hey there, just thought I'd ask your views on asking for pics or a chat with the female before going onto arrange a meet with a male/female couple... I have done in the past and I've made it my rule, but I've just had an experience where a couple were up4 a meet, but wouldnt swap pics or allow me to talk to the female... I believe they had sumthing to hide and didnt go through with it....
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Is it unfair to ask for pics or phone chat before a meet??
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Sex God
No I don't think it's unfair providing you are prepared to reciprocate.
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Sex God
Wot they say :thumbup:
I am not making a sweeping statement at all, but I sometimes get the feeling that somecouples don't like it when a single males asks for a picture - like you should be grateful or that you will shag anything. Which of course isn't the case. Would I want to shag a guy that didn't find me attractive? NO! 
when i asked fora pic or to speak to the female, the reply was we're not in this to make friends or to go through the third degree!
I'm have my personal saftey in mind always... If i got there and i didnt find them attractive then wasted journey.. thats the whole point of pictures on the site!
I'm have my personal saftey in mind always... If i got there and i didnt find them attractive then wasted journey.. thats the whole point of pictures on the site!
Sex God
Quote by Kiss_Me
Would I want to shag a guy that didn't find me attractive? NO!
Like thats ever gonna happen :rascal:
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Sex God
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Thank you, you kind (but ever so wanky eyed) Mr Meaty! :love:
WTF is Wanky eyed?
is it a good or bad thing??? :shock:
i think that you had a point there........i wouldnt go on a meet without swapping photos and wouldnt have a meet here without at-least having a contact telephone number.
However i would go out on a limb and say that some genuine people get the hump if you dare to suggest that they might not be genuine.... however i couldnt see how, if you explained why you were sceptical, you wouldnt find some middle-ground somewhere. We've all had reservations at some point.
id say though that being up for a meet and actually making the definate arrangements are slightly different .. but i get your point entirely....
there is also however the issue that they might have thought that you werent genuine.... so i suppose that you would have had to take a chance and send your pic in the hope that they might follow suit.
id say that the "photograph exchange" is the real litmus test of genuineness.....and asking to speak to her on the phone shouldnt have necessarily been a problem....
i think , from what you say in your post.... they were timewasters........
Sex God
Damn, they said it would make me go blind 
I'd never even consider meeting someone unless we either exchanged phone calls or better still had a cam chat. It's partly to see if we like each other ( back to the subject of looks over personality but I couldn't shag anyone I wasn't attracted to ) and also I want to verify that they really are a female or couple and not a single male. It's a safety aspect for me too.
Make it clear from the outset that no early phonecall, face pics or cam chat means no meet. If they're genuine ( I hate using that word ) and seriously interested, they'll agree.
Good luck :thumbup:
Make it clear from the outset that no early phonecall, face pics or cam chat means no meet. If they're genuine ( I hate using that word ) and seriously interested, they'll agree.
Good luck :thumbup:
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Make it clear from the outset that no early phonecall, face pics or cam chat means no meet. If they're genuine ( I hate using that word ) and seriously interested, they'll agree.
I totally agree Sassy!
Also I think that the majority of genuine couples on here will actually respect you more for it.
Nobody likes getting the impression that the person they are talking to will shag anything with a pulse.
Everyone loves to feel attractive and desired.
Sex God
Quote by Sassy-Seren
It's a safety aspect for me too.
Good point (mainly for the single blokes, but couples too), if you can't make the person your meeting feel safe, they certainly aren't going to be relaxed, which isn't going to help your experience go smoothly. So it's actually in your own interests to put yourself out a bit to make any females (single or in a couple) feel safe and secure, cos this site can be bloody intimidating at times for some people
Sex God
Quote by meat2pleaseu
It's a safety aspect for me too.
Good point (mainly for the single blokes, but couples too), if you can't make the person your meeting feel safe, they certainly aren't going to be relaxed, which isn't going to help your experience go smoothly. So it's actually in your own interests to put yourself out a bit to make any females (single or in a couple) feel safe and secure, cos this site can be bloody intimidating at times for some people
:shock: :shock: Is it just me?
or did meaty just say something sensible? :shock:
Sex God
Time of the month, Pete 
Quote by meat2pleaseu
Good point (mainly for the single blokes, but couples too), if you can't make the person your meeting feel safe, they certainly aren't going to be relaxed, which isn't going to help your experience go smoothly. So it's actually in your own interests to put yourself out a bit to make any females (single or in a couple) feel safe and secure, cos this site can be bloody intimidating at times for some people
Awwww, you're so cute when you're being all sensible and sympathetic.
Fancy a shag? :rascal:
Sex God
Quote by makingcocoa
Good point (mainly for the single blokes, but couples too), if you can't make the person your meeting feel safe, they certainly aren't going to be relaxed, which isn't going to help your experience go smoothly. So it's actually in your own interests to put yourself out a bit to make any females (single or in a couple) feel safe and secure, cos this site can be bloody intimidating at times for some people
Awwww, you're so cute when you're being all sensible and sympathetic.
Fancy a shag? :rascal:
Always :inlove:
I hate chatting on the phone. Much prefer MSN and cam chats.
But I also appreciate that the majority of people only feel safe after a phone chat, so I am willing to undergo 10 minutes of cringing embarasment in order to make people feel safe. Then make it up with a witty chat on MSN, or via text, but I have no problem with exchanging photos. Must be my exhibitionist nature!!!
But I also appreciate that the majority of people only feel safe after a phone chat, so I am willing to undergo 10 minutes of cringing embarasment
in order to make people feel safe. Then make it up with a witty chat on MSN, or via text, but I have no problem with exchanging photos. Must be my exhibitionist nature!!! Quote by ray69ray
i WOULDN'T MEET UP WITH ANYONE WHO IS NOT PREPARED TO SWOP PHOTOS....U DID RIGHT
What he said :thumbup:
I know some people may be uncomfortable "chatting" on the phone, but for me personally, if a couple refuse to even have the female say "hi" on the phone then I'd take the view that it's probably because there is no female.
I'm not saying this is the case (different people have different ways of doing things), but I wouldn't even consider it
Sex God
Quote by HornyLittleBlonde
i WOULDN'T MEET UP WITH ANYONE WHO IS NOT PREPARED TO SWOP PHOTOS....U DID RIGHT
What he said :thumbup:
I know some people may be uncomfortable "chatting" on the phone, but for me personally, if a couple refuse to even have the female say "hi" on the phone then I'd take the view that it's probably because there is no female.
I'm not saying this is the case (different people have different ways of doing things), but I wouldn't even consider it
well put HLB...........but Ray can u please stop shouting............its not doing my headache any good........
Quote by poshkate
i WOULDN'T MEET UP WITH ANYONE WHO IS NOT PREPARED TO SWOP PHOTOS....U DID RIGHT
What he said :thumbup:
I know some people may be uncomfortable "chatting" on the phone, but for me personally, if a couple refuse to even have the female say "hi" on the phone then I'd take the view that it's probably because there is no female.
I'm not saying this is the case (different people have different ways of doing things), but I wouldn't even consider it
well put HLB...........but Ray can u please stop shouting............its not doing my headache any good........
you been at the wine again PK :lol:
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Sex God
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you been at the wine again PK
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me...........wine............never?????? where did u get that idea from??????????
:lol: :lol: :lol:
sheddys just opening another bottle.......lol
