Is there place for the single guys ?

So listening to a podcasts as I came into work today. And the question was asked is there room for single guys or is it just couples?

From our prospective there is room for everyone. Especially the single guys but I think a lot join and believe it will be a non stop fuck fest and women will drop their pants for anyone.

Send a cock pick tell us what u want and boom mission accomplished.

In fact nothing could be further from the truth. The ideal first message for us would consist of.

Introduction to you, about you, face pic (real age) even things like availability. We need to vibe with you. A big hint of what we are looking is on our profile do your homework.

If we like the message and check your profile and it’s a blank page we won’t have nothing to work back with when we reply.

If we were looking for a quick fuck that would be easy and people will be lost in the numbers but for us and other couples we have spoken with it’s quality over quantity.

This might be my personal experiences. What’s the view of other couples? What’s the view of single guys/women?

We certainly think there is place for decent respectful single guys, if they want to send a cock pic ... they probably arent going to do well, if they want to interact and be decent human beings then they do stand a chance

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So listening to a podcasts as I came into work today. And the question was asked is there room for single guys or is it just couples?

From our prospective there is room for everyone. Especially the single guys but I think a lot join and believe it will be a non stop fuck fest and women will drop their pants for anyone.

Send a cock pick tell us what u want and boom mission accomplished.

In fact nothing could be further from the truth. The ideal first message for us would consist of.

Introduction to you, about you, face pic (real age) even things like availability. We need to vibe with you. A big hint of what we are looking is on our profile do your homework.

If we like the message and check your profile and it’s a blank page we won’t have nothing to work back with when we reply.

If we were looking for a quick fuck that would be easy and people will be lost in the numbers but for us and other couples we have spoken with it’s quality over quantity.

This might be my personal experiences. What’s the view of other couples? What’s the view of single guys/women?

Says it all. Lots of couples are ONLY seeking single guys but not just ANY single guys! It's about finding likeminded people and it's really no different from the manner in which people make friends in the real world. A lot of guys here seem to think that indiscriminate filth is the order of the day, regardless of what account profiles say. They ignore what's written and send their gross cock pics and disgusting messages nonetheless. These guys are the ones who make life so much more difficult for the ordinary, decent, respectful men here which so many couples are seeking.

Single guys are only guys that haven't met their mrs/mr/they right.

I started on here as a couple,long ago in fact it was that long ago,everything was in Black and white. 😁.

Then the relationship went awol and I was a single guy, but had various relationships which ALL came from this site.

Then 8 years ago I was a single guy and met the love of my life on here.

Now happily married and yep we have a couple's profile on here.

So the answer to the question is a massive YES.

Single people make this site just as much as couples,as long as they have humour,manners the ability to laugh at themselves and not take this site seriously and to put in what you expect to get out of it.

Congratulations woohoo on finding your happily ever after in here.

I agree we love chatting and meeting singles (the ones who figured out it’s not a brothal).

Did you find it hard work here as a single? There are so many good guys on here we don’t tar them all with the same brush.

To be perfectly honest I didn't really class myself as a single guy,in my eyes I was just another member of this community who used here to have a laugh and have a bit of a banter.

If I got lucky with a couple or a single female then that was a bonus,but it wasn't the reason I stayed,I did that because by then I had made "friends: and realised that I had to not take what was said seriously but instead to laugh off the rejections etc and get on with having a laugh.

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To be perfectly honest I didn't really class myself as a single guy,in my eyes I was just another member of this community who used here to have a laugh and have a bit of a banter.

If I got lucky with a couple or a single female then that was a bonus,but it wasn't the reason I stayed,I did that because by then I had made "friends: and realised that I had to not take what was said seriously but instead to laugh off the rejections etc and get on with having a laugh.

That is a great outlook we have made some fantastic friends on here. It’s crazy how time flies and u think how long you have been talking to everyone.

I've been here forever and only ever had one meet. I don't send daft messages and try to connect on the level above the primal urge, but rarely get replies let alone an offer.

Not meant to sound poor me/violins - just my take as a single guy.

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I've been here forever and only ever had one meet. I don't send daft messages and try to connect on the level above the primal urge, but rarely get replies let alone an offer.

Not meant to sound poor me/violins - just my take as a single guy.

First of all.

Your profile very honestly states that you are married so technically your an attached guy on a single male profile.

Loads of singles and indeed couples avoid the married person for various reasons, although some people do meet them,they are very few.

Personally I'd give you brownie points for being honest from the start so well done there.

You have been here long enough to have realised that this is a community not a quick "shag" site.

But unfortunately the majority joining now think the opposite.

After 2 minutes they are moaning that even after bombarding loads of profiles with pictures of their appendage all taken from different angles,no one wants to travel 100 miles and "shag" their brains out.

Its a sad fact that they think the above, rather than taking time to actually join the community, go to socials and join in with the banter in chat.

You only have to look at the new meets to see that the above is true.

Even if there was a massive banner stating that " unless you are a genuine swinger,then don't join this site" people would still think "feck it il definitely get a shag here:

There is always room in any community for nice and honest singles in my opinion.

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I've been here forever and only ever had one meet. I don't send daft messages and try to connect on the level above the primal urge, but rarely get replies let alone an offer.

Not meant to sound poor me/violins - just my take as a single guy.

We have no problem meeting guys who are attached because we realise that love and sex can be very different things depending on the circumstances. We get lots of guys contacting us and the first thing we do is to read their profiles, check their interests etc. If those are not compatible with what we want, that's the end of it. That's not an insult or judgement of the people concerned, just a choice we make based upon our values and preferences. Single guys vastly outnumber everyone else here and that's the problem you face. Having said that, the vast majority of them make little or no effort with their profiles or even the messages they send couples likes us. Yes it does take time. Yes it is hard. Yes we might look at you and think you're ideal except too far away or a smoker for example. Be yourself, be honest and see what happens but these things take time. Think about good friends. How long does it take to make them? For many people here this ISN'T just about easy sex after a couple of drinks/meetings. It's about making a connection, building friendships and creating the sort of trust which will endure more than 24 hours.

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We have no problem meeting guys who are attached because we realise that love and sex can be very different things depending on the circumstances. We get lots of guys contacting us and the first thing we do is to read their profiles, check their interests etc. If those are not compatible with what we want, that's the end of it. That's not an insult or judgement of the people concerned, just a choice we make based upon our values and preferences. Single guys vastly outnumber everyone else here and that's the problem you face. Having said that, the vast majority of them make little or no effort with their profiles or even the messages they send couples likes us. Yes it does take time. Yes it is hard. Yes we might look at you and think you're ideal except too far away or a smoker for example. Be yourself, be honest and see what happens but these things take time. Think about good friends. How long does it take to make them? For many people here this ISN'T just about easy sex after a couple of drinks/meetings. It's about making a connection, building friendships and creating the sort of trust which will endure more than 24 hours.

Thanks for the insight! :-)

I have been here for a bit but only active for the last couple of years. Its like most things you only get out what you put in, so a bit of effort is required. Although I have not managed to meet anyone yet I have chatted to a few single ladies/couples. Its a great place to meet people from all walks of life and can be an eye opener too if you have a led a bit of a sheltered life. There are a lot of single guys on here so people are spoilt for choice, this is why if you are single you need to stick out from the crowd. I can see why single guys get frustrated but a bit off effort and respect go a long way😊

I was a couple on sites and clubs.. was very stressful with disrespectful guys but now stressful being on the other side as I get ignored alot

has anyone got the same feeling as me ? . single guys of a certain age have very little chance of a meet on here even if your prepared to bend over backwards to try & get a meet . anyone who,s over the age of 60 cant seem to get a meet at any price & have very little chance of a meet with a couple or single woman. is it a waste of your time being on here & even if you make contact it,s always a "no" or a let down . i,m sure that there are "rare" exceptions to my question but i think overall it may well be in my favour .

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has anyone got the same feeling as me ? . single guys of a certain age have very little chance of a meet on here even if your prepared to bend over backwards to try & get a meet . anyone who,s over the age of 60 cant seem to get a meet at any price & have very little chance of a meet with a couple or single woman. is it a waste of your time being on here & even if you make contact it,s always a "no" or a let down . i,m sure that there are "rare" exceptions to my question but i think overall it may well be in my favour .

See my posts above re your questions.

But I will reiterate one point.

SH is like life, there are no guarantees of success.

woo hoo have you had any meets on here ? . if so how many ? .

As a single guys years ago I had lots of meets as I went to the Socials that were organised on a regular basis.

Id say at least one social a month for a good 5 or 6 years.

I didn't take a note of how many that was, I was here to have a laugh and have fun not to keep a running total.

Then I met my Mrs on here a little over 8 years ago and believe it or not, is a lot younger than myself and we still have meets together with other local verified couples.

Age is an issue Yes, but not a barrier than can't be overcome with perseverance and a lot of luck.

it seems a barrier on here . like i said that there will be "rareties"on here but overall i think it,s a complete waste of time for anyone our age .😢

You joined here in your late 40's so it's took you over 19 years to discover this site is not for you it seems.

It must have got you something over those years or you wouldn't still be here.

As I've said before,being a member here does not guarantee a meet,no matter what you're age etc.

You have to work at it.

Good luck anyways

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it seems a barrier on here . like i said that there will be "rareties"on here but overall i think it,s a complete waste of time for anyone our age .😢

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You joined here in your late 40's so it's took you over 19 years to discover this site is not for you it seems.

It must have got you something over those years or you wouldn't still be here.

As I've said before,being a member here does not guarantee a meet,no matter what you're age etc.

You have to work at it.

Good luck anyways

Hi folks,

I too have only had 1 meet, joined only a little while back and don’t often get the chance to get to the chat rooms, but honestly as it’s been said that’s life. Attitude, care, respect effort and laughter mean that people will be more likely to engage.

Keep positive and try the socials, it may be worth it just for the friendships and chats.

Keep positive and be your best person, the genuine one. I have rarely met anyone who didn’t have something special about them.

Gus

for starters iv,e not been on this site 19yrs & it,s not took that long before i found out it,s a waste of time on here as iv,e posted on here before .

I have been on too weeks and realised that my BI side is better used on another app . Where meets are easier to arrange . Ultimately I came on here to find a lady but not sure that will work for me . Nice to chat to people but that dosnt satisfy me sexually. I will keep going

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I have been on too weeks and realised that my BI side is better used on another app . Where meets are easier to arrange . Ultimately I came on here to find a lady but not sure that will work for me . Nice to chat to people but that dosnt satisfy me sexually. I will keep going

Hopefully you find what your looking for so many looking for different things

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Hopefully you find what your looking for so many looking for different things

Must admit I am not hung up about finding the perfect thing and if it dosent happen I have tried

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Must admit I am not hung up about finding the perfect thing and if it doesn't happen I have tried

Every member has an info panel on their profile that anyone can see, and yours states joined 8 days ago, so not entirely 2 weeks 😉 but when you joined, is not the issue here.

I even have an info panel to, and my joining dates states 18 years ago, every member has an info panel, which gives you how long they have been members here ,their relationship status etc

So....

Do you have what the females on this site are looking for would be my first question?

Do you stand out to them for any particular reason?

You have got to understand that, on this site as on other swinging sites and indeed dating sites, the ratio of single men to single or even attached females is astronomical.

This site as other sites of its nature does not and cannot guarantee a meet, its up to the other members who they want to meet, just as you have a choice, who you want to meet.

Dating sites which there are hundreds out there and which their members pay a lot for don't even guarantee a date.

A lot of new members see the word "SWINGING" and think I will definitely get sex here, as swingers shag anyone at the drop of a hat, which is totally wrong and the genuine swingers will take exception to anyone with that attitude.

Treat every one with respect, even if they knock you back, brush yourself off and move on with dignity and your head held high.

I think you will find that the majority of people on this site do not shag any one and anywhere, they make a connection with people that stand out to them, for whatever reason, wither it be Good looks, big appendage, six pack, sense of humour, good manners, big boobs etc.

I have also spoken to people on other apps to, who are also trying to find a lady but all they find is scammers and fake profiles, so beware of those apps.

And in regards to this site, any profiles you think may be not as they seem, please use the report profile tab which is on every profile and give your reasons why you think they are "fake"

We do take action against any that are reported

Double check and then check again before you jump into any conversation or meets etc, always take care and good luck.

As the old saying goes.

"If it looks too good to be true then it's probably false"

it,s a waste of time being a single guy if your over a certain age wether or not you have one like johnny holmes .

My experience here has spanned three main periods of activity about 8 or so years apart. First time around, nothing. The second time around (so early 40s), I managed three meets of different flavours within a few months of both one another but also being active.

This third time around, I've been active again for a little over a week and have had conversations but no meets. it has only been about a week since I've been back, though. I feel it's definitely a slow burner, but it's as others have said many couples and females have both their pick of potential partners but are also often bombarded.

Yes, there are other sites - one, in particular, has more active chatrooms with seemingly more action - but getting an actual meet is painful/ridiculously hard. This site, in my opinion, is more fit for purpose for the real-life meet aspect of this scene.

I find a bit of common courtesy, non-pushing non-filthy messaging gets you into a conversation (I'm not suggesting anyone here has been that!). The chatroom can also be a good way to spread the word. Or at least that's worked for me thus far.

This place is like lots of other "clubs" places.

For example.

If you join a gym.

Just by joining, does not guarantee an amazing body,you have to work at it and the older/unfitter you are,the harder you will have to work.

The amount of times I've heard.

"I do 1000 setups a day for the last week but I still don't have a six pack".

Its not just working out that gets you a "six pack" it's also to do with diet and your body fat ratio.

Everybody has a basic six pack it's just the body fat that hides it.

So in other words.

Just by being here does not guarantee a meet, you have to work at it and depending on what you have to work with,will give different variations of success.

Humour,good manners,determination and the ability to take lots of rejections are some of the ways to get on as part of this site and also in getting through this short life we all have.

Good luck everyone.

I can completely sympathise with the frustration around being bombarded by unwanted messages (I am a single fem on the site afterall and I've also been part of a couple profile) but I don't think the site auto-blocking any particular group of people from anyone would be particularly helpful and would cause other problems -many couples on here ARE looking for "singletons" and probably wouldn't appreciate that first point of contact being auto-blocked. Each profile has the means to control who can contact them, by type of profile as well as by blocking other specific profiles. There are all kinds of people on here for all kinds of reasons and the site aims to be as inclusive as possible. Anyone is welcome to create their own chat room (subject to the standard rules around this) and can easily put passwords on this to control who has access. Admin do really try to listen to feedback and make improvements as they seem appropriate, but due to the complexities of running a site like this and variety of people and their preferences..t's never going to be perfect for everyone. I guess we just have to keep having these types of conversations and try to meet each other in the middle. ... we're all human and the one thing we all want out of this is fun in one way or another. 😀