & H, red this :shock: :shock: , i dont wanna be the bearer of such sad news. They arent going to take this too well at all.
I know i am not nearly brave enough to break this to them.
Is anyone here willing to tell them ? plz rolleyes

lol... you know i didn't mean it like that ya cheeky feck!!!! smile

:) :) :) :) just as well i didn't catch up with ya on saturday... i was going to ask if the wheels have fallen off the city bandwagon!!!!!!!
i'll tell H red if you want mate... obviously it would be on a tuesday night at a club!!! :)

26 Sep 2005

Quote by Dino.
this isn't a one stop shag site.

FFS, dont be telling Eager & H, red this :shock: :shock: , i dont wanna be the bearer of such sad news. They arent going to take this too well at all.
I know i am not nearly brave enough to break this to them.
Is anyone here willing to tell them? plz rolleyes

Dino, I'll volunteer, might be suitable punishment for my inebriated state on Saturday night
I blame Happy Cats, meet in the bar at 6 indeed smackbottom

26 Sep 2005

Quote by adeymull
iam very greatfull for all you responses, iam not here just to shag as posted, in fact iam here to meet some great people who have no holdups about having some fun,
yes i love sex but who doesn`t??????
but for me iam in a circle of straight boring people at work and home and need more in my life,
i love to be sociable and meet interesting people, ive had enough of the same old boring conversations about day to day bullshit,
i woulkd love to spread my dreams and fantasies into reality.
point taken, i have to maybe look at what is on offer and how to put others views intyo action
so once again
thanks.

Why don't you try going along to one of the munches that are advertised in the Lets Meet Up section - face to face is always going to be a better way to get to know people than posting ads on the net?
I'm not personally looking to meet people, but it stands to reason that if you're really serious about hooking up, then making the effort to go along to a few social gatherings might be a good start!

26 Sep 2005

i have looked at the muches and will love to attend subject to location and availabillity,
how do you go about getting an invite?
confused

26 Sep 2005

no success adey???
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopic/57809.html
id call that success m8
sarah.....sarah...howd i do ????????????

26 Sep 2005

Quote by adeymull
i have been through the whole site for weeks and still no action,
adam.

Quote by dargento
no success adey???
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopic/57809.html
id call that success m8

I rather took his comments to mean he had no success from *this site*. His post in dogging suggests he had random success, but not through any responses from SH. I stand to be corrected by him is this is not so confused

T-J

26 Sep 2005

iam not going into much detail but on several occasions i have experianced some dogging action but at no time was this site ever an influence or that any members from here have ever come up with the goods.
sorry but in my opinion there seems to be a lot of talking but no action,
so prove me wrong ????????????????/
confused

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26 Sep 2005

Quote by RedHot

i have been through the whole site for weeks and still no action, any sugestions on success
adam.

This isn't a one stop shag shop and despite what the tabloids may say about swingers, we DON'T shag anything that moves evil

We like to get to know people first. After all, would you really walk into a pub and ask the first woman you see to come and have a shag?! Of course not, so please don't expect to do it in here smackbottom

T-J
LOL! Swinging with swinging etiquette, a swinger with dignity and grace. I'm learning.

26 Sep 2005

Quote by a26
' After all, would you really walk into a pub and ask the first woman you see to come and have a shag?!'
sounds like an entertaining experiment to me! ;)

Maybe we should have an evening out trying that LOL Just need to run as we get thrown out of the pub and the police are called. bolt

That's if you can run with crushed nuts. lol

:lol:

26 Sep 2005

Quote by adeymull
sorry but in my opinion there seems to be a lot of talking but no action,
so prove me wrong ????????????????/
:

trust me.... that doesn't work either, and that attitude won't help either.... and to be honest, the sympathy route is likely to backfire...you will turn more people off than on......and it doesn't come across well....
like people are really going to think..."you know what.... he is right, where do i drop my knickers and shag him to prove him wrong"
like i said...and a lot of people have, you get out what you put in..... seriously if you are just after a quick shag... this may not be the site you think it is

26 Sep 2005

Quote by fabio grooverider

sorry but in my opinion there seems to be a lot of talking but no action, so prove me wrong ????????????????/
:

trust me.... that doesn't work either, and that attitude won't help either.... and to be honest, the sympathy route is likely to backfire...you will turn more people off than on......and it doesn't come across well....

So the 'non prospecting of the likes' aren't missing much of hot and steamy adult action. Oh I'm so, so, so disappionted. banghead

26 Sep 2005

if only it was as simple as that hey,
well iam up for good times and friendship, but its just hard to persuade others that my intentions are of a sincere nature
. sad

26 Sep 2005

Quote by adeymull
iam here to meet some great people who have no holdups .

I much prefer those with holdups! or even better suspenders!

26 Sep 2005

Quote by dargento
sarah.....sarah...howd i do ????????????

Sarah rushes in sorry I'm late, wages day and all the RL stuff..........
dargento if you don't know howby now you never will lol

:lol:
Now what do you want to know .................. read the single guys thread by Marcuso might be a good starting point, loads of good advise in there........
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopic/20451.html
Munches to get an invite, read the first post in the thread from the arranger and IF you meet the criteria then post in THAT thread you wish to be invited, the arranger will get back to you.............(please remember we all lead 'normal' lives, and it may take a few days to respond)
Anything else I can do for you boys??? :P