After 4 years of secrecy keeping our swnging undercover, we decided that we could tell one or two of our close, non swinging friends.
One couple whom we have been very close friends with for many years were the first we told over a few drinks one night. They were horrified to say the least, especially when M admitted that she had had sex with probably 30 guys!
The woman phoned us the next day calling M a whore and told her not to go anywhere near her husband!
Unfortunately, the woamn is a loud mouthed cow and no doubt will take delight in telling all, when now we would rather have kept it all quiet!
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Quote by sheffieldfun4two
After 4 years of secrecy keeping our swnging undercover, we decided that we could tell one or two of our close, non swinging friends.
One couple whom we have been very close friends with for many years were the first we told over a few drinks one night. They were horrified to say the least, especially when M admitted that she had had sex with probably 30 guys!
The woman phoned us the next day calling M a whore and told her not to go anywhere near her husband!
Unfortunately, the woamn is a loud mouthed cow and no doubt will take delight in telling all, when now we would rather have kept it all quiet!
Hello Sheffieldfun4two,
Perhaps you should have read this section from the following book before opening your mouth to your friends.
Taken from the Guinness Book of Female Records.
Gossiping
On February 18th 1992, Joyce Blatherwick, a close friend of Agnes Banbury popped round for a cup of tea and a chat, during the course of which she told Mrs. Banbury, in the strictest confidence, that she was having an affair with the butcher. After Mrs. Blatherwick left at , immediately began to tell everyone, swearing them all to secrecy. By , she had told 128 people of the news. By it had risen to 372 and by that afternoon, 2774 knew of the affair, including the local Amateur dramatic society, several knitting circles, a coachload of American tourists which she flagged down and the butchers wife. When a tired Mrs. Banbury went to bed at that night 's affair was common knowledge to a staggering 75,338 people, enough to fill Wembley Stadium.
Unfortunately loose lips don't just sink ships. (WW2 propaganda leaflet, slightly ammended). :cry:
On the up side, however, it may also get you some new and local swinging partners as the word spreads.
Harry0
Casanova, Drunk and Dogger of this Parish.
:borg: what a situation!
I think most people on here wouldnt like their nearest and dearest knowing!
Hope your "friend" has the decentcy to keep stum, i dont think everyone has the same feelings towards swinging and hence the fewer people know the better
Hoopefully it will be a storm in a tea cup for you and the threat of everyone knowing passes quickly
Dont worry xxx
I think most people on here wouldnt like their nearest and dearest knowing!
Hope your "friend" has the decentcy to keep stum, i dont think everyone has the same feelings towards swinging and hence the fewer people know the better
Hoopefully it will be a storm in a tea cup for you and the threat of everyone knowing passes quickly
Dont worry xxx
Why do people have to be so damn judgemental :evil:
Master of Sex
Guess it really is a test of a true friendship.....................
And a very brave step to take on your part...............
For that alone the least you deserve respect and regardless of what they think, for them to keep it confidential...........
Steve
And a very brave step to take on your part...............
For that alone the least you deserve respect and regardless of what they think, for them to keep it confidential...........
Steve
Sex God
Quote by sheffieldfun4two
Unfortunately, the woamn is a loud mouthed cow and no doubt will take delight in telling all, when now we would rather have kept it all quiet!
If you already knew this woman is a loud mouth, why did you bother telling her in the first place?
:doh: We've never told anyone about ourselves and don't envisage that we ever will. After all, we wouldn't discuss our everyday sex lives with friends so why would they need to know about swinging?
The vast majority of people do not see swinging in the same way that swingers do, so of course they will make judgements based on how they see it, not how you tell them it is
Tracy-Jayne
Close friends or not, the subject should have been broached in a more subtle form and judging the feedback, before commiting yourself.
Asking questions that relate to sex will soon get either positive answers or uneasy squirms and attempts to go off subject.
It is not rocket science to determine the persons thoughts before going further. Typical Mary Whitehouse type ??
