intorduceing my wife to swing

4 Mar 2006

has any one got any ideas how i can introduce my wife to swinging please smile

4 Mar 2006

Talk to her!
There are many threads on this subject, my best advice is don't trick her or turn up with a take it or leave it sit.

4 Mar 2006

A "have you ever thought about...." conversation is the only fair approach.
If you try to niggle away with little hints here and there you risk her getting the wrong end of the stick, and trying to manipulate someone you love on such a serious issue is not fair IMHO.
Theres a risk she'll be disgusted with you. Thats a risk you have to take. Hopefully you know her well enough to know if this is likely. She might be shocked, but there might be a seed which will grow into curiosity in her mind.
She might be desperate for a gangbang, say " I thought you'd never ask" and burst into a jolly chorus of "do you take it in the ass?"
Hope this helps!

4 Mar 2006

Ask her if she wants to .................. and ....................
If she says NO ............ respect her wishes !
Sam xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

4 Mar 2006

Quote by winchwench
She might be desperate for a gangbang, say " I thought you'd never ask" and burst into a jolly chorus of "do you take it in the ass?"
Hope this helps!

:laughabove:

pmsl :rotflmao:
As she breaks out the secret stash of swingers porno mags and then lubes up the strapon! lol

The poster of this thread winces at the thought of actually having to go through with things and hangs a huge "No - entry" sign over his back passage while muttering...
"ever wished you hadn't asked"
kiss

Gem. x

4 Mar 2006

Quote by nighteyes
has any one got any ideas how i can introduce my wife to swinging please

Bought one for me nephew last year.... I didnt have any instructions but a gentle push in the right direction bought giggle & whoops of joy to his lil face... he's only 2 1/2!

4 Mar 2006

:rotflmao: :rotflmao: @ redpantherman
Shireen
xxx

4 Mar 2006

Most people are assuming you are already an accomplished swinger. If not so, then it may be the blind leading the blind.

4 Mar 2006

i think most people would say don't ever take her on a blind meet or arrange for anyone to turn up at home etc in the hope she may just do it once in the situation u could get a kick in the bollox or worse still she may go thro with it out of obligation and hate you after for it :shock:

4 Mar 2006

Quote by blonde
Ask her if she wants to .................. and ....................
If she says NO ............ respect her wishes !
Sam xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Hello you

I knew there was a reason I wasnt attached lol - no seriously
Communicate with her - tell her whats involved - ease her in gently so to speak - you might be suprised
She might just like it
Hmmmmmmm
I'll rephrase that - she will like it
:) :) :) :) :giggle:

4 Mar 2006

I'd love to add something really witty but seems everyone else has beaten me to it :giggle:
It depends how frankly you both talk about sex. If you can discuss fantasies, why not ask her to write a list of all the things she'd like to try and you do the same. Then compare notes and see what her reaction is to yours. You never know, it might be top of her list !!!!

4 Mar 2006

Get her a crash helmet, then the swinging harness. When she's asleep, put her in it (make sure the helmet is on securely. This could prove tricky to do before she wakes up).
Then whirl her round and round in the manner of a hammer throw contestant at the Olympics....I'm assuming two things:
Either
A. She's the 8th dwarf edited out of Snow White
or
B: You are one strong mofo. In which case I am so so sorry for taking the piss, please don't hurt me...

4 Mar 2006

nighteyes - member since Aug 2004? Not interested in acknowledging the helpful responses so far - even though been on line within the last hour. Hmmm - not a sleeper by any chance?

4 Mar 2006

no tune these are sleepers...

the poster is a member...do try and keep up.

4 Mar 2006

Actually I found these are sleepers:

4 Mar 2006

only one bit of advice i can give here
others have already said it lol

.....conversation is the only way!
if you get on well and have a good sexual relationship with your wife then talk to her be open and honest with her (but also be ready to suck eggs if she doesn't like banghead

).......if she isn't open too talking it through with you then don't push it ....but if she will, be honest with her at all times about what you like and don't like and ask her about her wants, tell her at any point that if she wasn't sure or happy or didn't like something then she could say NO and that would be the end of whatever it was
let her know what your fantasies are and ask if she has any and hopefully they are alike wink

talk about what you/she would like or look for in a swinging partner(s)....would she like too try a 3some to begin with .....she can choose the man (or woman), etc. .........and hopefully she has a fab time :wink: ....then if she was comfy and happy talk some more and see what her thoughts are on couples, etc. take one step at a time slowly and at a speed she is comfy with although she may enjoy and go faster than you ever hoped for or want :lol:
at every point let her know that you would both have to be happy with a situation or there is NO play and you go home together but happy (hopefully) and let her know you would put her safety first ALWAYS
you need too talk it through first and then continue too chat about it as things go on .......never stop talking and at times check you are both happy swinging ........do this to make sure the marriage stays strong smile

(mmmmm this is as long as she says "YES to swinging!)

