I know a girl who is looking for the whole relationship thing. The think is, unknown to her, I'm in a relationship and only looking for NSA sex.
I really dont want to lie to her but good she make it hard. Shes a really good looking girl but thats as far as it goes with me. How do I tell her?
If honesty come that hard to u that u have to put up a post to ask others how to do it i'd hang up ya swinging boots right now m8 lol
Uh oh..............
Watch out for some strong opinions
Just open your mouth and let random words spill out. Or better still, just be honest! :confused:
cheating heaven ?
offer her M+F+F
she might buy it
swinging is about good honest fun and respect to others, if think ur that kind of person then u tell her u have a partner and only after sex, if ur just here for the shag and don't care about anything but ur dick just get on with it, its simple really u don't need us 2 tell u that
Better still - don't tell her. Stay away. You want one thing - she wants something else you can't give.
Simple really!
what is the matter with people today.
Be open and honest with her, either call her, or next time you are together sit down and talk to each other
looks like I have opend a can of worms here.
My first post came out a bit wrong really so I'll try again, 2nd time lucky. For a start I only met said girl through a friend the other week, and have seen her once since then, and she knew that I had 'someone at home'. Which I have not denied although nothing more than passing comments about it. She dont know/has not asked/I have not told her that I'm very happy with things on that front.
So basically I guess she wants to clear the way for her and get together. I have already made moves to distance myself form her as 1 I dont want want she wants and 2 I dont want to offend her by saying no.
And yes I do care about peoples feelings. I could play field most weekends with my mates and 'score' making up stories to woman and misleading them but I'm not in to that hence why I'm here!
I've missed out on more chances of a good time from being honest and open, but dont regret a single one of them.
Have respect for her. Tell her you find her attractive and want to be close with her but you are not looking for love and a relationship. Then the ball is in her court and she can make an informed decision.
I'm a married man, and I know a lot of men get their end away pretending to be single or coming out with the "my wife doesnt understand me" crap.
My wife understands me all too well. LOL
Only last night someone I had been talking to for a long time decided they couldnt go down that road with me because although they wanted to be close to me they admitted they wanted more and I cannot give that to them. My friendship is there for anyone and my body is available to be borrowed, my time is there for anyone - but I cant give my heart, it already belongs to someone, and I'm not going to disrespect my wife, or a potential lover by pretending otherwise.
Be honest. She deserves it.
Thats a great take on things Andy well said .
Mate, save yourself, and her a lot of grief and heartache, take her to one side and just be upfront with her. its gonna hurt a little at first, but better than dragging it out.
imho
Ah the old boost to the male ego dilema eh??
Bigdewi is right. When they hit on you like that, it usually goes very badly wrong.
:shock: You met her a week ago, have seen her twice, and you think she is after a relationship with you?
I think the answer to your problem would be an ego reduction!
lhk
Kat
IMHO never a good idea to offer what you can't give. Offer what you can give in truth. If it's not acceptable then it saves a lot of hurt later.
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tell this girl the truth and if need be let her walk away.
the last thing you need is trouble, i know from past experience and the divorce :small-print:
MM
we say tell the lass the truth and then walk away no matter what her reaction talking from experience , keep her as a friend by all means if she is willing for just friendship but nothing more.
Matt was n roughtly the same situation a year and a half ago and told her that being friends with nsa was ok but he wasnt going to move to relationship and leave crysal , the lass seemed t go along wth t and when matt moved back up north as the job he was on was over everything went tts up , so far he's been accused of and soposadly she lost 3 babes that were hs (even tho all these pregnances started 6 mnths after he came back up north)
heaysyandck
oh and if one of them surgests it .. dont accept the lets all live together either it fucks with ur head bigtime even having it surgested :glares at crystal:
matt
, hope she comes out of this unhurt 
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