Hi all, I have been a member on this site (as a single male but married) for a while, som eof you may have seen me in chat rroms. I have met people from here (couples and single fem) but have been thinking for a while now that maybe I prefer to play as a couple, with my wife. Question is, how do I go about talking to her about it? Somebody in the chat room suggested I sit with her and we talk about our sexual fantasies, bringing up the swinging subject, see if she'll be prepared to help me realise it. Who knows, her fantasy might be the same? Any other ideas / suggestions out there as to how I should go about it?
Thanks in advance
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Involving my better half - where / how to begin
It's always a good idea to talk and maybe you might be right - she may be really up for it and be interested in the site.
The problem you're going to have is if she does show an interest, looks into the site and finds you've been on here for ages meeting couples & fems without her knowledge.
Good luck. I think you're going to need it
The problem you're going to have is if she does show an interest, looks into the site and finds you've been on here for ages meeting couples & fems without her knowledge.
Good luck. I think you're going to need it
Orgasminator
Don't just launch into it over breakfast, she may spit out her cornflakes :shock:
How about a nice evening of pampering her, a sexy video (porn or not) then making subtle comments, and take hints from her response, as to how far to push it.
If its a new thing, I would slowly discuss it over a period of time, depending on her attitude etc.
Have fun, but don't forget the lady is in charge
How about a nice evening of pampering her, a sexy video (porn or not) then making subtle comments, and take hints from her response, as to how far to push it.
If its a new thing, I would slowly discuss it over a period of time, depending on her attitude etc.
Have fun, but don't forget the lady is in charge
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You meen you have been playing without her consent ? :shock:
Very very bad!, bet she will be very upset if she ever found out
poor her
Shaz x
What you going to tell her if she wants to join you swinging when you bump into some one you been swinging with and it comes out in front of her.
:smackbottom: :smackbottom: J n B
Sex God
You lot are just evil this afternoon
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Orgasminator
As the old saying goes, don't judge a person ' until you have walked a mile in their moccasins' or something like that 
Its a bit unfair to judge the chap, not knowing his background.
I must have my nice head on today :lol:
Its a bit unfair to judge the chap, not knowing his background.
I must have my nice head on today :lol:
Thanks for everybody's input so far. you have all had something valid to say, even those who may appear to be telling me off. I am not happy with what I have done, that is why (I think) I am thinking of suggesting the idea to my wife. It certainly wont be over the cornflakes, more than likely after a bottle of wine and some sexy play together.
I understand what some of you are saying about how she may have a friend at work, bi fem etc etc. If you saw how busy our lives were with 3 kids to run around after, you would understand how there is little time for that. How do I find time? I am a shift worker, days & lates (midnight).My job allows me the luxury of coming and going as I please, so when on lates can easily leave the office for an hour or 2 or even 3. Days off when wife at work are also an aid.
If she were interested, chances of meeting somebody from this site that I have already met are very slim, so I wouldn't be worried. Those that I have met, all know I am married so if we did meet up, they would be discrete.
So once again, thanks for your thoughts and ideas, please keep them coming. Let me know also if you would like to know the outcome of our little 'chat'
take care
ezy
I understand what some of you are saying about how she may have a friend at work, bi fem etc etc. If you saw how busy our lives were with 3 kids to run around after, you would understand how there is little time for that. How do I find time? I am a shift worker, days & lates (midnight).My job allows me the luxury of coming and going as I please, so when on lates can easily leave the office for an hour or 2 or even 3. Days off when wife at work are also an aid.
If she were interested, chances of meeting somebody from this site that I have already met are very slim, so I wouldn't be worried. Those that I have met, all know I am married so if we did meet up, they would be discrete.
So once again, thanks for your thoughts and ideas, please keep them coming. Let me know also if you would like to know the outcome of our little 'chat'
take care
ezy
Quote by ezyflyer
I understand what some of you are saying about how she may have a friend at work, bi fem etc etc. If you saw how busy our lives were with 3 kids to run around after, you would understand how there is little time for that. How do I find time? I am a shift worker, days & lates (midnight).My job allows me the luxury of coming and going as I please, so when on lates can easily leave the office for an hour or 2 or even 3. Days off when wife at work are also an aid.
Is it not also perhaps that its actually your wife who allows you / enables you the luxury of coming and going as you please? Because while she's tied up with the kids or at work herself, you're leaving the office a couple of hours early for a shag with someone else?
At least you're safe in the knowledge that she hasnt been getting it elsewhere, what a bonus !
just a thought
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I understand what some of you are saying about how she may have a friend at work, bi fem etc etc. If you saw how busy our lives were with 3 kids to run around after, you would understand how there is little time for that. How do I find time? I am a shift worker, days & lates (midnight).My job allows me the luxury of coming and going as I please, so when on lates can easily leave the office for an hour or 2 or even 3. Days off when wife at work are also an aid.
Is it not also perhaps that its actually your wife who allows you / enables you the luxury of coming and going as you please? Because while she's tied up with the kids or at work herself, you're leaving the office a couple of hours early for a shag with someone else?
At least you're safe in the knowledge that she hasnt been getting it elsewhere, what a bonus !
just a thought
Yep, this bit got me too...so you know she hasn't had time for a 'bit on the side' because you havn't allowed it...though you've allowed yourself time to?