Now it is out, you just have to hope that her distain of anything non "Victorian" will be too embarrasing for her to repeat. :scared:
Asking questions that relate to sex will soon get either positive answers or uneasy squirms and attempts to go off subject.
It is not rocket science to determine the persons thoughts before going further. Typical Mary Whitehouse type ??
Now it is out, you just have to hope that her distain of anything non "Victorian" will be too embarrasing for her to repeat. :scared:
No, my loves. I disagree with what everyone else has said. You did a brave thing and I applaud you for it. Our friends know all about what we do. We live in a teenie village with one pub that is the centre of the community and yes, they all know.
OK, there are times, like last night, when we walk in the door of the pub and there are 20 people in there and it is SILENT. They know that we know that they're talking about us. So what? When it comes down to it we all drink together and laugh together.
If a stranger walks in the pub, someone else in there will shout "Vix.. Put him down!"
Yes, we're lucky. You were unlucky. But my guess is that you will find people coming up and asking you the truth. Maybe curious to the point of annoyance, but you could take the opportuinity to tell it how it is. Maybe you'll find new allies.
I wish you all the very best and am proud that you have finally "come out".
Well donee. :love:
OK, there are times, like last night, when we walk in the door of the pub and there are 20 people in there and it is SILENT. They know that we know that they're talking about us. So what? When it comes down to it we all drink together and laugh together.
If a stranger walks in the pub, someone else in there will shout "Vix.. Put him down!"
Yes, we're lucky. You were unlucky. But my guess is that you will find people coming up and asking you the truth. Maybe curious to the point of annoyance, but you could take the opportuinity to tell it how it is. Maybe you'll find new allies.
I wish you all the very best and am proud that you have finally "come out".
Well donee. :love:
Quote by Scandal
We live in a teenie village with one pub that is the centre of the community and yes, they all know.
If a stranger walks in the pub, someone else in there will shout "Vix.. Put him down!"
A local pub for local people then?
Have they built the road out yet?
You got it spot on hun.
Think - the pub in American Weirwolf.
Sex God
SheffieldFun for two, whereabouts in Sheffield are you? Cos the news hasn't reached Firth Park yet
Bev & Chris xx
Bev & Chris xx
Quote by sheffieldfun4two
After 4 years of secrecy keeping our swnging undercover, we decided that we could tell one or two of our close, non swinging friends.
One couple whom we have been very close friends with for many years were the first we told over a few drinks one night. They were horrified to say the least, especially when M admitted that she had had sex with probably 30 guys!
The woman phoned us the next day calling M a whore and told her not to go anywhere near her husband!
Unfortunately, the woamn is a loud mouthed cow and no doubt will take delight in telling all, when now we would rather have kept it all quiet!
that reason alone whould of made me think twice about telling them.
Sorry to hear your mis fourtune. my Brothers found out i was swinging a few weeks ago. luckly they took it well. but has now but me in an arkward situiation. they have some how found out what my User name is on here. so i'm a little bit more carefull what i write about. buts fizz out of the drink when you think your beening watched!
JGL
Sex God
JGL it wouldn't have been hard for them to work out your username, it's your initials innit? Can't you change it to somat they won't recognise?
Bev
xx
Bev
xx
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JGL it wouldn't have been hard for them to work out your username, it's your initials innit? Can't you change it to somat they won't recognise?
Bev
xx
Yep. but i'm not really called JGL around my family!!!!!!!! they normaly use my real name!!
Plus most of my other nicknames go by ACidrain. so i would of thought they would looked for that.
Looks like i'm gonnahave to ask mark for another favour and get my name changed (again!!!)
JGL
Quote by sheffieldfun4two
After 4 years of secrecy keeping our swnging undercover, we decided that we could tell one or two of our close, non swinging friends.
One couple whom we have been very close friends with for many years were the first we told over a few drinks one night. They were horrified to say the least, especially when M admitted that she had had sex with probably 30 guys!
