This is no pop at any particular individual , so please dont take it that way . Just noticed summat and wondered if there might be some interesting thoughts about it all from the collective mind of SH.
Ive noticed that over the while weve been members here , a regular (if not neccessarily often) event on the forum is that single forum members announce they are leaving and giving up swinging because they have met somebody that they want a long term relationship with . This subject intrigues me , not least because of Silky's and my own attitudes to it .
I just wondered how an announcement like that makes people feel who have met or played with the individual concerned . Not making any judgement yet myself ( rare I know! ) just wanted the views for my upcoming book Zen Swinging and the Art of Pointless Questions ( Hogger and Stoughbridge )
It makes me feel a bit like "Damn. That's a reliable shag I've lost"
In a more serious vein though, I really hope that we'll remain in touch, even if it's only very occasionally to just say hi via text or phone call. I've made some friends here who I don't want to lose. I like to feel that the friendship has more depth than purely as a mutually enjoyable sexual relationship.
Having said that, of course I don't play with every friend I make here, so I guess it depends on what level the friendship is.
As a quick reply I'd say that it's no different to me than maybe an introduction from somebody going the other way and joining after a long term relationship. It's simply sharing info with the crowd.
It's actually quite nice really for that person and it lets the crowd (some of which may know the person well) know why they are leaving so no offence is inferred or taken. Regardless of how "swinging" or otherwise the person has been during their stay I'd personally feel glad for them as something has happened in their life which they see as a big positive step.
The longer you spend on here the more people feel comfortable with sharing all manner of things and thats just another - in the same line as you feeling ok to ask the question and me feeling like dropping a reply.
Then again I tend to see the best in people, I like to trust in human nature and I'm a total sucker for people finding what they're looking for.
Just my view, thats all
Better that the swinging party knows about it - otherwise the next meet could be a real riot!!
I must admit while I am single I am enjoying swinging and having fun but I'm not certain how I would feel if I was in a relationship as I have never done it before. I am sure with my ex's I wouldn't have liked it but on the other hand I will never know because it never got considered at the time I was with them.
It would also depend on whether a new partner was a swinger or not. If one of us met a non-swinger and began a relationship with them, then it may not be appropriate to carry on swinging as the vanilla partner wouldn't necessarily want to swing or to have their partner playing around. It is all down to a personal and also a mutual preference between the couple.
