I trust my instincts a lot when it comes to meeting men and women from the cyber world. So far they havent let me down.
Recently I started speaking to a single male who is well known on this and other sites. He goes to various socials, and munches, and is basically seen as a 'good bloke'.
However, my instincts are telling me, actually yelling at me to stay away from this man. I'm not sure if its just because he isnt my type. He seems a little clingy. Or if its because I dont feel like I will be safe around him.
This is the first time I'm at conflict with my instincts. What do I do????
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Instincts
Sex God
follow them they hav`ant let u down yet
Trust your instincts they are usually right, i think we all have a little "extra sense" and can usually pick up the vibe that something isn't right subconsciously!!
If it doesnt seem right are you really going to risk it just to see if things work out the way you planned/thought or would you rather look elsewhere and feel at ease?
As they say on thru the keyhole.....
Red Angel its ooover to you!!
If it doesnt seem right are you really going to risk it just to see if things work out the way you planned/thought or would you rather look elsewhere and feel at ease?
As they say on thru the keyhole.....
Red Angel its ooover to you!!
Sex God
Instinct is usually right if it's felt strongely.
Steer clear for the time being - but maybe wait and see if true colours appear.
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Steer clear for the time being - but maybe wait and see if true colours appear.
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Sex God
No matter how 'well known' and 'trusted' someone maybe by others, the sad fact is that some people will go to great lengths to gain peoples trust in order to use that against them, even if that takes them a period of weeks, months or even years to build up.
Unfortunately there will be a few people in this world who will be able to manipulate those surrounding them to gain trust and use it to their own advantage, whatever that may be....
You'll probably find your instincts to be right, if not, it's still always better to be over cautious...
Sent you a pm
M xx
Unfortunately there will be a few people in this world who will be able to manipulate those surrounding them to gain trust and use it to their own advantage, whatever that may be....
You'll probably find your instincts to be right, if not, it's still always better to be over cautious...
Sent you a pm
M xx
Quote by mazandden
No matter how 'well known' and 'trusted' someone maybe by others, the sad fact is that some people will go to great lengths to gain peoples trust in order to use that against them, even if that takes them a period of weeks, months or even years to build up.
Unfortunately there will be a few people in this world who will be able to manipulate those surrounding them to gain trust and use it to their own advantage, whatever that may be....
Never a truer word spoken
Dave_Notts
Sex God
just cos they have been right for other people, and have worked for other people, don't mean they'll be right and work for you?
mazandden? know what you're saying, just not sure if that's a different thread altogether?
you're hinting at manipulation? in this case i think it's compatibility? maybe wrong? 
gut instinct every time! if it feels wrong, it's wrong. 'nuff said! ;)
n x x x ;)
mazandden? know what you're saying, just not sure if that's a different thread altogether?
you're hinting at manipulation? in this case i think it's compatibility? maybe wrong? gut instinct every time! if it feels wrong, it's wrong. 'nuff said! ;)
n x x x ;)
Sex God
Quote by mazandden
No matter how 'well known' and 'trusted' someone maybe by others, the sad fact is that some people will go to great lengths to gain peoples trust in order to use that against them, even if that takes them a period of weeks, months or even years to build up.
Unfortunately there will be a few people in this world who will be able to manipulate those surrounding them to gain trust and use it to their own advantage, whatever that may be....
You'll probably find your instincts to be right, if not, it's still always better to be over cautious...
Sent you a pm
M xx
:thumbup: nice one Maz.....thanks for saying what I was thinking
Orgasminator
Red -- I've looked at your pics and I can see that you must have guys queing up -- so let this one go - trust your instincts.
Orgasminator
Red -- I've looked at your pics and I can see that you must have guys queing up -- so let this one go - trust your instincts.
Instincts are built-up over years. They are no more than what your brain associated with; good & bad, risk & no risk, comfort and discomfort in the past. They are in short a predication based on past experience. Some folk will go out of their way to project themselves in a way to associate themselve with a good predication.
When you are young take the advice of someone older and close to you. If not the following is as good as it gets.
Travis
When you are young take the advice of someone older and close to you. If not the following is as good as it gets.
Quote by mazandden
No matter how 'well known' and 'trusted' someone maybe by others, the sad fact is that some people will go to great lengths to gain peoples trust in order to use that against them, even if that takes them a period of weeks, months or even years to build up.
Unfortunately there will be a few people in this world who will be able to manipulate those surrounding them to gain trust and use it to their own advantage, whatever that may be....
You'll probably find your instincts to be right, if not, it's still always better to be over cautious...
Sent you a pm
M xx
Travis
I agree with following your gut instincts. I've got a good sense of sussing people out, know I can trust certain people as soon as I meet them, form deep friendships the same way but also listen when the alarm bells ring about others.
Back off for now if you're not sure and see if you're right :thumbup:
Back off for now if you're not sure and see if you're right :thumbup:
Quote by Dave__Notts
No matter how 'well known' and 'trusted' someone maybe by others, the sad fact is that some people will go to great lengths to gain peoples trust in order to use that against them, even if that takes them a period of weeks, months or even years to build up.
Unfortunately there will be a few people in this world who will be able to manipulate those surrounding them to gain trust and use it to their own advantage, whatever that may be....
Never a truer word spoken
Dave_Notts
Spot on!
Got loads to say on this matter but i've made 4 attempts at it now and it's still coming out wrong so i'm shutting up!
Sex God
Quote by redangel
I trust my instincts a lot when it comes to meeting men and women from the cyber world. So far they havent let me down.
Recently I started speaking to a single male who is well known on this and other sites. He goes to various socials, and munches, and is basically seen as a 'good bloke'.