The woman phoned us the next day calling M a whore and told her not to go anywhere near her husband!
Unfortunately, the woamn is a loud mouthed cow and no doubt will take delight in telling all, when now we would rather have kept it all quiet!
If she does start blabbing, don't deny it, just tell everone that it was her and her husband that got you into it in the first place. :twisted:
Sex God
:lol: :lol: Love it, Edin
Bev
xx
Sexlightened
I agree with EDIN BBW - when people start rumours at work about me for example (malicios or fun) I go along with them, admit, even embellish them a bit, people soon lose interest then. Also some people are only outraged because secretly they like the idea but do not have the gumption the actually go through with it!
If she does start blabbing, don't deny it, just tell everone that it was her and her husband that got you into it in the first place. :twisted:
Quote by Edin BBW
After 4 years of secrecy keeping our swnging undercover, we decided that we could tell one or two of our close, non swinging friends.
One couple whom we have been very close friends with for many years were the first we told over a few drinks one night. They were horrified to say the least, especially when M admitted that she had had sex with probably 30 guys!
The woman phoned us the next day calling M a whore and told her not to go anywhere near her husband!
Unfortunately, the woamn is a loud mouthed cow and no doubt will take delight in telling all, when now we would rather have kept it all quiet!
If she does start blabbing, don't deny it, just tell everone that it was her and her husband that got you into it in the first place. :twisted:
A friend of my sisters found out about me and greets me with 'Hiya swinger' whenever he sees me, especially when there are a lot of people around. I just brazen it out and shout back 'hey don't knock it till you've tried it!' Soon shut him up, wasn't so funny for him as if I had curled up blushing and cringing!
Sex God
Or you could say that you turned them down
It's so tempting, I know, to want to share what you're up to. I've often been on the verge of saying something at work - my colleagues are very broad-minded and mostly funny guys. But I hold back 'cos a bit unsure. Someone once let out that I'd used an on-line dating agency to find fellas and it was reported to my line manager, who felt it was 'inappropriate' to share this information with my colleagues. Some people need to catch up with the times, I think!
Quote by sheffieldfun4two
After 4 years of secrecy keeping our swnging undercover, we decided that we could tell one or two of our close, non swinging friends.
One couple whom we have been very close friends with for many years were the first we told over a few drinks one night. They were horrified to say the least, especially when M admitted that she had had sex with probably 30 guys!
The woman phoned us the next day calling M a whore and told her not to go anywhere near her husband!
Unfortunately, the woamn is a loud mouthed cow and no doubt will take delight in telling all, when now we would rather have kept it all quiet!
WHat a fecking bitch even if she doesnt undrstand she could at least be a bit mroe accepting I think if she was truly your friend she would have behaved differently!
Maybe its better in a way to know what she is really like! Fuck them as long as youre happy, youve done nothing wrong only mistake youve made here is thinking she was a true friend!
Weve thought of telling a couple of very close friends about our swinging, but have decided never to do so.
Were not brave enough and we are shit scared of the possible consequences.
We think you are very brave to do what you did, and we are so sorry it backfired on you.
I suppose its a typical example of the narrow mindedness of the people in the 'real world', and a timely reminder that we are all still just perverts to many folks out there.
What a shame..................they know not what they are missing.
The Muttley's xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Were not brave enough and we are shit scared of the possible consequences.
We think you are very brave to do what you did, and we are so sorry it backfired on you.
I suppose its a typical example of the narrow mindedness of the people in the 'real world', and a timely reminder that we are all still just perverts to many folks out there.
What a shame..................they know not what they are missing.
The Muttley's xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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On a related note, has anyone ever been put off from showing face pics in ads and profiles for fear of being recognised? .
In two possible areas.
1/ With replies to ad's where they could be fakes and simply looking for people to recognise and maybe blackmail.
2/ Pic collectors who then plaster them all over the Net.
Genuine ad's and people should respect your privacy.
