A while back I mentioned my Mum had cancer and now a few months on she is suffering from side affects from treatments.
She never moans she just gets on with her life.
The other day she called to tell me her feet were better (as she has been suffering from bad blistering on the soles) but her eye brows she had noticed had gone. She made me laugh, I said “didn’t you notice them slowly going, Or have they just disappeared over night”? We were laughing.
A few days later she called to say she had taken the bull by the horns and just gone to get her wig? O bless her!
I asked what it looked like (as my mum has never been satisfied with her hair as far back as I can remember). She said “it’s great I love it, I have the hairstyle I have always wanted”!
I just said “Mum the things you have to do to get the hairstyle you have always wanted” and we just laughed so much on the phone.
I wanted to share this with you as I think we can laugh in the face of adversity.
But there are times when I feel I shouldn't be laughing?
I am sometimes on here having a laugh and feel guilty!
But it is the way I have always been, laugh and the world laughs with you, cry and you cry alone, my parents have always instilled this in us.
I try to live my life with this motto!
But sometimes I get confused.
What do you think?
Is it right to laugh in the face of adversity?
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Is it right to laugh in the face of adversity?
I think that it is called black humour. Marvellous in my opinion. I often get told off for being dry but it is the humour I appreciate.
My brother told me (when I was diagnosed with cancer) that it was my punishment from God for being a lesbian(said in a stage whisper) I was crying with laughter as everyone else treated me like I was already dead.
My brother told me (when I was diagnosed with cancer) that it was my punishment from God for being a lesbian(said in a stage whisper) I was crying with laughter as everyone else treated me like I was already dead.
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I think that it is called black humour. Marvellous in my opinion. I often get told off for being dry but it is the humour I appreciate.
My brother told me (when I was diagnosed with cancer) that it was my punishment from God for being a lesbian(said in a stage whisper) I was crying with laughter as everyone else treated me like I was already dead.
Then mine was punishment for not being a lesbian? What's a girl to do?
Yes, if the person you're laughing about is laughing too- then laugh away. As they say, it's the best medicine.
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I think that it is called black humour. Marvellous in my opinion. I often get told off for being dry but it is the humour I appreciate.
My brother told me (when I was diagnosed with cancer) that it was my punishment from God for being a lesbian(said in a stage whisper) I was crying with laughter as everyone else treated me like I was already dead.
Then mine was punishment for not being a lesbian? What's a girl to do?
Yes, if the person you're laughing about is laughing too- then laugh away. As they say, it's the best medicine.
Become a nun
:wink: 
Quote by Theladyisaminx
A while back I mentioned my Mum had cancer and now a few months on she is suffering from side affects from treatments.
She never moans she just gets on with her life.
The other day she called to tell me her feet were better (as she has been suffering from bad blistering on the soles) but her eye brows she had noticed had gone. She made me laugh, I said “didn’t you notice them slowly going, Or have they just disappeared over night”? We were laughing.
A few days later she called to say she had taken the bull by the horns and just gone to get her wig? O bless her!
I asked what it looked like (as my mum has never been satisfied with her hair as far back as I can remember). She said “it’s great I love it, I have the hairstyle I have always wanted”!
I just said “Mum the things you have to do to get the hairstyle you have always wanted” and we just laughed so much on the phone.
I wanted to share this with you as I think we can laugh in the face of adversity.
But there are times when I feel I shouldn't be laughing?
I am sometimes on here having a laugh and feel guilty!
But it is the way I have always been, laugh and the world laughs with you, cry and you cry alone, my parents have always instilled this in us.
I try to live my life with this motto!
But sometimes I get confused.
What do you think?
Is it right to laugh in the face of adversity?
As my own Father was taken into hospital yesterday after a fall, I will not comment on this for maybe a few days. At the moment I must admit I do not feel much like laughing at anything.
Quote by flower411
Immediately after my daughter was born while my wife was still in hospital, I received a call from my sister urging me to return home because my father was in hospital and wasn`t expected to survive more than a week.
There were some family staying with my wife, so I bowed to family pressure and got in the car and drove for two days back to England.
As soon as I arrived, my Mum insisted that we go straight to the hospital to see him.
I hadn`t seen him for nearly eighteen months and nobody had told me he was ill, so it was all a bit of a shock to find him in such a terrible state when I arrived...........all tubes and cadaverous face and body !!!!
It was terrible, to suddenly find your father in these conditions and being told that he may not last the night !!
I sat by his bed for a while and eventually he opened his eyes.....he looked at me and turned his head painfully toward my Mother and said " I told you not to bother him, he`s got enough on his plate right now"
Then he turned back to me......and said.....
"You haven`t shaved" !!!
The tears of laughter and grief are mingling in my eyes again !!
You have to laugh, even at the worst times.
Flower that made me laugh to! thanks x
Quote by kentswingers777
A while back I mentioned my Mum had cancer and now a few months on she is suffering from side affects from treatments.
She never moans she just gets on with her life.
The other day she called to tell me her feet were better (as she has been suffering from bad blistering on the soles) but her eye brows she had noticed had gone. She made me laugh, I said “didn’t you notice them slowly going, Or have they just disappeared over night”? We were laughing.
A few days later she called to say she had taken the bull by the horns and just gone to get her wig? O bless her!
I asked what it looked like (as my mum has never been satisfied with her hair as far back as I can remember). She said “it’s great I love it, I have the hairstyle I have always wanted”!
I just said “Mum the things you have to do to get the hairstyle you have always wanted” and we just laughed so much on the phone.
I wanted to share this with you as I think we can laugh in the face of adversity.
But there are times when I feel I shouldn't be laughing?
I am sometimes on here having a laugh and feel guilty!
But it is the way I have always been, laugh and the world laughs with you, cry and you cry alone, my parents have always instilled this in us.
I try to live my life with this motto!
But sometimes I get confused.
What do you think?
Is it right to laugh in the face of adversity?
As my own Father was taken into hospital yesterday after a fall, I will not comment on this for maybe a few days. At the moment I must admit I do not feel much like laughing at anything.
777 I hope all is ok!
Sex God
The woman who babysits for us occasionally is a lovely girl but has problems with words. She says things such as she'd had a hysterical instead of a hysterectomy or that she has a conservative (conservatory) on her house. Well she and I were drinking coffee and around at her neighbours who had just recently come out of hospital after losing her baby and was in quite an understandably still depressed state after having what our sitter stated as a believe it or not egg noggy pregnancy :shock: (she meant ectopic) God only knows how she came up with that. The upshot was that at least the neighbour and I fell about crying with laughter.
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My brother told me (when I was diagnosed with cancer) that it was my punishment from God for being a lesbian(said in a stage whisper) I was crying with laughter as everyone else treated me like I was already dead.
It must be true then. I'm not a lesbian and I've not had cancer. :twisted:
Ain't logic a wonderful thing!
Quote by Theladyisaminx
A while back I mentioned my Mum had cancer and now a few months on she is suffering from side affects from treatments.
She never moans she just gets on with her life.
The other day she called to tell me her feet were better (as she has been suffering from bad blistering on the soles) but her eye brows she had noticed had gone. She made me laugh, I said “didn’t you notice them slowly going, Or have they just disappeared over night”? We were laughing.
A few days later she called to say she had taken the bull by the horns and just gone to get her wig? O bless her!
I asked what it looked like (as my mum has never been satisfied with her hair as far back as I can remember). She said “it’s great I love it, I have the hairstyle I have always wanted”!
I just said “Mum the things you have to do to get the hairstyle you have always wanted” and we just laughed so much on the phone.
I wanted to share this with you as I think we can laugh in the face of adversity.
But there are times when I feel I shouldn't be laughing?
I am sometimes on here having a laugh and feel guilty!
But it is the way I have always been, laugh and the world laughs with you, cry and you cry alone, my parents have always instilled this in us.
I try to live my life with this motto!
But sometimes I get confused.
What do you think?
Is it right to laugh in the face of adversity?
I haven't read the whole thread, but straight back to the top with you here Minxie... Personally, I think what you have said is rather beautiful
lp
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A while back I mentioned my Mum had cancer and now a few months on she is suffering from side affects from treatments.
She never moans she just gets on with her life.
The other day she called to tell me her feet were better (as she has been suffering from bad blistering on the soles) but her eye brows she had noticed had gone. She made me laugh, I said “didn’t you notice them slowly going, Or have they just disappeared over night”? We were laughing.
A few days later she called to say she had taken the bull by the horns and just gone to get her wig? O bless her!
I asked what it looked like (as my mum has never been satisfied with her hair as far back as I can remember). She said “it’s great I love it, I have the hairstyle I have always wanted”!
I just said “Mum the things you have to do to get the hairstyle you have always wanted” and we just laughed so much on the phone.