However, my instincts are telling me, actually yelling at me to stay away from this man. I'm not sure if its just because he isnt my type. He seems a little clingy. Or if its because I dont feel like I will be safe around him.
This is the first time I'm at conflict with my instincts. What do I do????
I am going to go against what everyone else has said here. I guess you havent met the guy personaly? sounds that way from your post. If you havent met the guy but other well know people from here say he's ok them its quite possible he is, after all they are baseing an opinion from a face to face meeting or maybe even more
You only get 25% of the personality form online chat. I dont think there are that many manipulators that do fantasticly well in this scene there are bound to be one or two.Touching on what someone else said as well if I was a guy who was in touch with you at this moment I would now be the one who was wary after reading this. I probably wouldent contact you again unless got in contact with me first.
Definitely follow your instincts. No question!
Just because there is a concensus about someone doesn't make it right.
How many times have you heard it said of someone that they were always a really nice person, butter wouldn't melt etc. when they've finally shown their true colours and been caught out? Not often the criminal on TV news is described as a really nasty piece of work by neighbours and friends. They were always "the boy next door" "really friendly and helpful". Same thing applies in our day to day lives.
Just because there is a concensus about someone doesn't make it right.
How many times have you heard it said of someone that they were always a really nice person, butter wouldn't melt etc. when they've finally shown their true colours and been caught out? Not often the criminal on TV news is described as a really nasty piece of work by neighbours and friends. They were always "the boy next door" "really friendly and helpful". Same thing applies in our day to day lives.
Sex God
Quote by pussysoother
Definitely follow your instincts. No question!
Just because there is a concensus about someone doesn't make it right.
How many times have you heard it said of someone that they were always a really nice person, butter wouldn't melt etc. when they've finally shown their true colours and been caught out? Not often the criminal on TV news is described as a really nasty piece of work by neighbours and friends. They were always "the boy next door" "really friendly and helpful". Same thing applies in our day to day lives.
Plenty of times, in which case I am a serial killer :lol2:
Sexlightened
just a thought...
...but after feeling this way, would you, in his company, feel safe/relaxed/at ease and be able to enjoy a face to face meeting? How long would you be willing to wait until you were proved wrong?
Saying this, I dont believe you get to know a person enough just though cyber chat
Good luck girl & stay safe
Mrs G x
...but after feeling this way, would you, in his company, feel safe/relaxed/at ease and be able to enjoy a face to face meeting? How long would you be willing to wait until you were proved wrong?
Saying this, I dont believe you get to know a person enough just though cyber chat
Good luck girl & stay safe
Mrs G x
Quote by redangel
I trust my instincts a lot when it comes to meeting men and women from the cyber world. So far they havent let me down.
Recently I started speaking to a single male who is well known on this and other sites. He goes to various socials, and munches, and is basically seen as a 'good bloke'.
However, my instincts are telling me, actually yelling at me to stay away from this man. I'm not sure if its just because he isnt my type. He seems a little clingy. Or if its because I dont feel like I will be safe around him.
This is the first time I'm at conflict with my instincts. What do I do????
I don't actually think you need to worry about what you should do:
Firstly if you don't feel safe around him then IMO only a fool meets someone they don't feel safe around - especially if he isn't your type in the first place
Secondly, if I was him and read this post... I wouldn't want to touch you with an extendable washing pole (you don't find bargepoles so easily nowadays). I mean, what guy would be comfortable or want to meet a woman who has openly told the whole forum they don't feel 'safe' with him?
He already has to worry that people won’t suss out who you are talking about with all the clues and aspersion cast on his character, never mind about what you might say if he makes a wrong move with you?
If I was him I would be wondering why you felt the need to mention he is well known on this site and others and that he attends munches and socials, if you genuinely wanted advice, rather than just leaving it open as a guy who is generally thought of as a ‘nice guy’ by other people? :?
But fortunately I am not him – so I won’t bother wondering.
At the end of the day, you say all you have done is talk to this guy. There is no requirement for you to do anything else.
Quote by redangel
I trust my instincts a lot when it comes to meeting men and women from the cyber world. So far they havent let me down.
Recently I started speaking to a single male who is well known on this and other sites. He goes to various socials, and munches, and is basically seen as a 'good bloke'.
However, my instincts are telling me, actually yelling at me to stay away from this man. I'm not sure if its just because he isnt my type. He seems a little clingy. Or if its because I dont feel like I will be safe around him.
This is the first time I'm at conflict with my instincts. What do I do????
How desperate for a shag are you really that you would consider meeting someone you dont like and scares you?
:shock:I actually feel sorry for the poor chap reading this
If you want to have a 'pop' at someone then be adult and do it via PM - as this is clearly all this is! If you have decided he is 'clingy' then something that you or one of your 'friends' has experienced must have lead to this. If not, then it's your perception and nothing else - give the guy a break ffs!
Sex God
Quote by Blokes
I trust my instincts a lot when it comes to meeting men and women from the cyber world. So far they havent let me down.
Recently I started speaking to a single male who is well known on this and other sites. He goes to various socials, and munches, and is basically seen as a 'good bloke'.
However, my instincts are telling me, actually yelling at me to stay away from this man. I'm not sure if its just because he isnt my type. He seems a little clingy. Or if its because I dont feel like I will be safe around him.
This is the first time I'm at conflict with my instincts. What do I do????
How desperate for a shag are you really that you would consider meeting someone you dont like and scares you?
:shock:I actually feel sorry for the poor chap reading this
If you want to have a 'pop' at someone then be adult and do it via PM - as this is clearly all this is! If you have decided he is 'clingy' then something that you or one of your 'friends' has experienced must have lead to this. If not, then it's your perception and nothing else - give the guy a break ffs!
Agreed :thumbup:
