Hi I have been having a platonic relation ship with a divorcee for more than 25 years now can this be misconstrued as cheating on my wife, we have never had sex ( but I would if the chance ever came along ) as I think this would spoil a great friendship.
We talk on the phone , we meet for lunch, and we discuss her curent partners , so is this cheating !!
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Is it cheating
I think everyones ideas on this are different , however the only real opinion that counts is your wifes, how would she see it ? lol... Personally as far as i can see as noone is getting hurt and you are not sexually involved i cant see a problem. It also depends how secure your wife feels in your marriage as to whether she would trust you having a plutonic relationship with a lady, without being jealous.
good luck
Cops
Edit: Just realised what you avatar is ... lol ... not at my sharpest b4 midday
good luck
Cops
Edit: Just realised what you avatar is ... lol ... not at my sharpest b4 midday
Orgasminator
Does your wife know about this? If she does/did would she view it as cheating? at te end of the day it is her view that counts.
Turn it on its head, if it was your wife with this friend and you found out, how would you feel?
Calista and I have a totaly open relationship, nothing would happen that the other wouldnt approve of, and i imagine that the same would be true of the vast majority of people on here. The most important element in swinging is trust.
Turn it on its head, if it was your wife with this friend and you found out, how would you feel?
Calista and I have a totaly open relationship, nothing would happen that the other wouldnt approve of, and i imagine that the same would be true of the vast majority of people on here. The most important element in swinging is trust.
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Hi I have been having a platonic relation ship with a divorcee for more than 25 years now can this be misconstrued as cheating on my wife, we have never had sex ( but I would if the chance ever came along ) as I think this would spoil a great friendship.
We talk on the phone , we meet for lunch, and we discuss her curent partners , so is this cheating !!
I suppose it is cheating in a way. You have had this platonic relationship for ages - and yet one suspects that your wife does not know this person exists. So, there you are carrying on a clandestine friendship. It almost makes no difference whether your friend is male or female.. you are still carrying out a secret relationship..
Also, you admit that if the chance came along you would take the relationship to a sexual level... So, you are actually prepared to cheat.
Lastly; you now have a dilemma. If you tell your wife about this 25 year platonic relationship - will she believe you? Or, you don't tell her and she finds out.. Then what happens?
Cheers
Paul
If you don't think you are cheating then you aren't really having these thoughts and you aren't really on a swinging site... is that what you're telling yourself or does the wife come onto the site as well??
In which case you will soon find out here opinion on whether or not you are cheating... but if you have done nothing then talk is just talk nothing more!!
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In which case you will soon find out here opinion on whether or not you are cheating... but if you have done nothing then talk is just talk nothing more!!
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Perhaps you could give us a better idea of the form this platonic relationship takes?
Scenario 1
It's a woman that you sometimes see when you go down to the pub with your mates and you have a drink and a chat with her because you've known her a long time and if the opportunity ever arose you'd like to get in her knickers.?
Scenario 2
You tell the wife you're going down the pub with your mates but you go round to your platonic friend's house instead and spend a cosy evening watching the TV but you've never 'gone all the way'?
Steve
Scenario 1
It's a woman that you sometimes see when you go down to the pub with your mates and you have a drink and a chat with her because you've known her a long time and if the opportunity ever arose you'd like to get in her knickers.?
Scenario 2
You tell the wife you're going down the pub with your mates but you go round to your platonic friend's house instead and spend a cosy evening watching the TV but you've never 'gone all the way'?
Steve
Orgasminator
ive got loads of mates i dont wanna shag i just enjoy thier company, however if the guys wife cant understand that , he has to keep it secret, if its a secret its cheating as the closeness between a man and his wife should imo be without secrets.
Sex God
If you've never had sex with this friend, why would it be cheating? Having opposite sex friends is not cheating on your partner, how can it be? Do lesbians never have friends who are girls, or gay men have friends who are boys? Look at it that way and your question sounds bizarre. Like some of the others who've replied to this, I do wonder why it is an issue now, after all of these years?
Why is it cheating if you havent done anything with her? If your wife knows and everything is above board then why are you worrying?
Daz is still friends with ex girlfriends he had when he was a teenager, and although i dont like it (here speaks the green eyed monster in me) i know its platonic, so i dont worry about it! I'm not saying i'd like him to spend a cosy evening round their house alone with them, but i do trust him enough to accept it........... because I KNOW ABOUT IT!!!!
Scuse me getting all emphatic there, lol!!!
Daz is still friends with ex girlfriends he had when he was a teenager, and although i dont like it (here speaks the green eyed monster in me) i know its platonic, so i dont worry about it! I'm not saying i'd like him to spend a cosy evening round their house alone with them, but i do trust him enough to accept it........... because I KNOW ABOUT IT!!!!
Scuse me getting all emphatic there, lol!!!