Now, I would never judge a married person who swings (it's totally their choice) but I do feel a little 'peeved' at a man who swings whilst leaving his wife to be knackered (probably too knackered for sex?) with her job and THEIR kids
Quote by flidais-media
Now, I would never judge a married person who swings (it's totally their choice)
Exactly that :thumbup:
Quote by flidais-media
but I do feel a little 'peeved' at a man who swings whilst leaving his wife to be knackered (probably too knackered for sex?) with her job and THEIR kids
Isn't that making a judgment
Quote by Dawn_Mids
Now, I would never judge a married person who swings (it's totally their choice)
Exactly that :thumbup:
Quote by flidais-media
but I do feel a little 'peeved' at a man who swings whilst leaving his wife to be knackered (probably too knackered for sex?) with her job and THEIR kids
Isn't that making a judgment
Yep, guess you are right but just going by what the guy says when he says he knows his wife isn't playing away (when he is) as she is too busy with the kids and her job..so not presuming, just repeating what he's said already.
Quote by flidais-media
Now, I would never judge a married person who swings (it's totally their choice)
Exactly that :thumbup:
Quote by flidais-media
but I do feel a little 'peeved' at a man who swings whilst leaving his wife to be knackered (probably too knackered for sex?) with her job and THEIR kids
Isn't that making a judgment
Yep, guess you are right but just going by what the guy says when he says he knows his wife isn't playing away (when he is) as she is too busy with the kids and her job..so not presuming, just repeating what he's said already.
So what was the point of your post then?
Sorry, I really don't get why you seem to want to judge others constantly :roll:
Quote by Dawn_Mids
Now, I would never judge a married person who swings (it's totally their choice)
Exactly that :thumbup:
Quote by flidais-media
but I do feel a little 'peeved' at a man who swings whilst leaving his wife to be knackered (probably too knackered for sex?) with her job and THEIR kids
Isn't that making a judgment
Yep, guess you are right but just going by what the guy says when he says he knows his wife isn't playing away (when he is) as she is too busy with the kids and her job..so not presuming, just repeating what he's said already.
So what was the point of your post then?
Sorry, I really don't get why you seem to want to judge others constantly :roll:
Just commenting...funny how you aren't saying the same to Darkfire..she made a similar point about the women being left at home when the guy swung.
Maybe it's me but I do wonder why others can make all sorts of comments about people(some downright rude and offensive at times, like one I have just read on another thread) and get no reaction whilst I constantly get picked out?
Tip #1 - Don't mention you have already started swinging without her
Tip #2 - If she agrees - find a new site and hope to god she doesn't find this one. It will not go down too well when some of your previous 'meets' start chatting to you both about what fun they had with you :shock: .
Tip #3 - If she wants to think about it - delete all trace of your membership on this site. If she decides to do some homework to look at what swinging is about she is bound to find SH and may just find little clues about you - including a thread asking a bunch of strangers how to get her involved.
Tip #2 - If she agrees - find a new site and hope to god she doesn't find this one. It will not go down too well when some of your previous 'meets' start chatting to you both about what fun they had with you :shock: .
Tip #3 - If she wants to think about it - delete all trace of your membership on this site. If she decides to do some homework to look at what swinging is about she is bound to find SH and may just find little clues about you - including a thread asking a bunch of strangers how to get her involved.
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Maybe it's me but I do wonder why others can make all sorts of comments about people and I constantly get picked out?
I just replied to the last poster on this thread because I don't have to time to pick up on everyone comments
I understand that totally...just seems I get picked up on a lot more than others :?
Most women have considered the possibilities of many relationships. So she's probably got her answer well prepared for this.
I was with a girl and the relationship was slowly falling apart. One day she just offered me the option to have another girl on the side. Which was a bit surprising as she was quite a jealous type. It didn't stop the logical conclusion to our affair.
So be prepared to be more surprsided than you think.
I was with a girl and the relationship was slowly falling apart. One day she just offered me the option to have another girl on the side. Which was a bit surprising as she was quite a jealous type. It didn't stop the logical conclusion to our affair.
So be prepared to be more surprsided than you think.
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So be prepared to be more surprsided than you think.
Quite so....
Especially when she explains her ideal sex set-up would be you with 2 bi-guys, watching you suck a stiff 'un whilst she loosens you up with her 8' strap-on, before donkey-dicked Delroy does you a good 'un
:lol: :lol: Quote by PoloLady
So be prepared to be more surprsided than you think.
Quite so....
Especially when she explains her ideal sex set-up would be you with 2 bi-guys, watching you suck a stiff 'un whilst she loosens you up with her 8' strap-on, before donkey-dicked Delroy does you a good 'un
:lol: :lol:Pmsl..now that would be worth seeing
:lol: Quote by PoloLady
So be prepared to be more surprsided than you think.
Quite so....
Especially when she explains her ideal sex set-up would be you with 2 bi-guys, watching you suck a stiff 'un whilst she loosens you up with her 8' strap-on, before donkey-dicked Delroy does you a good 'un
:lol: :lol:She might even set up her own donkey sanctuary for therapy
Sex God
Quote by PoloLady
Tip #1 - Don't mention you have already started swinging without her
Tip #2 - If she agrees - find a new site and hope to god she doesn't find this one. It will not go down too well when some of your previous 'meets' start chatting to you both about what fun they had with you :shock: .
Tip #3 - If she wants to think about it - delete all trace of your membership on this site. If she decides to do some homework to look at what swinging is about she is bound to find SH and may just find little clues about you - including a thread asking a bunch of strangers how to get her involved.
Polo when I have killed someone and am on the run I will know who to ask for advice :lol:
Mr Tweeky
Sex God
Quote by PoloLady
Tip #1 - Don't mention you have already started swinging without her
Tip #2 - If she agrees - find a new site and hope to god she doesn't find this one. It will not go down too well when some of your previous 'meets' start chatting to you both about what fun they had with you :shock: .
Tip #3 - If she wants to think about it - delete all trace of your membership on this site. If she decides to do some homework to look at what swinging is about she is bound to find SH and may just find little clues about you - including a thread asking a bunch of strangers how to get her involved.
Anyone else got anything they would like Polos help to cover up
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