4 Mar 2006

Quote by davej
no tune these are sleepers...

the poster is a member...do try and keep up.

If I'd been here 18 months I'd have asked this question before now if i'd needed rolleyes

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4 Mar 2006

Quote by westerross
no tune these are sleepers...

the poster is a member...do try and keep up.

If I'd been here 18 months I'd have asked this question before now if i'd needed rolleyes

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badly broken fingers and couldn't type dunno

went out for some fags and got lost :dunno:
switched to AOL broadband :dunno:
wink

4 Mar 2006

OMG ........all i can say is
1. defence ...........i've only just got back onto the net TONIGHT i sow this thread and answered it as honestly as i could (as we all would do so for each other)
then i've read through and perhaps things are not as i thought they are!
2. defence .....DUMB BLONDE your honour
never say ....wife can't make it last minute ....never works ...been done too many times before :lol: :lol:

4 Mar 2006

But...but...I gave him such sound advice!
If I ever read in the paper about an accident due to improper use of crash helmets....grrrr...

4 Mar 2006

thabks for the advice i shalll have to talk to her about it she were it leads , oh maiden who said blonds are dumb i think your advice was cool thanks kiss

:kiss: :kiss:

5 Mar 2006

Take her to the kiddies playground

5 Mar 2006

Quote by qwirtle2
Actually I found these are sleepers:

OOOOOOHHH!
Give me a Kingsize bed and colour me happy! *slaps thigh*
:twisted:
Minx x x

5 Mar 2006

Quote by nighteyes
thabks for the advice i shalll have to talk to her about it she were it leads , oh maiden who said blonds are dumb i think your advice was cool thanks :kiss: :kiss:

I stand corrected! Sorry nighteyes.
Now Dave about those sleepers - I've had a hankering to build a railway for the last 18 months - can't think why I didn't raise it before smile

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5 Mar 2006

big tree ....long rope....she`ll be swinging in no time!!!!!!
:twisted: biggrin

:twisted:

5 Mar 2006

Quote by twos_company
big tree ....long rope....she`ll be swinging in no time!!!!!!
:twisted: :twisted:

Not too long or her arse'll be bumping along the ground.

5 Mar 2006

Quote by JudyTV
has any one got any ideas how i can introduce my wife to swinging please

This is an old chest nut that comes up from time to time and worthy of a proper and serious answer. If she doesn't want to then it just isn't going to happen and if you selfishly try to constantly pressure her you will probably do irreparable damage. Ask her in a caring and none selfish way and if she still says no then respect her wishes. It isn't for everyone and if she really doesn't want to then she should not be coerced into it.
Jude.

Quote by maidenfair
only one bit of advice i can give here
others have already said it .....conversation is the only way!
if you get on well and have a good sexual relationship with your wife then talk to her be open and honest with her (but also be ready to suck eggs if she doesn't like ).......if she isn't open too talking it through with you then don't push it ....but if she will, be honest with her at all times about what you like and don't like and ask her about her wants, tell her at any point that if she wasn't sure or happy or didn't like something then she could say NO and that would be the end of whatever it was
let her know what your fantasies are and ask if she has any and hopefully they are alike
talk about what you/she would like or look for in a swinging partner(s)....would she like too try a 3some to begin with .....she can choose the man (or woman), etc. .........and hopefully she has a fab time :wink: ....then if she was comfy and happy talk some more and see what her thoughts are on couples, etc. take one step at a time slowly and at a speed she is comfy with although she may enjoy and go faster than you ever hoped for or want :lol:
at every point let her know that you would both have to be happy with a situation or there is NO play and you go home together but happy (hopefully) and let her know you would put her safety first ALWAYS
you need too talk it through first and then continue too chat about it as things go on .......never stop talking and at times check you are both happy swinging ........do this to make sure the marriage stays strong :)
(mmmmm this is as long as she says "YES to swinging!)

:worship:
you won't get better advice than this m8, honestly. IMHO