I wanted to share this with you as I think we can laugh in the face of adversity.
But there are times when I feel I shouldn't be laughing?
I am sometimes on here having a laugh and feel guilty!
But it is the way I have always been, laugh and the world laughs with you, cry and you cry alone, my parents have always instilled this in us.
I try to live my life with this motto!
But sometimes I get confused.
What do you think?
Is it right to laugh in the face of adversity?
I haven't read the whole thread, but straight back to the top with you here Minxie... Personally, I think what you have said is rather beautiful
lp
Lovely words lp
You understood my meaning!
Sex God
They say laughter is the best medicine so yes I suppose it is...
Am finding it difficult to find anything to laugh about just lately but who knows what the future holds
The light at the end of the tunnel could be an end to trouble or some bastard with a torch bringing more work ;-)
Am finding it difficult to find anything to laugh about just lately but who knows what the future holds
The light at the end of the tunnel could be an end to trouble or some bastard with a torch bringing more work ;-)
Sex God
It's a wonderful part of human nature that we can laugh at things even when they are at their worst.I think it can help people to get through their darkest hours!
It is only the sick, sick humour of my family that has got me through some very dim times. What I find a shame is that other people (friends) have been quite offended by the piss takes my family give me about my cancer...I wish everyone could understand the goodness humour does, despite how harsh it may seem sometimes!!!
I love dark humour and find it a great friend at times of great stress.
I often have to moderate my behaviour conciously at funerals or make sure my comments are discreet enough to fall on an audience whose reaction I can gauge.
I always ensure that after the ceremony that a few beers are quaffed and the persons life is celebrated with stories of the laughter and joy they brought us during their life.
I often have to moderate my behaviour conciously at funerals or make sure my comments are discreet enough to fall on an audience whose reaction I can gauge.
I always ensure that after the ceremony that a few beers are quaffed and the persons life is celebrated with stories of the laughter and joy they brought us during their life.
When I was with my parents arranging my Nans funeral we laughed. We were discussing the service and as you can imagine, it was really upsetting.
When we got the the hyms and music I came out with "we're not having the birdie song" and we all burst into laughter. It was Nans song and we had joked with her for years. Laughing was pretty much the only way I managed to get through that day.
Doesn't really matter how people get through sad times as long as its a way that suits them.
When we got the the hyms and music I came out with "we're not having the birdie song" and we all burst into laughter. It was Nans song and we had joked with her for years. Laughing was pretty much the only way I managed to get through that day.
Doesn't really matter how people get through sad times as long as its a way that suits them.
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I love dark humour and find it a great friend at times of great stress.
I often have to moderate my behaviour conciously at funerals or make sure my comments are discreet enough to fall on an audience whose reaction I can gauge.
I always ensure that after the ceremony that a few beers are quaffed and the persons life is celebrated with stories of the laughter and joy they brought us during their life.
Nice, I went to a funeral (Crem) today and I'm ashamed to say it but I roared with laughter. The song at the end did it for me *Wish me luck as you wave me goodbye, Cheerio, here I go, on my way* :lol2: :lol2: My children and I started a sing song
ops: Always the ones at the back init!
It got us through a difficult day that we were dreading tho :smile:
My mum developed cancer in 2001. An emergency op saved her life. After that there was no stopping her, wherever she wanted to go we took her there; even to Florida. That's how she was until the last day. Just the day before she died she sent me on my way to Blackpool instructing me to have a good time. Do i regret not beinging with her at the end? Of course i do; but it was her decision to send me there. Personally i think she knew what was coming and sent me away to save me the trauma of what was to come. I can just imagine her laughing as i sh*t myself on the 'Big One' rollercoaster.
So yes, have a laugh with your loved ones,if only for a short time. When they've gone it's too late.
So yes, have a laugh with your loved ones,if only for a short time. When they've gone it's too late.
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My mum developed cancer in 2001. An emergency op saved her life. After that there was no stopping her, wherever she wanted to go we took her there; even to Florida. That's how she was until the last day. Just the day before she died she sent me on my way to Blackpool instructing me to have a good time. Do i regret not beinging with her at the end? Of course i do; but it was her decision to send me there. Personally i think she knew what was coming and sent me away to save me the trauma of what was to come. I can just imagine her laughing as i sh*t myself on the 'Big One' rollercoaster.
So yes, have a laugh with your loved ones,if only for a short time. When they've gone it's too late.
:thumbup: Wise words, I agree!
