Is it worth it?

17 Apr 2005

Now, this is not meant to be a winge and I appologise if it seems to be one, but we were looking for some advice.....
When you get to the point that your chatting on msn wih a nice person who emailed you first to check it was ok and you you like the look of their pics.
Then your trying to have a conversation with them and they respond with no more than 4 word answers... such as 'very nice'... 'mmmm' ... 'yes' ... 'ffm' etc... is it worth it to keep trying to encourage tham our of their shell? hoping to draw on people's experiences here.... we are both cursed with not much patience and so we dont often give them much time of day.
But we just realised what if they just need us to sit back and encourage them a bit?
Maybe we're paranoid, but we just thought we could be being rude to some lovely people and not relasing it.
So what have you all of you found?
Or are we right to just give up before its started???
Thanks!!!
(a slightly paranoid)
Mav and Sini
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17 Apr 2005

hi ya
Me and Mr Tigs have had the same [roblem, and must admit that we do keep trying but them we start getting a little suspicios casue they are being so vague.
But we havent given up fully and will just keep trying
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17 Apr 2005

for me personally i chat the hind legs of a donkey , for those that have me on msn will know, but im a very chatty person, ive had a few that are very quiet, some too quiet and that pushes me away very quickly, but my msn is usually for my friends, i tend to use that other dirty messenger( yapoo) to meet up with anyone due to cams running quicker. i havent got the time to waste on things that are not going to go anywhere

17 Apr 2005

Quote by rachel-lane
for me personally i chat the hind legs of a donkey , for those that have me on msn will know, but im a very chatty person, ive had a few that are very quiet, some too quiet and that pushes me away very quickly, but my msn is usually for my friends, i tend to use that other dirty messenger( yapoo) to meet up with anyone due to cams running quicker. i havent got the time to waste on things that are not going to go anywhere

we do feel like that occasionally.. that we dont have the time to waste on people, but then we suddenly realised that alot of peole are shy....just because we feel a bit more 'free and easy' (if you forgive the expression ;) ) - doesnt mean that others do.
But at the same time, we're not sure when you call it a day?
People might just know what to say, or be worried your trying to have cyber sex, when your not.
*confused*
Thanks for your contributions though.. gives us more determination to be more patient.
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17 Apr 2005

if thwy are not willing to chat ( with ithr of us) then its good night viena cant do with pple that ant just talk

17 Apr 2005

if thwy are not willing to chat ( with ithr of us) then its good night viena cant do with pple that ant just talk

17 Apr 2005

EDIT:
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double post...
sorry
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18 Apr 2005

from the other side of the fence, sometimes its a little difficult at first, I guess it depends on how well each party id convinced the other is genuine. I tend to feel happier if both man and woman can flick a cam on for a few minutes so I know I'm not some stag nights warm up do!!!!
After that I'll chat for Britain!! given the off with the right lead in I have no problem in chatting ..Maybe its a "not sure who I'm really talking to issue" ?

18 Apr 2005

I'll be offish if I don't want the co-respondant. Often I will have been chatty with *him, then he'll say "so.. what are you wearing?" or some such tosh and I either clam up, or block 'em.
*Always a bloke, IMHO.

18 Apr 2005

No, its not worth the effort.
You no within the first few minutes, if not the first email, if you can strike up a relationship with the other party.
Dont waste your time

18 Apr 2005

Nah, it's not worth it. You end up investing far too much time and effort into something that should have been relegated the delete key in the first place.

18 Apr 2005

I know its your judgement call in the end, but one thing to remember is that no everyone is 'good' with all forms of communication. I'm ok online, but my wife finds it difficult to talk that way.
To be honest, personally I would rather just meet up for a social meet to begin with, I realise its more hassle, but it cuts to the chase and you get to see how people are without them hiding behind phones and cams.

18 Apr 2005

Quote by Mav&Sini
Then your trying to have a conversation with them and they respond with no more than 4 word answers... such as 'very nice'... 'mmmm' ... 'yes' ... 'ffm' etc... is it worth it to keep trying to encourage tham our of their shell?

No, it isn't worth it. They are not doing that cos they're shy, they are just wanting to get off on your pics or wank about a the idea of meeting you, that's all.
Don't waste your time on them. Block and move on.

18 Apr 2005

You are all very cenical give these people a chance some people are shy and dont know what to say. plus you dont know who you are talking too.

18 Apr 2005

Quote by funtimes4u
You are all very cenical give these people a chance some people are shy and dont know what to say. plus you dont know who you are talking too.

Just the benefit of experience, that is all... but if people want to waste their time chatting to people who just want a quick wank and have no intention of meeting, fine by me.

18 Apr 2005

I'm rather shy so don't always know what to say to start off the conversation so it's really helpful sometimes when the other party is more open and chatty. I'm not the sort to do one liners or a few words each sentence and once I get to know someone then they'll only block me to shut me up lol

If you want to determine whether they're shy or just not bothered, try asking them plenty of questions about themselves. If they respond in full then they're genuine, otherwise they're just after a quick monkey spanking.

18 Apr 2005

we been in same situation a few times,think you get the vibe within few mins if they going to be right or not